HOW I FOUND MY FIRST KINK

[Deleted Member]

My ex cheated on me & after all the angry emotions left, I found myself more curious and turned on.

[fo****]

When my ex sat on my face the first time although I’m primarily dominant I loved the loss of control and feeling smothered

[Ka****]

When I was a kid I saw my first pair of dirty panties in hamper at home. Have loved panties ever since. Now many years later I love wearing them.

[Fi****]

Ex wanted to spice things up with another couple. I agreed (after a lot of talk and convincing). We had several encounters but, alas things went bad. Had nothing to do with the fun times, but it was the beginning of my kink for threesome, foursome and moresome... expanded my horizons for sure.

[SeduceMySynapse]

Narcissist didn’t touch me or give me any attention for weeks!! I felt used but I got hooked in so many times. He did give but not sexual touch. But I gave him pleasure. Then finally he gave me what o wanted out of nowhere! I went quickly into subspace. It was….. intense.

Never had anything like it again, sadly.

[Pr****]

the first time I really felt kinky was when my gf told me a guy in class kept telling her about how much he liked me....
my gf didn't want to have intercourse so we only did oral and anal...

after a few months I became very interested in how it would feel to be in her shoes during anal....
I started remembering the guy she told me about and found that he lived close to me.
we rode the bus together home from school and would talk about all of his kinky fantasies and I kept feeding into it telling him I'd do anything he wanted..

I ended up cheating on my girl and was a total slut for this guy... I only regret that I didn't tell her about it, but I don't believe she ever really knew what was going on, so I hope there was no real hurt feelings (we broke up for an unrelated situation..)
I fall in love with women, but I can't imagine feeling satisfied without a man to use me when I feel like I need it..

I'm not sure I've ever met a girl that would be interested in me after telling her I'm bi, but I don't want to be in a relationship again without telling my partner about my proclivities....

[He****]

I'm a male that was emotionally, financially, physically, and even sexually ***d without my consent for years. My ex wife was an attorney (and even the local attorney responsible for prosecuting the exact crimes she committed against me for parts of that time) and violent, and I ***ed there was no safe way out.
Once I managed to make an escape without getting ***ed, I started flirting via text or snap, some phone sex. Sometimes it was with other *** survivors, women I'd met in online support groups, because we knew how to make the other comfortable despite recent ***.

I realized I'm a dom, because I need to have that control to feel safe. But I also realized because of what I'd been through just how important the mutual consent is - and it's the dom that is responsible for maintaining that. That responsibility itself is appealing to me.
It's hot to push boundaries, but never hot to break them.

[wi****]

Well, it was in the days of dial up, AIM and MySpace. I watched a guy give himself oral and thought, "how nice to be able to do that". And so much else beyond that, much of it starting(with myself). I got creative before I could buy toys. And we've only taken off since those times. But I felt my fascination around stimulation of all kinds was my sole and main indicator.

[Ch****]

When I was 15 I was in the Caribbean. My cousin‘s girlfriend had took me out to the movies. She was a BBW. My cousin knew I like the bigger girls so you went out watch the movie after that we went to KFC. She ate about 2 buckets of chicken in front of me. Then after that, she asked if I was hungry. I said “no”. Then we went to a burger joint. She ordered 6 burgers and ate all of them in front of me.

Something in me just SNAPPED. 😵‍💫👄.

She literally just sucked the mayo off her fingers and tits. Then she rubbed her stomach in front of me. 😵‍💫 while in the car she asked me if I was ok driving back to my cousins home. I had morning wood. Or nighttime wood😤😭.

I went home and researched and I found out that it’s called Feederism and here I am couple years later🤭

[Ba****]

The second girl i had a crush on and the first one i confessed my feeling to, back around second grade of elementary school, responded by telling me that she was scared of me which was confusing to say the least and that i found it to be more arousing instead of depressing was the cause of much introspection
About a year later a older popular girl (the kind that walked around with her own little harem of boys) just slapped me for whatever reason and i just laughed in her face because it didn’t even hurt, she slapped me again, i just laughed harder and that went on until her face was bright red and she started crying, when i later learned about shame from a book (because I don’t have any of my own) i connected the dots and watching a confident strong woman’s pride crack in shame has been one of my primary fetishes since
The rest was either always there or grew slowly with me as a result of little me having barely any relevant control over my situation/surrounding while having to seriously restrain myself

[lo****]

Eye

[Zi****]

I was 9 or 10 and used to go to Parks and Recs in the summer. There was a leader who was about 16 or 17 and she was stunning to say the least. All of the boys (even other leaders) were enamored by her beauty. She had medium length brown hair, gorgeous body, and very cute face. While playing soccer one time, I stole the ball from her which surprised her and passed it to a teammate. She ran up behind me and hugged me from behind. For my age, it was quite arousing.
That night I had a dream (maybe wet, can’t remember) and she was there. She was in her tight little gray shorts and tight tank top. We happened to be the only ones there. She smiled at me and started to undress. Her top first revealing her amazing tits. Then she wiggled a bit and slid her shorts down. To my confusion, she had a rather large cock. It was not cut, hung down… and at that age, I am confident that I’d never seen one like that.

I woke up confused, yet aroused. That dream has stuck with me since then. The soccer game was on the last day of the program, so I never saw her again.

[Mi****]

When we started on our journey, my wife was very apprehensive about me penetrating another woman and generally just unsure of how she felt with me playing solo.

Then I met a wonderful friend (lol like one of the first people I met on here) and we talked all the time, would hang out a lot, etc. We'd made out a few times but hadn't had an opportunity for anything else.

Then it came up. The wife and I were out with friends who are on the same journey and I said "X wants to hang out tonight and we're gonna have fun". Lol didn't ask just stated it. Not in an alpha way or anything just said it. Our friends got big smiles on their faces (everyone's met X and like her).

I look over at my wife. She has an uncertain look on her face then I see something go off inside her head. She gets a big smile, jumps up and hugs and kisses me and tells me to have whatever fun I want. All very much in a positive way.

After being with X, wife was already asleep when I got home. She got up before me for work the next day and just said "you got home late ... you owe me stories!"

When she got home from work she asked, the whole time having such a smile on her face she loved hearing about it.

The fact that she was legitimately happy and excited for me (for us - me and her, me and X, all of us lol) really cemented for me that we're on the right journey.

I hear of some people saying their partner just wants to know high level details, but she wanted all of them (I got consent from X to do so).

It was an amazingly freeing experience for me. She'd had some play with various people and I've always encouraged her and enjoyed hearing details but I really wasn't sure that she would feel the same way.

We're Gen X so we don't like labels and I really think not labeling ourselves as swingers or the wife as bisexual or me as curious has been very healthy. Love who you want, play with whomever you want, etc. Our marriage has never been more secure and it really feels like a veil has been lifted for us.

I still hang out with X a lot and we talk every day.

Now the wife and I are still looking for our first experience together.

[PK****]

I was on a first date, with someone i would soon find out was kinky af, and it was going really well. Nice breakfast and conversation and we decided to continue the conversation at a nearby park. Walking and talking, kissing and holding hands. She had to walk ahead for a minute and once we passed the other park goers I walked up behind her and kissed her neck as my hand shifted to her waist. She led me on a side trail and once we were mostly out of site, she walked us over to a prop she could use to steady as she bent over and waited for me to take her. Shocked and turned on unexpectedly, I took my opportunity for public intimacy and her(figured out right after that nearby houses could see the show). Following that, she opened my eyes to a number of kinks. Best intro to kink ever!!

[ke****]

One of my earliest moments of realisation was my ex way and I was fooling around she flipped me over licked my but and called me a bitch for coming and done our first rough face sitting to me and I went to sleep a shocked satisfied bloke

[Do****]

I’d always enjoyed roleplays like teacher/student but when she first looked up in my eyes and said “F**k me, Daddy”, I was in absolute heaven and knew this was a special kind of connection. DDLG just fits so well for me, it’s like the perfect blend of cuddly nurturing warmth with dirty taboo power play vibes.. now I’m absolutely hooked and always excited to meet a new “daughter” and see what kind of dynamic we can develop 😜

[Af****]

So I was 23, in my first job out of college, working a trade show. I saw this woman eyeing me over the course of the week. We make contact, exchange email addresses, and corresponded after the show was over, all high level. Then she pivoted to AOL IM (it was 2000 after all...) and things started to get spicy. Remember we didn't have smartphones then. Then she pivots the conversation into sex, and I admit to being pushed back-- she was married etc. at the second trade show we worked, she wound up coming to my hotel on the last night. The next time we had a rendezvous, it was at her house-- with her husband in the living room listening. I was freaked out, but I stayed up and finished the job. My introduction to hotwifing.

[Mi****]

I know this is where a lot of people roll their eyes, but Fifty Shades of Grey was actually my entry point. BDSM sounded scary to me at first—too extreme, too far outside anything I thought I’d ever want. But it pushed me to research and really understand the dynamic. What I learned is that, at its core, it’s about respect, consent, and clearly defined boundaries.

Those guidelines are what make it safe. And because it’s safe, I can finally shut my mind off. Everywhere else in my life I’m in control—I’m responsible, managing, making decisions. This is the one place where I don’t have to do that. I can let someone else take the lead, knowing I always have the power to stop, redirect, or say no. That freedom is what changed everything for me

[Do****]

That’s so true @midnightfrontdesk - in a way power dynamics are actually really empowering to the sub - as you get to decide what is ok and what isn’t !

[vi****]

I (M) went to a rock concert and saw a friend (F) there I hadn't seen for years. We talked and drank. Then took a long stroll to her house, stoping by a bar to get some extra beers.
When we arrived at the appartment she asked me to come in, which I did - we still had like 4 beers to demolish. But.. suddenly she dissapeared to the bathroom to "get ready". She took helluva time too. Maybe like 30min.
She then came out of the bathroom buttnaked, stradled me and started kissing me. She led me to her bedroom, got on top of the bed on all fours and ... she told me to stick it in her butt. No lube no nothing.
That was my first time doing anal and I'm kinda obsessed with it now..

Ran into her maybe half a year later and the same thing happened.

Haven't tried it with any other partners because I don't wanna appear creepy 😭

[Exhibitionguy]

I spied on my mom having a mfm when I was 20…she definitely had a thing for big cocks…

[wi****]

One of my exs let me be dominant with her, let me do whatever I wanted, so I stuck it in her ass and she enjoyed it 😄

[Se****]

My partner and I were spooning on a random day, and we were getting a little frisky when he accidently started pushing into my ass. We had lube by the bed, so I grabbed that, and we kept going deeper. Literally was grinding aggressively to him and loved it 😌 it was an amazing first experience. We still enjoy anal daily.

[Se****]

Yesterday at 01:38 PM, viimsi29543 said:

I (M) went to a rock concert and saw a friend (F) there I hadn't seen for years. We talked and drank. Then took a long stroll to her house, stoping by a bar to get some extra beers.
When we arrived at the appartment she asked me to come in, which I did - we still had like 4 beers to demolish. But.. suddenly she dissapeared to the bathroom to "get ready". She took helluva time too. Maybe like 30min.
She then came out of the bathroom buttnaked, stradled me and started kissing me. She led me to her bedroom, got on top of the bed on all fours and ... she told me to stick it in her butt. No lube no nothing.
That was my first time doing anal and I'm kinda obsessed with it now..

Ran into her maybe half a year later and the same thing happened.

Haven't tried it with any other partners because I don't wanna appear creepy 😭

Lol just ask your next partner if they are open to trying!

[gr****]

I literally began never experiencing sexual arousal or pleasure. It just never existed in me. Right from the start before there was sex it was boys getting gropey n pokey. You know what I mean. I didn’t feel anything other than the touch. It was an exciting time though whenever boys started fancying you. So I didn’t say.

Then my 1st time was the same and every relationship after. We would still have sex cos you know I was the one with the fault but for me it was always GAAWD hurry up in my head! 😂 anyway it’s probably an important factor in the story what kind of person I am. I am confident, bold, sociable I banter like a lad and I intimate more than ever get intimidated.

So one time with my awesome bf I first admitted I don’t feel any sexual pleasure, you can still fck me though. He said, can I wank over your tits. I was eh yeah! He was happy, I was happy it went on like that for a while.
Occasionally though he’d be that extra horny way n go right to it. One time instead of pulling down my top he grabbed at my hips yanked my trousers and skants down in that overly horn way it takes over.
Well did I not just have lil puff n pant and then a moan. He was surprised to hear it but not more than me!
See he was so used to whipping down my top whenever he got the twinge and me being fine with it he hadn’t even realise it’s not same until the difference had a very different reaction. That was my first arousal and it was insane. When we next tested it out turns out the arousal is so high I just surrender in absolute submission to that type of way.

It was also his first time experiencing being that way and it really got him off too. So there it began. Both of us finding out more together going further until there just wasn’t any boundaries. So turns out I am 100% masochist and he is all about being a sadist. Just not in the ***ful ways, it’s more degenerate like ***, CNC stuff and putting me in that aroused state then have me only feel pleasure to things that was always on my absolutely not list.

My hard no list became his to do list and he was diabolical even Down to the wickedness of the betrayal has me in an absolute knot. He even gets all the pics n videos to shame me right into that state again 😂 like I said he’s diabolical


So ye. basically I get nothing from being treated all the ways Its supposed be and everything from all the ways it’s not proper to be.

I know it’s backwards but what can I do, we don’t choose our thing. Our “things” do 😂😂😂