Dynamic Rituals

[xm****]

What are some rituals that have been especially effective within your dynamic at building the connection and sense of purpose of the power exchange?

[Mo****]

For me! My sub always naked when she is indoors - always have her collar on! That will give her the sense that she is always owned ! Also- allowed to my sub to talk about her experiences and what she like or dislike about it so we can build up ! - worth mentioning communication and open talks always a good way to both meets in a point when it's this surrounding of power from the sub to the dom because enjoyable

[g0****]

I originally read this as "demonic rituals" and thought this was some new thing people are doing 😅😅

[Ki****]

#1 is communication.....I want her to always know if we are moving into something new.
#2 is trust......she knows that I will push her soft limits but never cross the line.
#3 is discussion...... about a particular scene and her likes and dislikes that were involved.

Then we can proceed, which usually happens, or we can part ways.

[ph****]

During times when the dynamic was in play. I would have my sub make sure shes groomed and cleaned to my specifications. Regardless if I was in the mood for actual dynamic play or just edge her the entire time. The ritual of prep-work gave her a sense of purpose and satisfaction if the work she did met my approval.
Same goes for even the little things like morning and goodnight messages. It depends of your level of intensity but really anything can be made a beneficial ritual. Just make sure its done with intent. If you're not a fan of prep work it will not deepen the bond. Find something that you are passionate about your checklist items and focus on turning those into an activity that makes an impact

[Si****]

In a previous D/s relationship, we had a ritual every time that we would play when I would put her play collar on her. Todd, we would discuss the meaning of that and the difference between her play collar and her everyday collar

[Laycette]

Ritual is very important in D/s. In particular if you are not 24/7, the demarcation of space and time is critical to separate 'normal' from 'in role'. For this purpose, the act of preparing the space, cleaning / purifying yourself, waiting, presenting oneself, kneeling to accept a collar...
There are many elements that can be ritualised to help set the headspace.

[Si****]

53 minutes ago, Laycette said:

Ritual is very important in D/s. In particular if you are not 24/7, the demarcation of space and time is critical to separate 'normal' from 'in role'. For this purpose, the act of preparing the space, cleaning / purifying yourself, waiting, presenting oneself, kneeling to accept a collar...
There are many elements that can be ritualised to help set the headspace.

Absolutely!!

[Pa****]

That is one beautiful use for a collar. I had a lovely collar made for my sub and at the beginning of a scene they kneel, and me the collar and I buckle it on their neck. At the end of the scene I remove it. Simple and effective.

[Deleted Member]

Being pinned down or against a wall with my hands above my head gets me into the headspace instantly.

[Ro****]

Ritual I have as a solo poly sub is the process of chatting, it helps anyone unload anything bothering them, as a check point and see where each others head is at. Then, gradually, the conversation turns to the decisions as I lay out as far as tools, items to wear, and such that they then select and we resume.