4R**** Posted November 18 I’m curious to hear different perspectives on Non-Sexual Domestic Servitude roles within BDSM dynamics, and I’d really appreciate some community insight. NSDS refers to a power-exchange arrangement where the submissive takes on household or organisational duties for the dominant partner. These tasks can include cleaning, cooking, laundry, errands, personal assistance, household management, and similar forms of service. What makes NSDS different from other D/s setups is that the dynamic does not include sexual activity or erotic expectations. The power exchange and fulfilment come from obedience, structure, service, or the emotional/psychological aspects of dominance and submission, not from s*xual contact. People engage in it for many reasons: the satisfaction of serving, enjoying structure or protocol, wanting a domestic caretaker, liking clear power dynamics, or simply finding fulfilment in a nonsexual D/s environment. What do you think are the benefits, challenges, or misconceptions about Non-Sexual Domestic Servitude? Do you feel the lack of sexual element changes the dynamic in any major way?
CopperKnob Posted November 18 BDSM that doesn't involve sexual acts???? They said that KA was an educational forum 😉🤣
DY**** Posted November 18 I believe that it’s like foreplay in training. Having a submissive perform tasks gets them into the right headspace for when it is the right time. They aren’t doing it because they are a partner or part of a household, they are doing it because they’ve been told to. Their desire to serve and please and for many, be used taps into a space within them that need to feel that way. I’ve had a submissive beg to clean my toilet with his toothbrush and though I never allowed it, it gave me insight into how deep the craving to be seen as a slave can be to some. Much like the release felt from a good spanking, some gain the same feeling from servitude or ***. I don’t believe it changes the dynamic, more so deepens the connection with rein***ment within the roles
4R**** Posted November 18 Author 6 hours ago, CopperKnob said: BDSM that doesn't involve sexual acts???? They said that KA was an educational forum 😉🤣 I know CK, whatever could I possibly be talking about?
4R**** Posted November 19 Author 3 hours ago, beancess said: Are we talking about the emotional side of it? The emotional, the physical, in honesty, whatever comes to mind.
be**** Posted November 19 I feel like i recently lost my son, I signed him into a inpatient behavioral program for 6 months and starting the second he left my arms i started spinning out of control completely and making the wrong choices and hurt people i care about. I think its a balance. I think you have to have that sexual, awakened beast inside of you but you also need the caring nurturing side to be fulfilled too or youre never going to be good for anyone, most of all yourself.
CopperKnob Posted November 19 21 hours ago, 4RCH said: I know CK, whatever could I possibly be talking about? Please educate us!! 🤣
Fu**** Posted November 20 I like this part. I think this is what its truly about. I serve in everyway. I serve my daddy so he is at his best. Thats my job. Make him relaxed and cared for so he can provide for me.
RaymondWise Posted 9 hours ago Many of my non sexual domestic service partners engage in this in a transactional manner. They want to play with me, perhaps they've seen me flog/cane/fire play and such at local clubs and parties. I offer to do that is they do some hours of cleaning or other domestic chores. Sometimes they want to experience submission to me without sex. It often still is the transactional domestic chore route. Many into BDSM/kink do not combine sex and kink. At a lot of play parties sex isn't allowed. In many cases, even when it's allowed, hardly anyone does it. I do combine sex and kink but with some partners it's non-sexual. I don't think I could take on another sexual partner in my chosen family. I was at a New Years Eve kink party and at midnight, the organizer announced that sex was now allowed. This was NOT in the promotional description of the party. My slave and I started having sex but I'd say two thirds of the crowd left at that point. non-sexual kink if definitely a thing.
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