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Yo****

Yo****

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What would you want to introduce me to if I was brand new to kink. Kink virgin.
Mo****

Mo****

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There should be a long training sessions ! Starting from exploring what you can handle and can't! Your basic skills ! Tolerance for ***- deep bj, spanking - degrading and the rest- but most important ! Your transparency ! Acceptance , obeying - communication - being always available and serving ! Use the right wording for your master , it's not like one package to buy it -
ki****

ki****

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To start with we would discuss things you are not happy with at all and what your happy to try at some point. Then things your happy to do anytime.
Enthusiastic consent and boundaries should be put in place before anything else. BDSM is not taken seriously enough sometimes and things like top drop and sub drop are things that you want to avoid at all costs

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Brand new I would say the classic light bondage with gentle impact play, and sense deprivation. I feel those are the best ones to start with and to grow curiosities into fantasies
MD****

MD****

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If completely new and didn't have any established interest (and doing a survey doesn't help) I would start with a basic 'kink' set (assuming they have no kink toys), something that could be bought online and a box, this establishes the curiosity when not in play and allows alone play and can really help the dynamic move along. Run through everything in soft mode, spanking, paddling, flogging, wearing a collar or cuffs but not binding yet, word play (if testing *** it should start at like 'naughty' not something harsh), position/hand changes, integrating familiar toys in different places/ways (vibrator on nipples, neck, etc.). Constant reassurance and check-ins. And an adult conversation after aftercare or when appropriate to understand the keep, toss, do more, do less, and discuss how/what to add next time. Think of it like Jenga and stop and reset before pushing too hard or leaning to far one way.
ki****

ki****

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5 minutes ago, MDQC said:
If completely new and didn't have any established interest (and doing a survey doesn't help) I would start with a basic 'kink' set (assuming they have no kink toys), something that could be bought online and a box, this establishes the curiosity when not in play and allows alone play and can really help the dynamic move along. Run through everything in soft mode, spanking, paddling, flogging, wearing a collar or cuffs but not binding yet, word play (if testing *** it should start at like 'naughty' not something harsh), position/hand changes, integrating familiar toys in different places/ways (vibrator on nipples, neck, etc.). Constant reassurance and check-ins. And an adult conversation after aftercare or when appropriate to understand the keep, toss, do more, do less, and discuss how/what to add next time. Think of it like Jenga and stop and reset before pushing too hard or leaning to far one way.

Good way to put it, also it’s up to the top to make sure safety and comfort are foremost in their mind as like you said go slow and don’t go to far in one direction before you try others.
The box delivered is a good idea but spend a little *** as the cheap sets are not worth anything, they will give you the wrong feelings etc. plastic feels different to leather or faux leather for example.

ey****

ey****

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if I was dealing with someone who was new to kink, but knew they wanted to try kink

I'd start by trying to find what ideas they were drawn to and what roles, or activities, they would be most interested to try

If an activity was found I'd talk through it, and find stuff to show to help give informed consent.   I'd also then work through a 'white list' so rather than being "what are your limits?" either establishing a what you'd like to try, or me talking through suggestions I might try.

I'd feel if there wasn't an ability to communicate some of this, then it wouldn't be appropriate to play.

Laycette

Laycette

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When I had clients new to kink, I'd often do an intro session to introduce a range of activities withon theirvstated limits to see how they went, then discuss what their response indicated and what else they'd likely enjoy.
Cu****

Cu****

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Discreet public play?
We’re eating at a busy restaurant. You’re wearing, as instructed, a little black dress, discreet lace ***r, black bra and matching lingerie- BUT small white panties.
Towards the end of the meal I lean over and whisper instructions in your ear:
“Go to the ladies, masturbate but DO NOT CUM. Soak your panties in your fresh cream, then bring them back to me and hand them to me under the table.”
What are your thoughts, reactions?
How do you feel as you watch me use your wet panties as a napkin, in front of the other, unsuspecting, diners, knowing I can taste, and breathe in your pleasure?
bl****

bl****

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I would teach you that BDSM is not only about rough sex and toys. Your mind is the most fun playground. Finding the depths with a shared partner, creating trust and understanding is something far more interesting than checking things off some fetish list. Anyone can spank you or follow a task list. Those things don't make you a submissive or Dominant. Without the psychological aspect of kink, play is empty.
er****

er****

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Hey guys I'm pretty new to the life but I've always been turned on by it. I'm more dominant but how do I go forward in a relationship when Im still learning this life?
ey****

ey****

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1 hour ago, eryk_123 said:

Hey guys I'm pretty new to the life but I've always been turned on by it. I'm more dominant but how do I go forward in a relationship when Im still learning this life?

on your own thread on the topic, rather than spinning off someone elses :)

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