Nervous to try

[mo****]

They*

[je****]

Not really nervous

[To****]

Honestly, feeling both excited and nervous is totally normal… it shows you care about your safety and boundaries.
• Being nervous isn’t a warning, it’s just your body telling you it matters.
• You don’t have to enjoy everything...some parts might feel good, some neutral, some you’ll learn about yourself.
• Experience changes what excites you; it can grow or shift once you try it.
• Any decent partner will expect this uncertainty and move at a pace that feels safe.

Honestly, if you only feel excitement with no nerves, that worries me more. Take it slow, stay curious, and don’t stress about getting it “right.” There’s very little you can actually mess up😉

[le****]

Everyone is new at BDSM at some point, as for me I'm new to it too I would love to try everything and come up with much more l.

[Mi****]

Never tried anything kinky but always been curious about having a dominant woman pegging me but no one seems interested in that

[Mt****]

I think the scary part is that you might screw things up with your partner, at least that’s one for me. But any one worth experimenting with should put communication consent, boundaries and trust above all else -

[et****]

You just have to follow what feels right and take it slow

[co****]

Generally way more exciting than *** it should be talked out until both of you understand it's important, and I know lots of ppl worry about when you break up or if the other person is an a**hole who laughs about it. But know your partner enough to know either they fully understand and find leverage in case they were a sh*tty person/partner

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i struggle to find someone in real life aswell, that's why i like to chat with strangers online and discuss kinks with them through here ahaha

[Te****]

It’s the spotlight effect, you think everyone is looking and it’s a big deal but no one is looking and really only important to you. That being said, if this is a person you’re naked with then they aren’t going to laugh. If you’re really shy, find it in porn and share it. Say”I’ve always been curious about how that would be” if they’re ugly about it, start looking for a new person. You can always hire a pro, it won’t be a big deal to them and you can take it for a test drive. I wanted to impress a girl with some Shibari ties but couldn’t practice on her so I hired a pro
Said I need 4 hours and you can keep your underwear on.

[Deleted Member]

wax play by myself

[Bm****]

In my experience depending on the kink it can go either way depending on how you and your future partner actually play it out IRL. Sometimes just talking about a kink with a partner while being intimate in a more vanilla way can scratch that itch while still keeping it safely in fantasy land. Just my two cents worth, not that i have a lot of sense. ;)

[am****]

I always like to talk with a partner about kinks before just springing them in the bedroom. Anytime it's something new though there is a certain excitement, and nervousness. As everyone said already this is normal. It's something you've never done. Or possibly neither of you have ever done. In which case your partner prolly has the same nerves you do. Talk, talk, and talk. Watch it as porn, play while watching it as porn. If everyone still feels like yes I wanna try this, then try it. Then talk again. Maybe it was a hell yes, maybe a no, but you will have successfully tried what you wanted to. The thing is we never know till we try if anything is for us.

[co****]

This is good experienced and honest advice @amarillo774 & @Bmar64 I have done this too just for a vastly more mature communication based principle in this and real life friends etc

[co****]

February 10, WiloTree said:

wax play by myself

By Coldplay or Doja Cat version? 😆 💕

[co****]

February 10, WiloTree said:

wax play by myself

I didn't see~ by myself ~ I was just trying to be fun 😊 apologize for confusion tho!