Dynamic with no Intimacy

[th****]

Yeah, I'd put together an exit plan. Sounds like you aren't getting what you need and he's ignoring you. I'd pack it up

[he****]

Have an honest conversation with him first and then politely part ways. You got into the dynamic because you wanted certain needs met and if that is not happening its time to count your loses and start hunting for a Dom/Top. But if you were together for over a year i think u you at least owe it him to tell him to his face you are moving on. Plus a clean/ mature break will put you in best position to move on and start fresh in your nee dynamic. Best of luck to you :)

[du****]

Don’t sound like it’s much of a sub and dom dynamic

[hot-springs206194]

You are a domestic servant with a cheating partner. In vanilla world, they call that grounds for a divorce. In BDSM world, I call that bullsh*t.

[Ba****]

Wait, what is „our exit strategy“??
If your relationship/dynamic doesn’t do anything for you and hasn’t for such an unreasonable amount of time with little to no justification while your partner gets their gratification elsewhere you either renegotiate(if you are feeling generous) or move on to find someone who is actually interested(maybe try a less casual „dom“, you know someone who would call it a „lifestyle“ or personality trait)

So far it doesn’t really look like complex enough of a situation to require a whole ass plan, if you actually need a real strategy to exit safely then you seriously need to have gotten out a good while ago

[Be****]

So my comment gets deleted….. let me put it nicely. You’re too pretty to be sitting around while he has his cake and eats it too. Plenty of men would love to…… take care of business for you 

[MH****]

I would say so, this situation sounds like it's only working for one of you at this stage

[parkcruiser]

communication is the key to life,if its not working for you ? it no longer serves your evolution no shame or guilt thats life, now for your next engagement you now no you wanna get laid if only for a reward for being a good sub. you r wiser to your needs , go forth and enjoy you life

[MissViolett]

6 hours ago, helpmeorkillme said:

You made your bed now you get to sleep in it, thats your fault for letting it get like this, if a man can find another women who's gonna meet his sexual desires then you won't be able to cut it

That's some incel sh*t to say....
And to answer your "nickname"... Seems like you are projecting much.

And to cite you "that's your fault for letting it get like this"
Go, get help yourself!

[Mi****]

Communication is definitely the route to go with here. I've known Domme led relationships that have had varying degrees of no intimacy for upwards of 2 years before the sub was allowed that "treat" Sometimes it comes down to reminding the "Capital" of the negotiated and expected while still remaining respectful

[Deleted Member]

probably, he may have gotten too comfortable doing stuff with others that he lost interest in his main partner. it happens a lot.

[ti****]

It’s possible he has pushed a taboo of yours with a FwB and can’t seem to pull it back. So, ask your dom if you can have a mental scene (roll play just by in detail of what you want and how you want) and ask to act out the mental scene like a live action if it’s still within your boundaries.

[Po****]

I just will never understand some people. Going out and eating some greasy ass McDonald’s cause it’s your guilty pleasure and just killing your idea of good burger, but at the same time, you have choice cut premium USDA meat at home that you don’t have to pay for and it’s ALWAYS!!!! desperately wanting you to grip your hands around its buns and take a bite of that delicious well seasoned medium rare🥵🫠It bbq’s itself too, you didn’t have to set a timer, it doesn’t care about you being late for dinner and your coward a** can’t give a reason why your always tardy….. what I’m saying is…. I’m hungry… but other than that, the man your give all your praise, thought, time and attention to is so damn stupid and spineless that he doesn’t see you.. YOU!😳as sexy?!?! And he’s so much of a p**sy he can’t tell you. You already ready know in your heart it’s over, you want a lion not a garbage digging alley cat. *Hugs* good luck ✌️😜

[no****]

Follow your heart, if you’re not happy then you need to put yourself first no matter how hard it will be, step back from the situation and take some time out, sending you massive hugs xxx

[Deleted Member]

If he is simply your Dom and not your husband as well, then it appears he has failed you and is not a Dom you want to stay with. After all, his responsibility, above all else, is to care for you, particularly your emotional and mental health, due to power dynamic is any D/s relationship. In your role as sub you might think it's not acceptable to raise your issues with him but, again, this is a consenting relationship where you have agreed the parameters of. If he is not living up to his duty as a Dom then, basically, he is no longer your Dom. What you do is completely up to you. Your Dom has lost his right to be involved in that decision. Best of luck whichever way you go.

[Deleted Member]

The guys are right. Dump his a**, and find someone different. Best of luck

[my****]

Yeah, it’s been time to punch out for about 11 months. Ask for release, grieve the ending of a relationship, and then try your hand at another when you’re ready.

Sex isn’t all there is to Ds, but it is a component of a healthy dynamic.

[Mo****]

I feel like I just read my situation but he didn't have fwb. He just stopped having sex with me two years ago saying it was him having issues. Low and behold he had been finding women and cheating on me. He just left me for one of them. He was my husband as well.

[We****]

Many of the responses to your post will have challenged your emotions and reasons for committing to your chosen partner. Think carefully about how you reacted to the valid observations because only you need to decide … perhaps , your profile should be updated to allow a more respectful Dom to commence healing that tear in your heart .

You are not alone, few are brave enough to discuss the ‘cracks ‘ that might be appearing in your relationship. Always remember that as a loyal submissive, your gift to your chosen Dom is you. Your emotional and physical strength might be better aligned with another but only you can know this..

Sometimes challenges like this are overcome and relationships are stronger.. sometimes they do not recover and new boundaries are presented first you to explore.. good luck, you are young, beautiful and deserve the best life can give you

💋💋

[Sk****]

I've never heard of a situation like this, much less 3x in a row. Sometimes people dont want love and intimacy in their dynamic, but this is usually because they get it elsewhere, or dont want it at all.

Doms should care for their subs, and if they see the sub needs love, the dom should see they get it some way or another, if not from them, then from someone else.

Love is a basic human need, that all people deserve. Never forget that you can and should Love yourself, regardless if you receive Love from others. Many have to learn to allow themselves to Love themself. Some need to learn to do that before they learn to allow others to Love them.

Boundaries should always be respected, and you can change boundaries over time. Requiring Love in a dynamic or in your life in general is a perfectly acceptable boundary.

[Am****]

Theres a book called, Her needs His needs. Try to Read it togeather. Both of you will learn soo much and it will help to save you from breaking up

[Deleted Member]

New here but even for me I think you are in this relationship with your self …not a good one if I may add unless sex is not in any way shape or form of importance to you then trod on

[Pa****]

I'd say so, if you're veering off-road. May be time to discuss this if you're comfortable doing so with your Dom. Seems from the information provided that you're in a tough spot. Wishing you the best

[Lo****]

Kill it off

[ma****]

Sounds more passive aggressive than dom.