Thoughts on adult circumcision?

[davex]

Heya,

I am a 23 y.o. uncut man, but for some reason I have been fascinated with circumcision since my early childhood.

Despite never being at the risk of it, at first, it was *** that I had to undergo it, then it turned into curiosity until finally turning into full on arousal. Now, for years, I have seriously considered getting it done, with my desire only getting stronger over time.

The weirdest part of it is that I am against circumcision. I understand the major downsides, I also consider it mutilation and am fully opposed to circumcision without consent (by the individual!!). And yet, my own body yearns to have it done to itself, to remove a pleasurable and sensitive part of itself. I have a few ideas where it could come from, but I am not sure. All I know is that the older I get, the more I feel like it is inevitable that I'll definitely get cut.
 

It's very hard to explain this kink and to find others who think similarly or understand, and who still share the same values. One of my favorite fantasies is to get cut for or even by a partner, but I know that this isn't something I'd normally agree with.

I'm hoping to find some people who understand me on here, since circumcision is a kind of body modification. I'm also just curious to talk about it, if you are interested, and wouldn't mind to reply to any questions anyone has. But I also have some questions for you: What is your opinion on (adult) circumcision? What do you think of someone who voluntarily undergoes this as an adult? What would you think/ do, if your partner confided this desire in you? Would you encourage or discourage them?

Thank you for any replies, and for staying civil

[Ne****]

I was 40 when I got circumcised it was about a year to be able to get used to the sensation but totally worth it now

[Psybunny]

I respect that circumcision is a kink for you. But sexually, I’m against the procedure itself. The foreskin isn’t just extra skin it has specialized nerve endings and helps with natural lubrication and sensation. Removing it can change how pleasure feels over time, including potential sensitivity loss.
So while I understand the fantasy, the real life act doesn’t feel sexy to me because it involves permanently reducing a part of the body that plays a major role in sexual pleasure. That’s why it’s not something I support.

[davex]

10 minutes ago, Psybunny said:

I respect that circumcision is a kink for you. But sexually, I’m against the procedure itself. The foreskin isn’t just extra skin it has specialized nerve endings and helps with natural lubrication and sensation. Removing it can change how pleasure feels over time, including potential sensitivity loss.
So while I understand the fantasy, the real life act doesn’t feel sexy to me because it involves permanently reducing a part of the body that plays a major role in sexual pleasure. That’s why it’s not something I support.

Thank you for being respectful!

And I get that. I was lucky that I had the chance to grow up uncut. I know of all the advantages of uncut and the disadvantages of being cut.

For the longest time, it was fantasy-only, but the longer I've had the fantasy, the more real it got, until now, where I was very close to booking an appointment multiple times.

I'll never tell anyone to do this, and until the day I'll die, I will be an intactivist. But this just makes me even more confused, as I do not want this to happen to anyone, except for me. Like I said, it is very hard to explain.

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[Sygass]

Best thing ever !

[be****]

So as a 37 yo male who is also uncut, completely disregarding the barbarism that comes from a circumcision, it does also affect sensitivity and is also scientifically shown that being cut also reduces overall penile length as you grow by upwards of 1/2”-3/4”. One of my exes ALMOST talked me into getting it done, thankfully her and I split before I ever went through with it. Basic hygiene is not hard, just pull your foreskin back, actually wash thoroughly and rinse and voila.

[ol****]

As someone who is circumcised, due to having it done for medical reasons (but it seems even that is now being criticised) - it’s not benefited me, in any shape of form.

Although, many find the appearance of cut physically appealing, it doesn’t extend pass that, and even that is set in stone.

I understand your desire for this procedure, however, if you get it done, not only will it probably be costly, but it can causes lead to complications- such as, inability to urinate precisely.

Although one commenter said that the procedure before puberty will effect size outcomes- this information and scientific consensus isn’t so absolute, actually I’ve not found information to suggest this; but I didn’t search long.

The reduction in sensitivity is commonly debated, some say they had it reduced, and some say increased- for those who had it before puberty, like myself, I wouldn’t know the difference.

Personally, I think circumcision is like getting a tattoo; people know the risks and effect it does to the body and yet still do it - mainly cosmetic reasons.

So you can decide what you want to decide, however your hesitation shows that maybe this decision isn’t what you want, and you may need to think why you think getting this procedure done will benefit you in any shape or form.

Because, although this is just from stuff I’ve heard, and read about. - the majority of circumcisions if done by normal health care options, are usually done by people training in surgical removal, as it’s quite easy compared to say removal of the spleen.

When I was younger I was too naive to realise that when the nurses said “he was quite pleased with the outcome of his cuts”

I didn’t believe that why on earth would it be someone not qualified- and as I got older, I can actually see how bad of cuts, but I just thought that’s how it goes - I think I am wrong, and obviously my surgeon had been drinking

But I digress, if you like the appearance of a cut penis, that might be because you’ve idealised it based on say porn, - look at the ones that go wrong, because, who’s to say yours won’t either.

[kn****]

I’m uncut but I have this same kink. I completely understand. There is something about having it done for me that make me happy. Honestly I haven’t had it done because it’s a one time thing. If I have it done I can’t imagine it again.

[Dr****]

lol I’ve had people who are close to me be like “omg, I’m so sorry that happened to you. You had no say in that!” Like I can see where they are coming from. But my parents did it with good intentions, it’s easier to clean, and honestly, I love the way it looks now that I’m in my early thirties. I’ve only heard great things about it in bed too lol. Now what interests me, is men wanting to get it in adulthood. Like I can remember what it was like at a small Bing bong, god knows my body held onto some of that trauma lol. Damn now I’m over thinking it

[br****]

I don’t think I know of anyone who voluntarily underwent this as an adult but I know when it is done it’s generally due to an infection. As uncircumcised is considered to be harder to keep clean and clear up sti when you get them. Thus having to have it cut to reduce reinfection and to heal what’s already there at times. Also for body modification, have you thought about about a piercing of sorts to see how that is first?

[wi****]

You will get it done then the a woman you meet will want you un cut

[LTPeg]

If I had a partner that were uncut and wanted it cut, regardless of age, I would support his desire. After all, it is his equipment and his choice. There would never be judgement though.

[Dr****]

7 minutes ago, LTPeg said:

If I had a partner that were uncut and wanted it cut, regardless of age, I would support his desire. After all, it is his equipment and his choice. There would never be judgement though.

Love this 💗💗💗

[sp****]

Had it done when I was 19 and was happy I did im 40 now still prefer it myself .
Yes it was Abit uncomfortable for like a week but after that about 3 weeks healing and it's all good then but you have to be careful and give it time to heal right

[Ty****]

My older brother did it in his 30's got snipped. He said it was the biggest mistake of his life, all the feeling you lose. Dont do it, I was done at birth so I never knew the difference, hopefully it dont ruin your fun time.

[be****]

2 hours ago, bristol96079 said:

I don’t think I know of anyone who voluntarily underwent this as an adult but I know when it is done it’s generally due to an infection. As uncircumcised is considered to be harder to keep clean and clear up sti when you get them. Thus having to have it cut to reduce reinfection and to heal what’s already there at times. Also for body modification, have you thought about about a piercing of sorts to see how that is first?

So speaking as someone who’s not cut. Keeping it clean is not hard at all, and given that I’ve actually been smart with all of my partners and have gotten tested regularly both *** and swab (to cover all bases) I’ve also never caught anything. Hygiene isn’t hard, pull the skin back all the way so that way it’s essentially inside out, actually wash not just run water over it, thoroughly rinse and dry.

[la****]

Don't recommend getting it. I had it done at birth and have nerve damage from it. I have to take ED meds because of it.

[Ni****]

Maybe keep it as a fantasy, because I suspect it's one of those where the reality will disappoint. I have encountered a few penises where the foreskin wouldn't retract over the glans. If yours is like that, then removing it would likely improve both hygiene and sexual sensation, which I know is counter to what people tell you about having it done. But otherwise I can't imagine any benefits.

Assuming you don't have an overly tight foreskin, it will change the way you masturbate. So at the very least, I would suggest rolling back your foreskin and holding it back with one hand while attempting to masturbate with the other. You will now have friction between your hand and the glans that was previously not there due to the movement of the foreskin. You will likely find you need lube just to play with yourself once it's done. At least until it desensitises.

As for it being mutilation, so are tattoos, piercings and cosmetic surgeries if you want to look at them that way. At least you'd be an adult choosing to do this rather than an infant having that choice taken away.

[Wi****]

11 hours ago, Driggydax said:

lol I’ve had people who are close to me be like “omg, I’m so sorry that happened to you. You had no say in that!” Like I can see where they are coming from. But my parents did it with good intentions, it’s easier to clean, and honestly, I love the way it looks now that I’m in my early thirties. I’ve only heard great things about it in bed too lol. Now what interests me, is men wanting to get it in adulthood. Like I can remember what it was like at a small Bing bong, god knows my body held onto some of that trauma lol. Damn now I’m over thinking it

Would you say the same about female circumcision too?

FGM has been illegal for nearly half century, yet men have little rights and I find parents sexually mutilating their *** as barbaric no matter what the gender.

[sp****]

the interesting is the same old: never seem any circumcised man claiming he was ***d…. go deal with your problems like stds, face tattoo’s and general respect instead of lecturing the ones you don’t even know and probably will never ask your opinion. If so, help the OP, not your medieval beliefs.

[Sw****]

16 hours ago, la-paz437402 said:

Don't recommend getting it. I had it done at birth and have nerve damage from it. I have to take ED meds because of it.

Speaking as someone who was circumcised at age 6 for medical reasons I have to say I really think you have no idea what the reality could be like for you. Man don't do it. You are good as you are. My experience was ***ful, messy, traumatic and caused problems. Why the hell would you even consider taking the risk? This is no joke. Don't do it if you don't have to. 100% do not do it.

[Sw****]

Actually, I really wish it hadn't ever happened to me so to hear you talking about it in what appears to be a frivolous way like its just a kink you should be able to indulge is quite triggering. You are in tact and should be grateful for that. It's too high risk, reduces sensitivity and absolutely should not be taken lightly.

[ba****]

Ouch is all I can think !!!

[kinkymasterandrew]

I agree with your view of the procedure on youngsters unless they need it for medical reasons. That being said, you are a consenting adult, so don't let that stop you. Many people are opposed to spanking youngsters but have no issue with consenting adults getting it. I was circumcised at 8 for medical reasons and it was very unpleasant (be careful using the bathroom after, that hurts too and I wasn't expecting it. Just wear lots of soft sweatpants after.) but if that's what you want there's no reason not to do it. Many adults get it done for religious reasons, so it's not that unusual.

[ma****]

Here's what I'm learning about decisions that shouldn't be decisions.

When you're stuck evaluating something like this, the conflict isn't really about the procedure. It's about the absence of a framework. You're asking your emotions to do the work your value system should handle automatically.

Self-love isn't a feeling. It's a filter. Self-care isn't indulgence. It's infrastructure. Your value systems, the real ones, not the inherited ones, they act like code. Input data. Process through your actual priorities. Output decision. No drama. No debate.

The fact that you're conflicted tells me the system isn't built yet. And that's okay. I'm weeks into building mine. But here's what I know for sure, once you define what matters to you, your body, your autonomy, your future, your relationships, your health, these questions answer themselves.

The surgery isn't the question. The question is: what do I value more, comfort now or alignment with who I'm becoming?

Data doesn't care about guilt. Logic doesn't negotiate with shame. Facts don't wait for permission.

Build the system. The decision will write itself.

P.S.: If you need help with any of that, hit me up, I gotchu. I’ve just barely arrived myself after a collapse and 7 weeks under the belt of “becoming”. 🤜