Dynamic with no Intimacy

[xm****]

My Dom and I never have any scenes and we haven't had physical intimacy in over a year despite him having fwb to meet those needs. I states that he has been having difficulty getting into the right headspace for kink play. Is it time to put our exit strategy into action?

[Ky****]

Yes, I would put an exit plan together and trust someone who can help you.

[Si****]

If it’s for the betterment of your mental health then yes.

[ch****]

Yes it’s time to leave

[Ri****]

Mite be time

[Tr****]

Yes
And I understand the struggle

[Ca****]

Yep, time to call and end to it. He's having others but won't do anything with you and can't be kinky in other ways. That's not a dynamic. That's a friendship.

[Ma****]

I'm going to say it's only up to you and your Dom to decide how you handle your relationship. I would first ask how much communication have you and he had during this time? If you aren't communicating how are the two of you supposed to know where each other's head is. I'd suggest having an honest conversation about how the two of you feel. I would then bring up your exit strategy based on how that conversation goes.

[wa****]

It’s a 2 way relationship if your not getting what you desire from it then time to move on

[he****]

You made your bed now you get to sleep in it, thats your fault for letting it get like this, if a man can find another women who's gonna meet his sexual desires then you won't be able to cut it

[Suck_My_Pizzle]

I'd be curious if this was online only or in person. You didn't give much information in your post for context, but at face value your Dom doesn't seem to appreciate you or be attentive to your needs. You definitely deserve better than that! If you hadn't already communicated your issues to your Dom clearly, several times even, then you should. Good communication is absolutely essential to any dynamic, even vanilla relationships. If you think you've already communicated well and your Dom doesn't want to listen then you should've been putting an exit strategy into place when you realised that. Hope you find happiness wherever you end up ❤️

[Jo****]

Bail

[PurpleKink_DM]

You gotta do what’s right for you but it sounds like it could be 😔

[No****]

Sounds like it’s time to move on. A year is a long time. Good luck

[ca****]

Time to leave

[Li****]

Why does he have you then if he has FWB? I think it's time to pack it up for him

[V0****]

Not a exit but just like him, you need to find someone or something to fill that role

[RichardBlack61]

It’s definitely a long time

[EA****]

Over a year is way too long! He’s not playing with you anymore!

[Li****]

So he’s sleeping with them and not you? Ok. Go find someone else to fill YOUR needs and see how we feels about it. Don’t leave just yet. Just level the playing field 😉

[po****]

Definitely need to leave and find your person to fulfill your needs

[Sh****]

Yes leave

[yo****]

It seems like I agree with many commenters here. Despite the parameters of your dynamic, at the end of the day you both should be getting needs met. And if you've had those discussions and there still is not any improvement in you getting your needs met, within the context of that dynamic, then yes it's time to go.

Having that kind of power and a dynamic, and not being concerned with the needs of the other, is hurtful and selfish. You should hold the power here, so I hope something changes for you. I'm so so sorry that you've been treated this way.

[Mr****]

Sounds like it. If you havent had a talk with them then it might be worth a chat but I have delt with subs im the past that still just want the company but nothing intimate any more and I had to be upfront with them about my wants and needs.

[Li****]

22 minutes ago, Lilith883 said:

So he’s sleeping with them and not you? Ok. Go find someone else to fill YOUR needs and see how we feels about it. Don’t leave just yet. Just level the playing field 😉

Nah that's dumb. Just wasting both people's time. Better to be the bigger person and move on.