New to LS Lifestyle

[Bi****]

I've recently been introduced to the LS-friendly lifestyle. I'm aware that boundaries are in place for everyone's safety and enjoyment. What is the best way to handle someone pushing your boundaries or breaking your rules, intentionally....is there a way to do handle it without being rude and disrespectful??

[Sh****]

I cut contact with them. I have boundaries and limits for a reason.

[Ta****]

Be polite yet direct works for me & if they continue then just call them out on it & say something like "you are aware Im uncomfortable with your words/behaviour and are overstepping my boundaries right now". Dont be afraid to stand up for yourself or afraid they will walk away because if they can disrespect your boundaries and think only of themselves isnt something you want for yourself.
On the flip side does this person know they have/are pushing/overstepping boundaries.
Communication is so so important & will almost always solve issues like this. Always be honest & not afraid to put you & your needs forward.
I hope you resolve this ASAP

[Mr****]

100% ^^^
Boundaries should definitely be discussed openly befoooore there’s a chance to get hurt feelings or damage trust. How would you otherwise have confidence they wont push you too far to the point of damage? Open and honest communication is essential for trust; all of which is a relationship foundation. Safe words or signals can are good to warn or stop behavior, but once it’s too far then everything crumbles 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Ar****]

If somebody is intentionally breaking your rules or pushing your boundaries, you don't owe them politeness or respect. That makes them dangerous anywhere but particularly in this community, and for your own protection you need to distance yourself from them.

[ba****]

I get several people being just uncalled for to me on here for whatever their reasons are. I'm just direct and often educate them if I find something there saying offensive before going straight for the throat.

[Bi****]

I've stopped a session because of boundaries that were set before hand were broken several times, after being warned, and they thought it was role play. Thoughts on safe words?

[Mr****]

Something you wouldn’t normally say in a role play scene. Yellow and red are probably most common- yellow for you’re close to the limit of xyz, red to stop immediately. Also consider nonverbal signals like snapping your fingers in case unable to speak

[Si****]

Are you saying as it happens or like how to react after it’s been confirmed they intentionally overstepped a boundary? If it’s the first, just be cordial and take a brief pause but if it’s intentional just say something to the effect of “this is not what we agreed to and I’m no longer comfortable”. If anything persists then you can do as you see fit?