Fi**** Posted January 3 So we are looking at profiles on here and we see a lady we want to chat with and see if there is a connection. Aside from just saying "hello"; what are some ways you start out a message to someone for the first time? Looking for creative and funny and hopefully increase our chances of starting a conversation. We tried one opening message we thought was funny and it resulted in getting blocked or passed up.
Ma**** Posted January 3 Mention something that caught your eye within their profile. Whether it’s a pic or something said in describing what they seek shows you invested the time to review their profile and you have a genuine interest.
Deleted Member Posted January 3 You can start with y'all intent, to allow them to fully know what to expect, then go from there
Go**** Posted January 3 General suggestions- Make sure you read their profile to ensure they’re interested in couples. Try to mention something from their profile, start up a conversation, be interested in them as a whole person, and most of all be yourselves.
Sa**** Posted January 3 I like focusing on a part of the profile that I liked, but I know that a lot of profiles on here have nothing but photos...if its only photos, try complimenting an outfit or a physical feature you like to try and start a convo
Am**** Posted January 3 Say somthing about how tall they are. I actual like a woman or people her asking my how the weather is up here cause ik 6’3. Just makes me feel like they’re funny and wonder of their just being sassy. Also ask like their weirdest kink confession. The weird thing that has turned them on as long as you’re not judgemental. Will make them think and you may have a laugh depending on what they say. Maybe lll
be**** Posted January 3 Honestly your best chance is to be honest with them on what you want and definitely partake in asking them how they feel about it. Respect like that goes a long way
kr**** Posted January 3 Saying hi, hello, or saying they look good is the best way. People don't really go for substance, only first impressions from your pictures
Daddybrains Posted January 3 Some profiles describe how to approach them, or how not to. In the absence of that, be positive, don’t make it about sex, and give some proof that you read the profile. You might still get insta-blocked for approaching in this way but it’s honest and respectful.
ey**** Posted January 3 there's no magic bullet, unfortunately. Like if you thought an opening message was funny and they weren't interested, they weren't the one for you. I guess of course, firstly to make sure there's somewhat of a chance she's interested in what you're offering - i.e. has specifically mentioned that they are interested in couples. But otherwise, keep messages brief, but to the point. Hello is too short, your life story is too long. Like, you saw them and you're interested, let them know that and why. If you think a joke would be a good icebreaker, do it - if they don't like it, then there's no connection so problem solved
Do**** Posted January 3 You are looking for a unicorn and they are given that title because they are magical and really hard to find. Your first message might've been funny, you're just offering something she has no interest in and that's why she blocked. Single women on these app get bombarded with a LOT and straight couples looking for a unicorn is very common. And as a straight woman I can tell you I have no interest in eating pussy - so your first responsibility is to make sure you're contacting a bi woman. Lesbians and straight women aren't interested in your fantasy. And given how you're presenting your desires, bi folk might not be interested in it either. Not everyone wants to be part of a throuple. But it doesn't seem like that is what you're offering either. You're not really inviting someone into your marriage, you want a fantasy fulfilled that's a big difference. If you want to explore your sexuality, you might have better chances dating solo. Also, ask any average guy on here and they'll tell you a lot of women don't want a "short king" and your husband's dwarfism (I hope I am using the appropriate term, I read your bio, my apologies if I used the incorrect term) might further add to your struggles in finding a unicorn. If your husband is supportive of your bisexuality he could consider it an option for you to date separately without feeling threatened. Not the answer you wanted, but that is the reality of the matter. We're all trying to find partners that match our kinks and that is a challenge that goes beyond just the first message sent. Good luck to you.
PresentisPeculiar Posted January 3 I mention the glitchy app or acknowledge they get a ton of messages and I can only imagine the stuff they get. I say why I pinged them and if they are interested but don't want to chat right now. Check my bio out as I write a full one. Or I compliment them on something I was drawn to (not crude) or how their bio and interests align with mine. It it's a well written vio, I compliment it. Mix and match these it all of them ..it's honest. I don't do that as a formula. It's just what I think a good conversation with a stranger starts from...common space, and it sure doesn't hurt to contrast your style from the " I wanna tie u up " mouthbteathers
Ta**** Posted January 3 Unicorns are rare. I would also block any couple that tries to get into my DMs
Do**** Posted January 3 There's nothing you can say if it's not what they want - that's probably why you were blocked
cu**** Posted January 4 Make sure you read their profile and tailor your message accordingly. The only people who get answers when messaging me are ones that meet my profile requirements. Everyone else gets ignored. That may be tough, but women get bombarded with messages on here and it burns you out if you respond to everyone. Try not to take it personally. It usually comes down to preferences. Also, like others have said, unicorns are very rare. I know, for me, while I used to be open to couples, im not ok without being someone's number one anymore. I would suspect this holds true for many women.
Ch**** Posted January 4 Icebreaker 1st impression, just be honest & be yourselves, be real and not someone y'all are not. Reading about the person should give you an idea of who your after and bounce idea's off each other on what to say
mb**** Posted January 4 Sometimes just asking questions is good I am not always great speaking about myself but do better answer questions Someone once sent a list of 25-50 questions and we took turns answering . ( they did ghost but that’s more my luck when it comes to dating in any context)
Th**** Posted January 4 It's often a good idea to start the chat with a question that relates to the person's profile. This shows that you are interested in the person as a whole and that, unlike many others on this platform, you have actually read their profile. Since profiles often contain information such as the person's preferences, this can be used as an icebreaker to move from their preferences to what you are looking for and why their profile caught your attention.
DS**** Posted January 5 Ask - can we break the ice slowly like I’d push the tip of my penis into your asshole ?
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