Do you comment… positive or negative?

[Se****]

Do you comment on other people’s images or posts?

Do you interact positively or negatively with people (and I mean unprovoked interaction)?

What makes you comment negatively on an image you see of someone?

Better still, what makes you hold your tongue if you see something that you don’t like or find attractive? 

People will infer and make up their own reasons about why people post images of themselves online, maybe they’re right maybe they aren’t.

I post a LOT of images. I do it for a couple of reasons. However the main reason is because in general the lovely folk on sites such as this are positive about what I post and when they aren’t they USUALLY refrain from making any comment whatsoever.

For a girl who has never quite fit in - too tall, bigger than my ***rs, not conventionally pretty - this positive rein***ment is amazingly helpful for my self esteem. I’ll never believe that I look good or that I’m attractive but NOT being put down is a novelty for me and to be able to post images without *** of being judged is liberating.

This morning however, someone simply couldn’t stop themselves (actually no, that’s a lie, they COULD stop themselves but they CHOSE not to) from sending me a DM about how awful my body is.

Apparently in my profile image I look like a “fat fuck caught in a net” and I need to either “get some exercise or learn to photoshop”.

The question is why? Why bother to take time out of your day to offend another person for no reason? Why not just scroll on by? Block me so you never see my pics again if I repulse you. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, hell I’m not most peoples cup of tea but I’ll never understand being nasty simply for the sake of it. Or maybe this person thinks they were offering constructive criticism 🤔.

This IS NOT a post about me seeking affirmation or for people to comment on how I look. Nor is it a woe is me post. I am genuinely curious as to what makes someone go out of their way to be rude to someone else.

Love,

X

[Th****]

I never see the point in commenting negatively, if you dont like something just move on or if it offends you that much block them. Don’t yuck someone’s yum! I comment positively if i see something i like but never slate someone!

[jackthecoach]

I think ive been going wrong not commenting! lovely photo

[Ru****]

I like to comment positively bout people. Their style, their body, their laughs, how good they look when they show their naughty side.

Few reasons I post negatively is usually not regarding pictures of people themselves but rather when someone denies science and basic human knowledge and decency, is spiteful or openly supports racist/homophobic ideas.

[Sq****]

I comment directly and about their topic. It usually has a positive demeanor but anything is negative if they don't want to hear what you say no matter how give input. There's a lot of misconceptions in kink. It happens often.

[LeProfx]

I comment some pics. I have rarely feedback or message. Generally the majority of message are "can we chat somewhere else" And it is always false profiles deleted by the site after the end of the wlecome promo.

[Deleted Member]

I hope other people like me, would post positive comments about pictures and posts.
I enjoy seeing pictures of what other people do....it sometimes provides inspiration and sometimes makes you tweak what you are doing / how you do it.
With posts and discussions, I always engage positively and try and comment with support, where appropriate.
I think overall on the site, people are of the same mentality with enjoying the sphere in which we indulge.

[ki****]

I will rarely comment on photo, as some people prefer not to get comments on their looks from people they dont know even when its a compliment, I would never write anything negative thats for sure... I do send 'likes' for photos i like though... but there is absolutely no need for negativity... apps like this are supposed to be a safe space for people to share whatever they want to...

[Deleted Member]

Positive when I do interact. If I feel negative towards anyone which is rare I just move on. There is no need to post negativity. But I do understand that sometimes negative is what is expected and even desired. I mostly comment on the forum so my comments are usually positive.

[Co****]

I just don't comment, I hit the like if I like but that's it

[OT****]

Positive.

[Deleted Member]

Positive comments only

[Br****]

I rarely comment, because I open comments and it's usually full of creepy dudes trying to chat. Same with chat. I don't unless someone pings me a few times or hits me up first

[my****]

I don’t comment on pictures. Either positive or negative because one makes you an asshole the other makes you look desperate. I would compliment a good picture directly to that person, but never negatively for all the reasons you mentioned. I’d assume your negative comments are negging you trying to crush your confidence. The option is some people enjoy hurting other people, I should know, I just do it in a different way.

[SE****]

May I ?

[TimberTara]

Depends on the post and the people I prefer to comment but not always

[To****]

I rarely interact with any post but I try my best to keep my intentions positive. I don't see the need to bring any negativity to a post if you can just scroll past it. That's just me tho.

[Se****]

28 minutes ago, mythicalman said:

I don’t comment on pictures. Either positive or negative because one makes you an asshole the other makes you look desperate. I would compliment a good picture directly to that person, but never negatively for all the reasons you mentioned. I’d assume your negative comments are negging you trying to crush your confidence. The option is some people enjoy hurting other people, I should know, I just do it in a different way.

You know what the comment did to me because you know me so yeah, it affected me. Which I get is wholly ridiculous but… 🤷🏼‍♀️

[AKA_Copper]

I dont comment on people's photo's either negatively or positively especially if I dont 'know' them. Things can be taken out of context via text only.
I'm tired of people commenting unsolicited, vile 💩 on my photo's, random dudes who i've never interacted with. I used to delete them, now I'll be leaving them up for all to see.
Your dude was worse though, did it privately in DM's, nothing more than a coward. A guy ************ in his 40's who should know better. Probably doesn't it to others too considering how many msgs he's sent.
Hopefully the Mods will actually do something about it x

[AKA_Copper]

1 hour ago, SquirrelandWrangler said:

I comment directly and about their topic. It usually has a positive demeanor but anything is negative if they don't want to hear what you say no matter how give input. There's a lot of misconceptions in kink. It happens often.

There are but, the above was not a misconception. It was a demonstration of how ugly that individual is.

[Se****]

1 minute ago, CopperKnob said:

I dont comment on people's photo's either negatively or positively especially if I dont 'know' them. Things can be taken out of context via text only.
I'm tired of people commenting unsolicited, vile 💩 on my photo's, random dudes who i've never interacted with. I used to delete them, now I'll be leaving them up for all to see.
Your dude was worse though, did it privately in DM's, nothing more than a coward. A guy (Saint l154***) in his 40's who should know better. Probably doesn't it to others too considering how many msgs he's sent.
Hopefully the Mods will actually do something about it x

Thank you lovely, always appreciate your support xx

[AKA_Copper]

Just now, SerendipitousKeeper said:

Thank you lovely, always appreciate your support xx

Same, always got the important people's backs x

[LeProfx]

BTW if you have nothing to say positive on the other person. Pass and check somewhere else. We don't need negative persons. Isn't it ?

[Deleted Member]

Never negative. You only need power if you want to do harm otherwise Love’s enough to get it all done

[ca****]

I read and then wasn't going to comment then thought again and am commenting.

This persons action says everything about 'him' (and by the sounds of it, none of it is good)

I wish we could see the name they go by on this site etc   (why is it sites like this don't allow / want this?)  (bad publicity??)

Anyhow your 2nd last paragraph....  "The question is why? ........" etc  sums it up well.   Waste of time / space.  

Keep well

Edited December 5, 2025 by callipygian