Any experienced Masters ever submit to being fully owned as a pet or Slave?

[Sw****]

Is it rare or common for a less experienced Dom to have a seriously experienced mistress pursuing hime to be owned as a pet or slave.. I’ve always been somewhat switch and enjoy aggressive women who can also be submissive.. but a good bit more dominant than passive. The dynamic of is very strong.. I am very attracted to this Dom. Part of me refuses to allow myself to this but another part really wants to, just to learn, and experience this woman. I am truly honored she chose me.

Anyone? Any long timers seen or experienced much of
This? Any advice or precaution about how to move forward? Am I supposed to be true to my nature to avoid unnecessary conflict? Is there a code of sorts?

[Bi****]

Communication is key. I mean it should go without saying but sometimes it’s easy to get lost in the spanks, the bondage, the sex. I’ve been in similar spot as you and what worked for me was redirection. She wants to be the domme? Sure make yourself dominantly submissive. Your “true nature” is also shifting and adaptive. If conflict arises you talk it through. If she’s less experienced you guide her to how to best have you in the palm of her hand and not have her try to bend and break you. I think you will manage but once again, communicate. I wish you all the best of luck

[Ma****]

Not really. Honestly, although there have been some ladies whose Domination has been so intense that it became seductive, when trying it they always felt bad.

This said if you feel she can satisfy you and you get, in the end all you can do is try... But I'd say communication is more than key than in the usual dynamics, as there might be a moment that either of you will not find what you sought in the first place and will have to realize a way to end the relationship amicably... Or so I think.

[Do****]

I could never, although the curiosity is there. I know it would be a passing thing and honestly, that serves no one, least of all me. I know I could not tolerate the things my pets enjoy, and I’d honestly be…dare I say…a bit ***ful to connect with a dom that was as hard as me. My expectations are high for my pets and it would be a lot of effort and mental gymnastics on my part to conform to someone else’s expectations.

If you’re curious, just go for it. Worst case you don’t like it, best case you open up a whole different side of yourself you get to explore.

[OT****]

I wouldn’t know how rare or common it is - but I wouldn’t think that mattered. If this is about a truly unique and individual connection where you find out something(s) about yourself then that feels like a good thing to pursue.

Dominating a strong character can be a challenge and an opportunity to feel achievement and accomplishment so I am imagining that what attracts her to you is your nature. So be true to your nature and enjoy where that, and she, takes you.

As for a code - that sounds like something that you would discuss and create together. Have you told her what you would like to experience? I think you have a unique opportunity here to open up and be ***- and I understand how conflicting it can be to be attracted to someone and not want to feel like I am losing control. But you say that part of you does want this.

In my admittedly very experiential philosophy, it is better to regret something that I did than something that I didn’t do. So if I felt my desire was to explore and learn and experience this woman, then I would follow my desire and see what I learn about my nature.

Best wishes to you - kink is all about exploring and integrating these experiences which our ‘normal’ selves have tried to deny but which we feel drawn to.

[OT****]

The word that got censored in the app was v u l n e r a b l e.

[ey****]

in the olden days in *some* regions, would be Dominants would be expected to be subs first "for experience" - for me, that is a bs system - but some swear it worked

 

but I think the issue here is you kinda want to do it, but feel it goes against what you're otherwise doing. Don't worry, it doesn't. 

[Me****]

I would strongly suggest to really establish what you are willing and not willing to do because to know your boundaries along with soft and hard limits will make it easier for you to guard yourself. You are in a mental conflict so if you want to move forward you have to calm that conflicted side of you by making that side of you feel safe. I suggest reading the new bottoming book that can give you insight on being a bottom and what to look for to make sure you are not falling into something dangerous.

Best of luck. I have had several men who Are doms come to me and want to submit because of my history and titles and just learn. I am extremely picky in what I look for so if the Dom doesn’t fit my specifications then they are trying to put themselves in a box they don’t really fit in. I like to make sure the authenticity is there and it is not just a quick flicker of desire. A one and done if you will. If someone wants to learn from me they have to be willing to take the time. Ask yourself how much of you are you willing to invest in this and be honest with the other person on that.

[wo****]

I think this is a very interesting topic @SweetLipSmakah I don’t know, but my guess is that it is uncommon to rare for a Dom, regardless of their experience level, to have an experienced mistress actually pursuing him to be owned as a pet or slave.

Overall, I think it is uncommon for a woman to actively pursue a man in comparison to the opposite. I suppose it is much more likely that an aggressive woman would do this in comparison to a non aggressive woman though.

It is very interesting to me. I’m curious to know more about the personalities of both you and her in order to get more insight. Is this mostly just something happening because of physical attraction between the two of you? Is it the chemistry due to that as well as attraction of personalities? Primarily about attraction to personality?

Did one or both of you know of the others Dom proclivities from the start?
How much of a role do those things play in each of your interests in the other? As a lifelong student of interpersonal dynamics and psychology as it relates to people’s motivations and behavior, the potential complexities involved is something I am extremely curious about.

As to your questions “am I supposed to be true to my nature to avoid unnecessary conflict” and “is there a code of sorts” it’s not clear to me what you’re asking. What do you mean by your nature? Your Dom nature? Your switch nature? Your interest in aggressive women? Something else?
What kind of code(s) do you imagine when asking if there is one? Are you wanting to know because you feel some obligation to follow it? Are you looking for a rode map because you don’t know how to proceed or because you feel a sort of obligation to follow it to align with others ideas or the “correct” way to be Dom/switch/etc instead of following your own moral code and figuring out a relationship with her based on individual wants and needs you each have through ongoing communication with her?

I asked lots of questions and didn’t answer yours. I apologize if this bothers you as it’s not my intent. Your situation fascinates me. A big part of my nature is wanting to understand people. Wanting to understand what factors into their behavior and the interactions people have with others.

For many years my interest and training focused on understanding myself, what drives my behavior, and analyzing my own interactions with others. The scope of that broadened to include the complexities of involved in the behavior, motivations, and interactions of all people as individuals both professionally and as a personal interest.

Maybe my questions or long winded ramblings will give you or others something to be curious about for whatever reason and contribute to something positive for them. I hope you provide an update on your situation at some point. If you do I look forward to it.

[Do****]

25+ years ago, my submissive come to me and said that she had heard that for someone to be a good dominant they had to learn to be submissive. I will say because we had a very strong relationship I was willing to “play Long“ I can call her mistress or whatever she wanted. I could kiss touch or allow whatever she wanted to be done until she told me to kiss her feet. And to be fair, and normal play when I am the dominant, there’s not a part of her body that I didn’t want to have contact with but because she ordered me to kiss her feet, I could not bring myself to do it. Someone throughout this thread mentioned being or not being wired in that way. And there’s a lot to be said about that. For a few minutes to play along I thought about ways to making her think that I actually kissed her feetand when I decided to try it, I couldn’t go through with it because then she would’ve thought that I did that. Into this day I’m not sure why I couldn’t “play Long” but as reference, we’re all wired differently.

[al****]

My second Master was switch. He was my Master but he in turn had a Domme. So in a sense I had 2 bosses. I wasn’t a fan of this arrangement because she told him what we could and could not do. Then when he got in trouble he took it out on me. Not a good situation. We ended up parting ways. I still think about him but not always fondly.

[Oonax2023]

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