Domination advice for a small woman?

[noodlechan]

Hi there! I'm new to being the dominant person in bed, and my new SO is definitely into it, but I'm 5'2 and like 110 lbs and he's 6'4 and 170 lbs. It's kinda embarrassing for me because I'm ***fully aware of the power difference we have, and he does allow me to be dominant from time to time but how can I really intimidate him and have confidence to make him feel like a bottom? Any advice? Words I can say things I can do? Anything would help 😭

[Wo****]

I'm only 5'3, my play partner is 6'2 and i'm loving exploring my dominant side with him.

He's choosing to willingly submit to you, embrace it.

Ask him how he wants you to dominate him. Sensually? Sternly? Does he want ***? Bondage? 

 

Dress in whatever makes you feel sexy, powerful. 

Words... depends on the dynamic. "My good, big boy" "my big fuck toy slut" 

 

Play with it, ask him for ideas, have fun with it x

[ey****]

It's obviously one of the things within female domination that in many cases, the man is still physically stronger.

So, sometimes it does become a case of him putting the strength to one side and giving in submission - but, this doesn't work too much if the interest is intimidation and over powering

And this is often where things come in like restraints, hoods, etc.   Secure his hands and feet (with him allowing this voluntarily) and he cannot overpower you.  A hood or blindfold takes away his ability to see what you're doing and heightens his senses.

A leg spreader leaves his cock and balls exposed to any ***

[Deleted Member]

I'm 5.6 and my ex was 5.11. You gotta do your best to peak your sexual energy over his and blast that shit over him. Focus your sexual into him make it intense.

[Si****]

If the physical strenght is the problem, then you could focus more on the emotional strengh. Your tone of voice, the words you chose to use and the way you hold yourself and dress can be where you get your strenght.

Making strong eye contact, telling him how you want him to do something and how you then react when he doesnt do as he is told. If he wishes to submit to you, then that could also be read that he wishes to please. Thats the the strengh you have. Using words like 'it would please me if you ....' and 'are you refusing to do what I desire?' (of course you know his limits)

Your strengh is to have him kneel/sit at the foot of the bed and you lean back on the pillows, waiting for him to start behaving the way you want. each time he fails, you have him return to the foot of the bed. no physical strengh required, just conviction in you dominance.

Its not all about your sexual energies, Its about playing with the exchange of desire to please and be pleased. It sounds like he wants to submit to you. so let him enjoy doing so. I hope this helps. enjoy eachother.

 

[to****]

In the simplest form, maybe make it a rule that he is always on his knees? That would make you taller and therefore subconsciously more powerful and also anyone is naturally weaker on their knees.

[Deleted Member]

One of the most dominant/scary women I’ve met in my life was my drill sergeant in basic training. It was only when we did the “tallest on the right, shortest on the left“ thing, and she mentioned that she would be at the very end on the left, that I even noticed she was tiny 😂

If she was anything to go by, it’s all about attitude.

[oooyeahhh57]

It’s not size, it’s attitude. Have him lie on floor. Dress up and let him admire you. Speak softly and hypnotize him by telling him he is powerless and must obey. Lead him in a direction he wants to explore. Have him suck toes, kiss ass, and give oral to show he, sincere. Make him admit to his cravings. You’ll be his queen in no time.😉

[LanceH]

Never raise your voice. You can let intensity into your voice, but when correcting or disciplining...your volume needs to be lower. My drill sergeant used that technique, making large men bend to hear her.

[Su****]

Personally it's not down to strength, it's down to control.  Many 'leaders' are smaller people but lead 1000s of people.  Along with him be submissive, he may just submit to you e.g. your word is enough!

Plus there are certain moves from the martial art - Aikido that may help, joking in a way, but there are certain moves that don't require strength.  But of cause with the correct training.

[xa****]

you could. use your mind. use his attraction to you. you are in charge. if he can have you or not. SO. if he wants you. he must please you. rely on your bond. his desire for you. command him. imo you dont even need to be sturn. just persistant. also. he does need to slsep so. he may wake up cuffed? i feel most sub with a female who KNOWS i want her. i need her. make him need you. then make him your bitch. but idk. i b gettin banned n shit so maybe bad advice

[Deleted Member]

Embrace your inner sadist if you have one. Think of good villains from movies like the joker ect they are powerful not because they are strong in a physical sense but because they are cold and calculating.
You know he loves when you dominate him so try to find out what it is exactly he loves. What are his favourite things? Then use that against him, don't give it to him right away but instead tease him and make it seem he doesn't deserve it yet. Make him pleasure you and (if he's into it and consents naturally) mock him for wanting such things.
In my experience with subs teasing and *** are very powerful tools. I rarely need to use *** as controlling them with their own desire to feel pleasure is far more powerful. Make them desperate for it then he will do whatever you say and he may be the type of sub who truly enjoys being in that desperate state more than anything. Best of luck :)

[Stardust1955]

It's all about attitude. Be soft but not at first  play into his desires. Restrain him. Tease him. Make him want you. 

[Soulful_Kinkster]

Domination is not about physical ***. It’s about state of mind, your attitude and personality. A small person can dominate a big strong person. One can use creativity be it his attraction towards you, his desire to follow your instructions and to please you to dominate him. Communicate with him, find out what triggers him to serve you, please you and makes him submissive. It can be his curiosity that help you to gain control over him. So I would recommend to communicate with him and explore with an open mind.

[Deleted Member]

If he is just a sub he will not try to overpower, perhaps try to brat. However if he is switch (both) he could, but you just have to get used to overpowering him via his mind. I just need to change my tone with my switch and he cant stop from switching to sub from dom. From my side its a confidence thing in terms of being able to switch my tone and be dominant from a vocal standpoint. Don't think your height/weight thing as a bad point, just think how amazing you are because of your stature and being able to control someone with only words.