Suggestive but classy” means creating intrigue or flirtation without being explicit or crude.

[ce****]

• Instead of “I’m into wild nights,” you might say “I love chemistry that keeps you guessing.”
• Or instead of “Tell me your kinks,” you could say “I’m fascinated by what draws people in — what’s your favorite kind of spark?”

What do you think?

[mi****]

Great suggestions. Thank you for sharing

[or****]

Love it. The art of clever conversation is a thing of the past.

[Ad****]

I believe that is something very classy and refined but unfortunately today’s women don’t seem to like that anymore. You try as a man and relay a flirty, classy, refined message and you either get ignored or you get something in the lines of “hi” or “where did you copy that from” 🙄. But if we as men were to send back the same reply you would get a whole lot of cr*p about it. Conclusion: women this days have no idea how to flirt with class and refinement 🤷‍♂️

[Ea****]

Yeah no people are just like "lollame" if you talk like that in my experience

[olderkinkyguy]

Great insight

[ey****]

so instead of saying one thing, you put into chatgpt to make an alternative suggestion.  Got it  

[my****]

I’m fascinated by what draws people in is not the same as tell me your kinks. They won’t result in the same answer.

Something like what were you doing the last time you could not help but to touch yourself?

[AmandaMonsterLady]

I think this should be required reading. Being crude is a turn off. Yeah. This is a kink topic social media. That doesn’t mean you have to have no class.

[Exousis]

Sounds like AI.

[ey****]

1 hour ago, eyemblacksheep said:

so instead of saying one thing, you put into chatgpt to make an alternative suggestion.  Got it  

though, arguably. I'm not being fair.  I think so long as people check the outputs there could be benefits to using something like gpt to help compose messages in the vibe you want to give off.  Just, y'know, remember it's a tool with limitations. 

[ey****]

8 minutes ago, Exousis said:

Sounds like AI.

it is

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2 hours ago, AdventurousSoul78 said:

I believe that is something very classy and refined but unfortunately today’s women don’t seem to like that anymore. You try as a man and relay a flirty, classy, refined message and you either get ignored or you get something in the lines of “hi” or “where did you copy that from” 🙄. But if we as men were to send back the same reply you would get a whole lot of cr*p about it. Conclusion: women this days have no idea how to flirt with class and refinement 🤷‍♂️

The OP didn't mention gender...

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1 hour ago, mythicalman said:

I’m fascinated by what draws people in is not the same as tell me your kinks. They won’t result in the same answer.

Something like what were you doing the last time you could not help but to touch yourself?

Absolutely. I wouldn't really know how to answer the question "what's your fave kind of spark". Straightforward not crude works for me rather than word salad.

[Kf****]

I’m completely into a classy, redefined, respectful first message and I respond to every single one of them however it’s very few and far between.

[Lu****]

Tell me about your kinks? And the alternative is “I’m fascinated by what draws people in….” That’s a very AI way of framing a question.
While I appreciate a more classy direction of conversation, there is a balance between classy, crude, and personable.
“I love chemistry that keeps you guessing…” that’s like booktok lines. Something I’d like to read in a novel not necessarily interaction I’d feel genuine coming from another human. Then again, looking for realness in a place like this is also far fetched.
AI generated messages or starter convo lines are good starting points, and I appreciate the thought of staying classy. Because I get enough crude intros lol. I guess it comes down to this idea of perception. How one intent to be perceived might not be how it was perceived.

[JackJonesHull]

I have always endeavoured to remain classy rather than outright filthy. 

But I have found that there is a time and place where the latter is expected if not a necessity.

But, honestly, I think I would mostly prefer to remain classily suggestive and inspire imagination to run wild.

[my****]

2 hours ago, fififufu said:

Absolutely. I wouldn't really know how to answer the question "what's your fave kind of spark". Straightforward not crude works for me rather than word salad.

My favorite kind of spark is from an MSD blaster II coil. 50,000 volts. It really wakes you up if you’re bit by it.

Perhaps another favorite spark would be that of flint on steel?

I also rather enjoy running my feet across carpet and using my finger to bridge from my body to some unsuspecting victim’s body.

I could do this for a very long time before I’d ever equate spark with kink. Direct is my preferred method of communication. You clearly feel differently.

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1 hour ago, mythicalman said:

My favorite kind of spark is from an MSD blaster II coil. 50,000 volts. It really wakes you up if you’re bit by it.

Perhaps another favorite spark would be that of flint on steel?

I also rather enjoy running my feet across carpet and using my finger to bridge from my body to some unsuspecting victim’s body.

I could do this for a very long time before I’d ever equate spark with kink. Direct is my preferred method of communication. You clearly feel differently.

Um, I was agreeing with you?

[Ro****]

I guess it’s cultural. Dutch people are used to being direct, to the point, explicit about anything.
I like being cryptic sometimes or use metaphors.. but I do like to be shocked by explicitness so I guess others do too?

[Deleted Member]

I'm not sure what it is but sometimes I feel like it doesn't sound natural at all when it's written like that

[ey****]

54 minutes ago, Trinity2025 said:

I'm not sure what it is but sometimes I feel like it doesn't sound natural at all when it's written like that

to a degree, it's not. the OP used AI and rather than using it as an inspiration, he copy-pasted it.  

[ce****]

Hey all respected

[Noodle-4880]

On 10/17/2025 at 1:46 PM, AdventurousSoul78 said:

I believe that is something very classy and refined but unfortunately today’s women don’t seem to like that anymore. You try as a man and relay a flirty, classy, refined message and you either get ignored or you get something in the lines of “hi” or “where did you copy that from” 🙄. But if we as men were to send back the same reply you would get a whole lot of cr*p about it. Conclusion: women this days have no idea how to flirt with class and refinement 🤷‍♂️

Surely that depends on how you like to be flirted with?! 

Some might find my reply to be forward and not flirtatious...whereas others may see as a simple way to start a conversation. 

Hopefully you will see as the later...