Sub developing a Dom

[Deleted Member]

Every Dom has that one sub that brought out new levels to them and parts of themselves they didn’t know existed. Is it a subs role to push their dom continuously to develop themselves to become their best version of themselves.

[RedFoxUK]

When the connection is right and true, both D and S should inspire and encourage each other to greater heights... both learning and developing as they go.

[RedFoxUK]

When the connection is right and true, both D and S should inspire and encourage each other to greater heights... both learning and developing as they go.

[theSir_ObservingU]

I feel that every sub has been my teacher. It’s all experience.

[ge****]

No it's not a subs "role" to push their Dom/me to develop, not as such anyway - however a Dom/me may develop as a result of a specific relationship with a submissive - but the relationship is key here not the submissive.

[ey****]

2 hours ago, london64605 said:

Is it a subs role to push their dom continuously to develop themselves to become their best version of themselves.

No.

It is a Dominants responsibility to work on their own development. 

[Pa****]

4 hours ago, theSir_ObservingU said:

I feel that every sub has been my teacher. It’s all experience.

This.
You can always be a better partner, and your experiences should be built upon and shared for the betterment of everyone involved

[li****]

As sub I would hope that I can help my Dom develop to new heights. In any relationship what ever the dynamic is we should always push and help each other grow to be the best version of are self

[ta****]

4 hours ago, RedFoxUK said:

When the connection is right and true, both D and S should inspire and encourage each other to greater heights... both learning and developing as they go.

Probably the most accurate response. Despite the dynamic, both parties should be responsible for their own self development and growth within their roles. However, growing together within the dynamic is just as important.... I will say that I have a lot more fun helping a Dom develop themselves in the role or expressing/finding their kinks, rather than being dragged around by a Dom with lacking abilities and limited self awareness.

[Pa****]

14 minutes ago, tater_tots said:

Probably the most accurate response. Despite the dynamic, both parties should be responsible for their own self development and growth within their roles. However, growing together within the dynamic is just as important.... I will say that I have a lot more fun helping a Dom develop themselves in the role or expressing/finding their kinks, rather than being dragged around by a Dom with lacking abilities and limited self awareness.

Agreed.

[BattyDearest]

I think people only develop themselves if they already wanted to change. No one can make anybody develop who doesn't already want to.

[Co****]

School teachers often comment about how much they learn and grow from interactions with their students, but nobody would say that the students’ “role” is to teach the teacher. I think the same applies here.

[ru****]

2 hours ago, ColoShark said:

School teachers often comment about how much they learn and grow from interactions with their students, but nobody would say that the students’ “role” is to teach the teacher. I think the same applies here.

This is the perfect response. My subs have taught me far more about myself, my own limits and what I'm comfortable with.

[Ph****]

I know in my experience I have seen two people develop together and teach each other... without stepping over boundaries and staying in there role.... .. I have changed over the years and have develop alot over the years...

[Gy****]

I think a good partnership/team/relationship nurtures the safe space to grow and evolve into being their best selves. There’s a purity to having that freedom to explore, to fall, to learn with another. It’s essential. It’s beautiful.
And for me personally, this is a basic requirement for anyone I let into my life. My Dom will always have that safe space to just be. All shades of Himself.

[Deleted Member]

I think either sub or a Dom, we are never complete and it’s a never ending journey; within the dynamic both are growing and becoming more self aware. Although it’s not a sub “role” per se; a sub that strives to become more at one with the submissive side will always be induce this in their Dom. It’s like a perfect equilibrium of learning and developing between the 2; both growing simultaneously.

[Ko****]

Sub role is to nurture not push, unless otherwise told to do so. But if a sub is pushing for new hights I would consider that a switch dynamic. Not a true D/s dynamic.

If the need arises in the relationship I dont see nothing wrong with it. As long as you both have eachothers back.