We Talk About Sub Aftercare All the Time… But What About Aftercare for doms?

[Me****]

Ummm I didn’t know about this till a couple of weeks ago that a girl friend of mine. I was in a booty call relationship and yeah I wasn’t feeling good after the call. I just need a little aftercare to not feel like nothing. Btw any know why this thing doesn’t let me change my gender I’m not a woman.

[Bl****]

The only worry I have as a dom is making sure I last long and make her orgasm over and over. Completely dominate her and make her feel good. After it’s over, I take a shower or bath and that’s my aftercare. I’ve never felt depressed or a dom drop. I’m just naturally dominant. And can also be submissive.

It might happen to others but I’ve never experienced a dom drop or whatever and I’ve dommed quite a few women.

[Sc****]

To the original question: Aftercare for me is immediately emotional care. As well as the cuddling, gentle affirmation. However it definitely changes with what I perceive what the woman needs most. Sometimes it's praise, sometimes it's just gentle kisses and touching. As you get to know your partner more it becomes easier.

[Bu****]

Aftercare is very important for me as a Dom. A lot of the things we do are things that would make you a very terrible person if your partner is unwilling and there might be a lot of guilt or shame around it. It's important to me that my partner reassures that what we did was consensual and that they enjoyed it.

Also I have wrist problems so I usually require that part of my aftercare is a wrist and hand massage and some cuddling.

The other thing is that topping a scene, especially in a public setting, can take a lot of energy with all the planning, controlling and physically doing the scene. So I'm longer term relationships it's helpful if my partner can take some of the load off in other areas so I can rest.

Hopefully that gives you some ideas.