Hints & Tips for New Members

[FETMod-HG]

Hey Kinksters!

Some hints and tips to help use the app and website, from the Mods and any members who want to add to it (let's try to be positive :-)

At the bottom of the app are functions that take you to various areas of the site:

• Home Icon - will take you to newsfeed page - top right hand corner upside down arrow will let you filter the news you want to receive. On this page you can also create a status update, upload a photo, create a forum topic or create a personal ad for what/who you seek.
• Search Icon - will take you to the member search page, where you spank someone, find kinksters, look for kinksters in your area and by kinksters name, you can also search by kink/fetish by tapping the upside down triangle in top right hand corner, you can also see Kinky ads, locations and events. Don’t forget to tap tick in top right-hand corner on any changes you make.
• Chat Icon - is where you can access the chat room or individual private chats. To privately message a member for first time, open their profile and tap on chat box icon.
• Connect Icon - is where you can see who visited your profile, who has a crush/spanked you, your likes, your friends and favourites. You can change your criteria settings by tapping the upside-down triangle in the top right-hand corner.
• Me Icon - is all to do with you, it’s about setting up your profile and all the things you want your account to do, including about you, your confessions and what you’re into. You will also find your requests to your private gallery here. You can also access the BDSM Personality Test (Not avail for couple profiles) and Invite outside friends to FET, create a personal ad, access the forum, take a course, enter the photo challenge. The help menu is also here. Also, if you scroll to the bottom of the screen, you will see a settings tab, that will take you to another area, where you can see your subscription, push notifications, members you have blocked, update your password, set message and comment filters and then down the page there is a section called About FET, where you can see all the various rules of the site.

The site also has a web version which you can access by typing in www.fetish.com into your phone browser and sign on as an existing member using the same id and password you used for the APP. Here you will find access to the BDSM Training School, our Kink Magazine, a complete detailed list of Roles, Archetypes, Fetishes and Kinks and access to the entire forum content. You can also turn on your ASFW Content for the APP here. Tap Photo top right-hand corner of screen, on new menu select Settings, scroll down to General Heading, tap open, scroll to bottom, and turn on ASFW.

Symbol explanations:

• Red Dot - Member is offline or possibly on invisible mode (invisible mode is only available to upgraded members)
• Green Dot - Member is currently online
• Green Bubble - Member is using the chatroom
• Eye with a strike through - Member has hidden your message
• Garbage Bin/Trash Can - Member has deleted your message
• Crown - represents a VIP member (this has changed to a crown with + on the website)
• Star - represents a Premium member (this has changed to a crown on the website)
• One tick - your message has been sent
• Two ticks - your message has been read (this option is only available to upgraded members)
• Fire Symbol - photo too hot for the app and only available via the website
• Padlock - Private/Secret Gallery - at your discretion who you give access to
• One tick - on profile means member has been verified by FET
• Two ticks - on profile means member has been verified by the site + 5 members who know them personally
• Devil icon with plus sign - Add member to friends or favourites list
• ¾ Circle - Photo is being checked and classified
• Gift box - Select and send gifts - gifts are valid for 28 days
• Name with strikethrough - Member either required to verify or has been blocked by FET

Forums: everyone in the app can see Kink Academy, so this has to be SFW (safe for work) as this is what the App Store and Play Store check ti make sure we are acceptable. All posts and comments are approved in Kink Academy. So if they don't show straight away, there isn't a volunteer member about clearing them at the time or they're in a queue at a busy time.

Consider checking in on the new user topic in Kink Academy.  Anyone who posts a new member post elsewhere will be transferred to this post.

if you log into the website once, you will then be able to see all the other forums.  If you go to settings in the website and click to allow ASFW then you will be able to see content (photos on profiles and in newsfeed etc) which is deemed Almost Safe for Work within the App too.  However content deemed 18+ will only be viewable in the website and only if you have completed the age verification.

You can search the topics in the Forum on the app by going into Forum and pulling the screen down to reveal the search bar at the top.  In the website you should see the search bar at the top of the page or in the menu. In the app, in search - kinksters, pull the screen down to reveal the search bar to search by username.

You can follow a topic by clicking the follow button top right on the website or the three dots top right to select follow on the app - this will give you notifications for new comments posted.

Photos are screened by AI, which is learning every day.  Sometimes it has a bad call so please report any that shouldn't be viewable in safe for work mode to have them properly classified.

FetMods are members who volunteer to help out. One team can only help in ChatRooms and another can only help in Forums. Things you report in chat rooms or forums come to us. Anything else needs reporting to the Support Centre via the report options on photos and profiles etc, or via the help option in the menu. If you've been a member for a while and are willing to help the community by volunteering as a Moderator then look at the info in the FAQ section to find out about it and how to apply.

Don't post pics, personal ads or proposition people in forums.  Use the free Kinky Ads to find local people or local activities. Your post will be removed and you'll get a warning to advise you not to if you do this.

No one should ask you for m*ney / tributes ever. Report them if they do. No *** or Sugar Babies are allowed.  They will be booted once investigated (international communities of this size get a lot of profiles which need removing so there can be a queue). Similarly report any references to illegal activities.

Girls get a lot more messages than boys on here, which can be quite overwhelming. When girls join they have standard message screening set up to stop them being overwhelmed / scared off straight away!  To change your message screening, go into messages and settings. Guys if you can't message, she doesn't want you to be able to. Because you're unverified, wrong location/age/gender, seeking the wrong thing on your profile, not single, no photo etc.  Don't get angry, look for someone who does want messaging from your demographic, correct any errors in your profile or sort out the photo/verification.

If you're not sure how a function works, ask away......... Moderators are here to help and the community are lovely and supportive 

I hope this is of some help.
💜

[FETMod-HG]

Useful Links that are possible only clickable in the web version (not the app)

 

How to write amazing fetish profile and profile ideas 

https://www.fetish.com/magazine/fetish-dating/write-amazing-fetish-dating-profile/

https://www.fetish.com/topic/24027-munch-notesagenda-–-profiles-–-29th-july-2021/

 

How to take best profile picture

https://www.fetish.com/magazine/bdsm/how-to-take-best-profile-picture/

 

How to write a successful Personal ad

https://www.fetish.com/magazine/fetish-dating/how-to-write-a-successful-personal-ad/

 

How to find the perfect fetish partner online

https://www.fetish.com/magazine/fetish-dating/find-perfect-fetish-partner-online/

 

How to message online and get results

https://www.fetish.com/magazine/fetish-dating/bdsm-how-to-message-online-and-get-results/

 

How to avoid scammers

https://www.fetish.com/magazine/fetish-dating/how-avoid-online-scammers/

 

First steps

https://www.fetish.com/magazine/fetish-scene/welcome-to-fet-first-steps/

 

[le****]

could be nice to gay people that only match between us, cos the 90% of my feed are straight male 😒

[Ha****]

FetMod, stop lying about the message filters being there because girls dont want to be messaged. I see plenty of ads where a girl has posted an age range that includes me, only to then find the default message filters block me.

The site is deliberately stopping people from sending messages, for which they have paid for. When are you going to refund us???

[Do****]

Good tips

[FETMOD-BD]

10 hours ago, HatfieldMaster said:

FetMod, stop lying about the message filters being there because girls dont want to be messaged. I see plenty of ads where a girl has posted an age range that includes me, only to then find the default message filters block me.

The site is deliberately stopping people from sending messages, for which they have paid for. When are you going to refund us???

There could be any number of reasons for a message filter blocking messages when it appears that someone is interested in your age range, the most common is that they have set a limit on which city/cities they want to receive messages from. Check out the message filters and you will see how many options there are. 

[Deleted Member]

Commenting so I can find this post again :)

[FE****]

10 minutes ago, plantmom said:

Commenting so I can find this post again

Tip: No need to do that, top right of the post are controls, one of which is to follow the topic :-)

[in****]

Thank you for this information.

[Ablaze]

I'd like to add pics but some have to be screenshots because I bought a different phone and that's how I moved stuff over. I have a huge toy collection etc and don't feel like pulling everything out to take the pics over or redo pics of myself that turned out well the first time.
 

[Du****]

This app is starting off perfectly. I hope I encounter souls that are more than excited and willing to experience this book with me.

[Si****]

So far so good on the app

[Deleted Member]

Wow, there’s a lot to delve into here! I am looking forward to making some good connections and having fun along the way.

[Deleted Member]

Im super exited to learn new things and meet new people, make new memories💗

[No****]

What does a white dot mean?