Using the same toys on different partners

[Ma****]

Is there an expectation to buy new toys for new partners. I keep sending partners home with new supplies like Santa Clause, and it’s getting a bit expensive and preventing me from investing in some more expensive options (Sybian).

It seems prudent to just start assembling a collection I can reuse.

Obviously I would keep these toys clean, but I also fully understand any reservations new partners would have.

Do folks have any advice on how to calm any of those legitimate reservations. Is it cleaning the toys before hand or perhaps a case of some sort.

[typhoon2]

Intimate toys ought to be provided and owned by the one that has them inserted or whatever. Certainly there are plentiful ways to sterilise toys, whether chemicals, soap, UV or whatever, but some kinksters don't want to share. Fair enough but they ought to consider providing rather than expecting expensive presents. I've passed out ballgags often, but they're relatively cheap.

Remember that dildos and butt plags can have a condom used as barrier protection. While still an expense to yourself, it's markedly cheaper than a new toy altogether.

[Be****]

Agreed! This is a bit of a grey area.
And its a bit awkward to ask a new partner to bring their own toys. Especially if you dont know whats in the arsenal

[Deleted Member]

When I was taught I was explicitly told to never use the same toys on others, more so the 1s that get inserted in lovely wonderful places if you know what I mean ..
Gotta think about the care of those very delicate parts on your sub, for example a woman can pick up thrush just by sitting on a toilet seat that appears to be clean, Remember it’s all about “ Responsibility “, so just to be on the safe side I buy new toys all the time ..

[Si****]

Good question! I've had the same consideration and haven't really found a solution yet.

[Deleted Member]

Keep both options available and ask. When you are able to reuse cool, when not, also cool.

[cr****]

For most shelling out hundreds if not thousands per partner is not feasible. I have had partners with “reused” expenses toys. Before we even started to play it was asked if I wanted to purchase my own toys or go through the cleaning process before use and cleaning process afterwards as well.
It gives a sense of understanding, ownership and safety.

[Ha****]

As long as they’re really clean I’m alright with my dom reusing his own toy collection on me

[Deleted Member]

Cleaning after each use is a really good idea. But also maybe cleaning in front of new partner would help ease any reservations they might have. A swinger couple I used to play with had a large collection and we would clean them together after use.

[De****]

I have simple rule..

Penetrative toys are not reusable.
Either ask from partners to bring along there's if active with multiple, playdates and Poly

Restraints, suspension, bars, Impact are multi user.

I had invested when I was with my long term partner.
I feel the *** but safety demands that.

Boiling it and sanitization maybe suggested by personally I suggest being careful as you have been already

[Ma****]

I let my subs pay for their stuff. It will be theirs to keep and can potentially be used with another dominant Person. First of all, sanitary reasons, secondly i'm Not Santa Claus nor do i have a goldmine, third of all: space. I'm Not willing to have a whole "Sex shop" in my Apartment, just in case someone likes this or that. Easy as that.

[to****]

No just clean them

[Deleted Member]

I personally would want to see them cleaned before and after use. Having had a bad experience from toys the guy had where I caught something you can imagine I became very reserved from someone coming near me with something that wasnt mine.

Maybe ask if the have toys they want to bring along to use too?

[Di****]

Always new toys!!!

[Mz****]

From someone who has a phobia of germs, I was actually still okay with my play partner using his toy collection. He made sure he always cleaned them before every meet and put them in separate plastic bags to keep them clean. We also used a condom on any toys that needed it.

[Sl****]

I think of this by imagining how many ppl that we see in bathrooms, straight up walking out without washing hands.
Certainly your introspection shows that you care about others. I would rather use new on different people. No one wants to think they’re getting sloppy seconds 😂

[Deleted Member]

I personally wouldn't play with someone if they recycled toys regardless of how clean they were. That's just massively icky to me.

[Deleted Member]

Buy stone, metal or glass and run them through the dishwasher?

[Deleted Member]

Would you reuse a flesh light? Knowing that an unspecified amount of other men have used it before?

Ask your partners to bring their own toys, they probably have their own anyway. I wouldn't go near a used toy 🙏

[An****]

For me, thorough washing with the cleaner recommended by the toy’s manufacturer. Toys can indeed be expensive.

[ja****]

Clean your toys before hand. Anything that gets *** on it has to be sterlized if it's capable at worst but it should be a single user toy

[Tr****]

I can’t speak for women on this matter, because I have a massive cock, I imagine it would come down to each individual partner. It is best to have the conversation before your partner ever leaves to meet you. Offer them the use of your toys with the disclosure that they have been used with other partners. If they are not comfortable with that, they are welcome to bring their own toys. You are under no obligation to provide toys to another person. It is all about communication, which is the foundation of kink anyways.

[La****]

Personally, I feel like sharing toys is perfectly fine as long as you sterilize in between uses (which honestly you should be doing anyway). The only time I would not share toys if it's something porous that can't be sterilized, like leather or wood, and it gets any amount of *** on it. If that happens, that toy belongs to that person, no questions.

[AKA_Copper]

A question to answer yours...
How would you feel if you went to a Dentist or Doctor late afternoon and they inserted an implement into your mouth or anus but they first gave it a scrub with soap under the tap because they didn't want the expense of making new purchases?

[Subfocus]

New toys is a must!