Age gaps

[pa****]

What is your take on age gaps and what do you like/dislike about them? (10+ years)
Especially when one person is under 25. Would love to hear especially from ladies that prefer guys younger than them.

One rule - no saying "if its 2 consenting adults then do whatever you want" or something along those lines.

[Ch****]

I don't have a problem with it at all and I'm 34, I literally just lost a very great person because of our age gap and his family didn't agree, my feelings are very hurt behind it because I really liked him and definitely wanted to be with him in the future but now I don't even have that chance.

[De****]

I’m into age gaps and prefer older men. I don’t find men younger than me I anyway attractive and im sure that has to do with the type of dynamic is prefer, 24/7 TPE DD/lg. I couldn’t be involved in that kind of submission with someone who has less life experience than me. Personally, I find it bizarre that people get so worried about the age other people are dating. As you says the rule was that I can’t elaborate on why I thinks bizarre people get so upset about age gaps, I’ll keep the rest to myself.

[Ca****]

For me, it's about the connection. I have my own set of personal preferences. Sometimes the heart wants what the heart wants

[ki****]

If you're not going to be long term partners then have fun with them.

[DeviantInside]

Not female but my perspective. I have had partners 19 years older and 17 younger. So for me it was never about age and I never really thought about age. My brain is not good at time or dates or age (I forget my own age frequently. It was all about connection.

But that’s me.

If you are solely going for someone significantly younger it can be perceived (or actually be) quite predatory. There is an imbalance in terms of experience and probably other areas (***, stability, property, freedom etc). That’s why there are laws about certain power imbalances. (Dr/teacher/therapist etc). So a lot depends on where those gaps are, at what age (66 to 56 is vastly different to 26 and 16). There is a lot of nuance.

[Dr****]

the frontal lobe is typically fully developed around age 25, with the prefrontal cortex—a key part of the frontal lobe responsible for executive functions—finishing its maturation around this time. This development is crucial for higher-level cognitive skills such as judgment, long-term planning, impulse control, and rational decision-making.

I think a lot of people can be taken advantage of at this age especially by someone 10 years older. Its a tight line to walk.

[Eb****]

Perks: mature partner
Cons: the power imbalance and the intentions of going after a young partner thinking they’re easy to manipulate or mold

[ki****]

It’s beauty looks on young people I just love

[Ch****]

My comments keep getting deleted

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12 minutes ago, Chocolate34 said:

My comments keep getting deleted

No they don't, you just need to wait for them to be approved

[FE****]

12 minutes ago, Chocolate34 said:

My comments keep getting deleted

No it didn't.  As a reminder to all; every post and comment on the Kink Academy has to be pre-approved (app store rules).  Please don't post the same thing over and over again just because your comment doesn't appear straight away.  

[YegBiBtm721]

I prefer a woman younger than myself. I don't see a huge issue but anyone under 30, I don't think would be ideal.

[Deleted Member]

In my opinion, it boils down to minding your own business if the person is 18+. Everyone has an opinion and the day everyone on this planet agrees on something is the day that world peace brings its ass down to earth. I’m 20, i definitely have an attraction to older men..nothing wrong with it..I mean it’s a human being, I like them the same I would another 20-25 year old.
I recently had an experience where th guy was just to weirded out because he was worried about others opinions. So it definitely isn’t for the weak minded, you gotta be willing to block out other peoples opinions or you’re not gonna be happy.

[Al****]

Im 46, I'm use to love older women when I was younger, now I like younger women. But I do believe older men shouldn't get in serious relationships with younger women unless they really have there best intentions in mind or unless u have a understanding of whats the relationship between the 2

[La****]

I understand the younger people appeal as they could be looking and act so cute and bubbly. But I genuinely find it hard to relate to them bcs of the distinct difference in life experiences and life point of view.
My age limit is 21 for the younger people, yet—a lot of times, I see it as still too young. They’re just entering adulthood while I’ve been living it for quite while. I cannot be with someone I can’t talk to so I’ve been looking for anyone with narrower age gap if they’re younger, and wider age gap if they’re older.

[ki****]

I focus more on connection, intelligence, depth, maturity. Those things are far superior to me. So either direction, younger or older is fine with me as long as we're on the same wavelength. 

[sa****]

I personally think anyone in their thirties or older, going for somebody in their ***s or very early twenties is predatory.

I will die on this hill.😂

[Tw****]

I don't think the age always matter. I have been with younger people who have experienced more in life that are far more mature than some of the older people I've been with tbh.

[sa****]

To add to my last comment, I think the appropriateness of age gaps depend on where people are at in their life journey and their level of emotional maturity. Most people under 25 have not yet had enough life experience nor developed the emotional maturity necessary to discern what is truly right for them. And that is why I think it is predatory to persue them when you’re over thirty.

I recently had a short conversation with a 26/m and told him very kindly that I do not date more than 7 years younger than me. But thats just a preference of mine. I’m looking for more emotionally mature men. And I think the beat place to look is within my own age bracket.

[Ty****]

Im 38.. I recently was with a 19 yr old ..I myself dont even feel 38 but when its on paper yea it seems extreme .. but even when I was a ***ager i was always attracted to guys in their 30s and 40s.. the idea that one party is more experienced and teaching the other and also tsking care of them (making sure they are comfortable and accepting of te experience) is hot ..

[scorpiomaster]

Younger submissives have more stamina and endurance for longer play sessions, 4 hours or more.

[Ca****]

After my first cuckold relationship ended , my first mistress was older than me, it was really good and lasted over a year before I found a new gf , she was 59 and I was 27 .

[Deleted Member]

I tend to get on a lot better with younger men, although I don't pursue them. The energy and openness appeals to me. And generally less status-obsessed.

The biggest gap was 21 years with a FWB (49/28). It was brilliant because he was. But I'd avoid such a large gap these days. 10 years is fine, I don't think there's an imbalance there.

[Sm****]

My current play partner is 35 im 52. Younger Doms match my energy more.
Older ones are not so fighty or Playful...I find.