Questions for male subs/ dominant women about age preference

[ki****]

I am more aggressive in finding a Domme that is sth same age or older but I'm already old so I will take whatever I can get. It is nice to find a Domme younger, but most of them are professional. I'm not looking for that anymore.

[ey****]

3 hours ago, liliththedivine said:

Male subs, when looking for a domme, do you specifically look for someone who is older than you?

No.

Although.  I'm 43.  So because of that it's totally logically for someone with experience to be either side of my age.

3 hours ago, liliththedivine said:

Do you have an age limit?

Going upwards.  I've played with ladies who are in their sixties. 

Going downwards.  I tend to take 25 as being a kinda low point.  For assorted reasons.  By admission there have been exceptions - a couple of 22 year olds.  But in one case on was with a mentor and was playing with me as part of being mentored, that she got an experienced sub who could help with honest feedback and be helpful rather than trying to manipulate her naivety - in another, I already knew she had sufficient experience and knew what she was doing.  

[li****]

1 hour ago, GneissBoy said:

Not sure when a woman might typically discover she’s a domme, but I don’t feel like I’ve known alot of young women who are. Definitely was not a popular thing in college where I went, but an overwhelming amount of horny guys that want it 🤣

Probably not before 25-30 years old. There are many social and cultural ***s that prevent us from exploring that part of ourselves.

[he****]

I go for all ages. But I appreciate the different dynamics across different ages.

[Deleted Member]

I'm just not convinced many women in their low 20s would make good dommes not that I wouldn't give one a shot maybe older usually better - male with strong sub lean

[Do****]

2 hours ago, d_guglieme said:

I don't have a specific age limit. But, I tend to see "half +7" (half of the older party's age, +7) as more than reasonable.

Too much of a gap would make communication with basic reference points difficult.

I can relate to that. I prefer younger men as I have a fairly young mindset myself, but the age limit is the question. That equation would put mine at 33. I do feel that’s probably my limit. But late thirties upwards more comfortable. It feels to me like submissive men mostly want older women. And I can relate to the confidence growing. Although those in their 20s and 30s can feel confidence in themselves, 40s upwards brings a whole net confidence and perspective on life and myself.

[Ge****]

id like a dom who was older but i wouldnt mind younger

[Deleted Member]

I’m 21 and all of my previous experience, I’ve always had to top and while I like it, I also want to try being bottom and I think for that I would either want to be topped by someone much older than me, definitely over 10 years older because I really find that a very appealing gap for me as a bottom. I’ve never been there but in my mind that’s how it feels.
In the end I just wanna be topped and the age is not something I care for but I think it’s a major turn on if it’s like that.

[jerryx]

Most people are younger than me, so …

[Se****]

No age is just a number!

[Ju****]

It probably has to do with the fact that there are far fewer dommes, especially on here, who are younger. The number of younger sub guys far outweighs the number of younger dommes. Just my two cents

[Do****]

1 hour ago, TristanB225 said:

It probably has to do with the fact that there are far fewer dommes, especially on here, who are younger. The number of younger sub guys far outweighs the number of younger dommes. Just my two cents

Tbh the number of older subs far outweighs the no of older Dommes. There’s just not enough Dommes 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Ju****]

100%

[4y****]

I don’t believe had any factor it was mostly personality and combined similar interest.

[Deleted Member]

I like older woman in general for me it just feels right but it’s also ironic I’m more of a sub

[ey****]

I think on numbers the thing in general is that men *tend* to go towards those they see as being "the finished product" whilst often themselves maybe being curious or inexperienced - so they will kinda go for someone in the hope they will take some or all of the roles of Domme, partner, mentor, teacher - and all too often a lot of ladies see this as being uneven distribution, and a lot of work.  

There are, sadly, a lot of Dommes who most certainly exist but are less visible, especially online, for that reason.  

I say this without throwing shade at men - but it's often not those who are submissive that complain the loudest; but those who are curious and wanting to try.  They often fail to grasp or demonstrate what they need to bring to the relationship. 

I say this also as someone who often has encountered people (both online and in general life) where it's like, hot damn I would absolutely love to do something with you - but myself cannot see how I can benefit that particular person.   This doesn't mean there's a shortage, just that I have the awareness that I'm unlikely to be what they're looking for or of interest

 

[Di****]

I don't mind an age gap, what's important is that we vibe and match sexually. I don't have much experience as a sub tho, haven't found the right person yet

[goon2yu]

I'll have to agree with many of the posters here that stated age is just a number. Unless players are seeking a LTR, placing an arbitrary number on who's proficient for BDSM is a limitation. Back when I was single, many of my Dommes were 10 to 20 years older. I would have never developed a better skillset and competency as a submissive if I only associated with those in my own age range.  Age is actually meaningless, and a limitation to avoid older more experienced partitioners. I may be mistaken, but it's possible some use age to define who they may be attractive to. There's also a process of growth in this journey that may be arrested if Doms/subs never seek experienced players.  Experience matters, a lot.

[sa****]

8 I am very interested in an older woman that is a good teacher and I'll have to get together with her and I'll be able to get her to be thinking about the most important things that she can do to help her with a good job and she is so happy to be able to be a good time for you and your friends are going to get a good time for you and your heart and your sub slave is so good to be a fkng person I will be there for a little while but I'm going to be working on my mind and I'll try to be there for the most recent one I have to be thinking about it right now and I'll be able to be thinking of you and your heart and I will be able to be a good person and I'll try to do whatever you want me to do for you

[MrRocha_MissSummer]

Legal Age is not an issue. Maturity is

[Ro****]

Age is a long distant secondary consideration to connection. My Domme is significantly younger than me. Age is not a concern for either of us. I'm quite protective by nature, and I think she finds that comforting and safe - which allows her to grow and explore more confidently.

[ma****]

Well, im 19 so any dom is going to be older. That said I love age gaps. I prefer a dom in her late 30 to late 40s

[homuhomu]

personally prefer younger most of the time

[ey****]

13 hours ago, SapphireNight said:

If a woman was a man's first Goddess, will he always feel something for her, even after the bond is broken ???

it depends.  

Like, ultimately, there was a reason it ended.  And folk respond to relationships ending in different ways.   

For me, yes, there is someone I was in a D/s relationship with for two years ago who I am still somewhat fond of and glad to see she is doing well.   But, then for example there's things I can look back on I can be glad she spent the time on with me and appreciate her efforts.  I can look at it without bitterness or entitlement.

I am, sadly, aware of some guys who do look back on failed relationships with bitterness or entitlement and then, of course, those where actually they were wronged a bit.  

[FE****]

@SapphireNight and @Swagga1 I have removed your exchange.  Take it private and please keep the replies here related to the OP.