Halloween is a big night for kinksters. But why do they love it so much? Fetish.com writer investigates.

Imagine my surprise when I went to my first BDSM Halloween party. The sleepy little dungeon that I loved so much, the one that houses 20 people comfortably, overflowed that night. There were kinksters on every piece of dungeon equipment. All the chairs in the social area were filled. A few people were sitting on laps. Plenty of subs were on the floor by their Dominants’ feet. People were standing everywhere, and those who couldn’t fit inside poured into the parking lot.

Halloween was the night of the local kinksters. People who hadn’t been out in months were dressed up and ready to party. But why do kinksters love it so much?

  1. Kinksters don’t have to buy a costume for Halloween. Pull out some fetish gear or one of your roleplay costumes, and you’re ready to go!
  2. All black, purple lipstick, and dark eye make-up. You’re not goth, but you are ready for the fetish party.
  3. No one blinks at all the leather or the latex. It’s hard to explain a latex bodysuit to any one other than kinksters on any other night of the year.
  4. No one is going to question the crop or the bullwhip on Halloween. And if they do, tell them you’re the Dungeon Master. They’ll think “medieval times”, but you’ll know that the house safeword is “red.”
  5. Wanting to be a kitten or puppy isn’t “weird” to anyone. In fact, it’s adorable, and all kinksters - and indeed everyone else - will want to pet you and touch your tail.
  6. Kinksters on a lead or leash only get a couple of weird looks.
  7. One word: corsets
  8. Another word: fishnets
  9. No one understands why you’re wearing a collar, but on Halloween, they’re less likely to ask about it.
  10. Kinksters don’t have to change from street clothes to your fetish gear when you get to the BDSM party or club on Halloween.
  11. The footie pyjamas, sippy cup, and crayons are all part of your “costume.” Wink, wink.
  12. On any other night, your dominatrix act would freak out the random vanilla guy, but on Halloween, it’s all part of the fun.
  13. When in doubt, kinksters can tell their very vanilla friends that they're Christian and Anastasia from 50 Shades of Grey. They’ll blush and laugh, but they won’t question it.
  14. Dressing up is fun any time of year for kinksters, but at least on Halloween, it’s socially acceptable when you go out to dinner.
  15. When look hungover after the party, everyone will think it was the booze. They’ll never suspect sub/top space.
  16. No one cares how much of your boobs or ass hangs out of the costume. Just call yourself “sexy” whatever - sexy schoolgirl, sexy goth, sexy nurse.
  17. For once, even in our craziest fetish gear, kinksters blend right in!
  18. And if you just wear jeans and a t-shirt or whatever you’re comfortable in, none of your kinky friends will ask why you aren’t wearing a costume.

I have never been the type to wear a Halloween costume. It’s not my thing, but give me the crazy heels, a corset, and some fishnet stockings, and I’m ready to have a good time at a kinky Halloween party. Best of all, no one gives me weird looks when I leave the house in my “costume.”

Kayla Lords is a freelance writer, sex blogger, and a masochistic babygirl living the 24/7 D/s life. Follow her on her website or on Twitter @Kaylalords.


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