End Goal

[Bi****]

I’m wondering if kink is the end goal for some people or is it a passing phase , and how would you tell which is which, it is difficult to start a dynamic when you know the other person is passing through a phase and deep down planning to leave when they find their vanilla partner ?
Any thoughts on this ?
And how to navigate it?

[do****]

Ehm... Sex isn't the entire base for a relationship.
It's a very important part and by getting there very early a certain compatibility can be found but leaving for a vanilla partner sounds more like settling for less e cite ent there but more fulfilling ease in other areas.

[mn****]

I’m here because society isn’t capable of handling me. I find the further i go from what people have decided was ‘normal/regular’ the more accepted i am as a human being. There is nothing more freeing, more empowering than the sensation of being able to just Be.

The f@cking is fun too, I guess.

[Pe****]

Its different for everyone. But nobody leaves the dynamic and settles unless they truly can handle going without a part of who they are. A kink is part of you biologically, it doesnt just go anywhere. To shut that part out or down would eventually tear you apart, I've watched it happen among friends and colleagues alike.

[Ma****]

6 minutes ago, Penumbra_mors_parva said:

Its different for everyone. But nobody leaves the dynamic and settles unless they truly can handle going without a part of who they are. A kink is part of you biologically, it doesnt just go anywhere. To shut that part out or down would eventually tear you apart, I've watched it happen among friends and colleagues alike.

Well said. Kink is what you are!! It's not a game or a phase.

[Zis]

I never felt deeper connected as in a bdsm dynamic. I can leave easile vanilla but it is hard to leave a sub

[be****]

For me it’s a safe space. A place where I can find like minded people and not have to *** myself into a box. Yes, the sex is great but it’s the bond that keeps me.

[ra****]

It is a the ultimate goal of the relationship… i don’t want a relationship without it… i don’t even want friends that are not kinky…