About me
Interested in:
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- Kinky Dates
- LTR (relationship)
- Events & Places
- NSA (no strings...)
- BDSM Lovers
Description
Experienced Dominant, happily married but permitted to play. Focus on bondage/restraints, impact play (not especially heavy), breath play and sensory play but dabbled in much else. Pretty good play environment at home (two spanking benches, pillory, a couple of frames, one single- and one double-sided St Andrew's crosses, whipping post, large cage) plus lots of toys for hosting or travel. Not exactly a service Top but I do care that my playmates enjoy themselves and are looked after (including aftercare). Wife is never involved but is friendly to playmates. Two cats are also never involved but are typical selfish, scared mogs! I host regular play and social events amd have visited a number of other events around the country. I'm seeking new playmates and new experiences, learning or stealing ideas and best practice from all and sundry. Please note that, while I have done non-sexual scenes on many occasions, my preference is very much for intimacy. This may be part pf a scene or afterwards or both, but kinky lovers jumpr to the front of the queue.
Desires and Fantasies
Seeking new playmates to join existing ones or enjoy singly. Explore variations on bondage (peril scenarios, for instance), visit new event venues, find outdoor playspots (done a number of kinky camping trips and they were great fun).
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
- Fear Play (Active)
- Blindfolds (Active)
- Ball Gag (Active)
- BDSM (Active)
- Bondage Stocks (Active)
- Bondage (Active)
- Bondage Bed (Active)
- Bondage Belt (Active)
- Bondage Cuffs (Active)
- Bondage Hood (Active)
- Bondage Rope (Active)
- Breath Play (Active)
- Collar & Leash (Active)
- Cuddling (Active)
- Cunnilingus (Active)
- Domination (Active)
- Threesomes (Active)
- Violet Wand (Active)
- Extreme Bondage (Active)
- FFM Threesome (Active)
- Floggers (Active)
- Foreplay (Active)
- Gags (Active)
- Torturer - Captive Prisoner (Active)
- Handcuffs (Active)
- Rough Sex (Active)
- Kissing (Active)
- Multiple Orgasms (Active)
- Polyamory (Active)
- Sensory Deprivation (Active)
- Spanking (Active)
- Cum Swallowing (Active)
- Spreader Bar (Active)
- Submission
- Suspension Bondage (Active)
- Suspension Cuffs (Active)
- Sweet Pain (Active)
- Vampire Gloves (Active)
- Vibrators (Active)
- Water Bondage (Active)
My places
Fetish.com gives you…
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I always ask playmates 'What do YOU mean by that? so that both parties know exactly what we're talking about. I ensure they understand and that I am aware of all issues pertaining to planned play. Later on, I might be more adventurous as I undertand their reponses and preferences but early play is Read more… heavily-scripted and cautious. I don't think any acronym properly covers my style but even if the terms are used, I'd still strive to ensure that we both know what's what.
If their definition of 'Dominance' differs from your own then both of you need to sit down and clarify exactly what you define it as and what your expectations are. Both of you have equal weight in this discussion but overlapping isn't a given. Some people - especialy newbies - equate Dominance Read more… with selfish, careless behaviour (taking rather than sharing, let alone giving). I lost a submissive because she wanted black and blue buttocks/thighs weeks later, and that was far outside my own preferences and limits. She wanted someone 'more dominant' which I interpreted as her desire to find someone to indulge her in self-harm by proxy. Clearly it wasn't destined to last.
Another possible definition is where tasks and instructions are constant (via text or remote-control toys), rather than just when people are together. I don't think it applies in your case, which is clearly different preferences (and perhaps perceptions) but I offer it up as part of the general discussion.
Best - some delightful playmates and experiences.
Worst - dreadful 'erotica' published on the site.
I ask about their aftercare regime before I ever play with them - it's basic negotiation etiquette. If you're new to the scene then chances are that it's more Topping and bottoming, rather than D/s, so each scene should be negotiated. That includes aftercare as well as preferences and limits. The Read more… fact that he has a) failed to talk about it up front and b) seemingly disregardded you when you've brought it up infers that he's an abuser, not a Dominant. Run, don't walk.
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