Pleasure Doms and Praise Kinks.

[iS****]

The combination of both of these will make a sub like myself, melt 🫠. It turns a specific part of my brain on that automatically tells me to start massaging my Dom or to go get him a coffee made, without being asked.. Do any of you get super intense feelings when your Dom is treating you like the 'good girl' that you are? If so, what stands out the most with you and your Dom when you get those feels? 😄

[Deleted Member]

it’s been impossible for me to find a dom like this but you’ve said everything i want

[Ma****]

10 minutes ago, taramarie03 said:

it’s been impossible for me to find a dom like this but you’ve said everything i want

👋👋👋

[ST****]

For me it's the need to please him. That's all I want to do in that moment.

[La****]

I have one Dom that expects nothing from me except my pleasure. I enjoy giving pleasure as well and it’s nice to receive attention without expectation. He does get off with me but focus on making me happy. I have a second Dom who enjoys introducing me to new experiences and genuinely loves to see the excitement I get out of new toys and experiences. I want to make sure they both enjoy our time together and want to do things for them but they both seem to just want me happy and satisfied.

[pl****]

So as the Don side I obviously don’t get the feelings but I’ve been told there’s certain things I do or ways I touch them that can just make someone “melt”. I hear a lot about full body tingles or “shivers” and that’s when I start to notice the sub eagerness to make sure they are pleasing as well, even knowing I’m very happy watching them having their experience

[Ro****]

While I definitely like that combo, there are some that don't realize non sexual related praise makes them even more desireable regardless of the actual dynamic or connection status. And then there's also love bombing that puts you on pause for potential red flags. It's about finding the happy medium in between that suits both of you.

[Ba****]

Not sure if my input is appreciated here but as a dom with praise not being a natural thing for me i like that it’s so easy to learn and get used to
I just need them to tell me what they want to hear a few times to get a feel for when they like to hear what and they’ll be just more happy in general, the odd hug or head petting can do a lot too
All i need to do is paying attention
It’s great
And if i have to choose between a massage and sex, I’ll be laying face down flat most of the time

[Di****]

As someone with a fair amount of experience as a Dom. At least for me I think I have a grasp of the give/take or give/give dynamics in the ebb and flow of that relationship.

The psychological vulnerability a submissive gives you when earned, freely, is a priceless gift that needs to be nurtured in the way that they desire. Pleasure can mean many different things to different people, from masochism/*** to a more traditional feeling of pleasure. I think it’s important to not box in a pleasure dom into a specific subset of type of pleasure.

For me, when being intimate, I don’t get off to the physical feeling. What does it for me is having that trust and knowledge that my submissive is 100% submissive, brain turned off because she doesn’t need it when placed in my hands.

[to****]

I'm a Pleasure Dom and have no problema giving genuine positive compliments. But not everyone interpreta that as a kinky trair. I feel that when I explain my preferência, I'm treat more like I'm vanilla than as someone who practices BDSM.

[iS****]

Thanks for the comments everyone, good to know we all share similarities with this! And to our Doms that understand us... ❤️

[At****]

Causing that feeling in a sub is the most satisfying and rewarding thing thing on earth to me. I love building her up and meaning it.

[co****]

Ask yourself if you are a good girl!!!! If so you’ll be treated as one ;)

[De****]

Thats whats up.

[hu****]

“You melt my heart and make my pu$$y throb” never heard anything better from a woman

[Ma****]

Guys remember, praise only works when the girl is being good, and the more it is used the less effective it become. The most use the phrase should be getting is training process/ praiseable actions. Thats how it stays effective and provides that dopamine hit it is supposed to. Is used all the time it will be as effective as beautiful/gorgeous. Be smart, purposeful and deliberate.

[At****]

25 minutes ago, MasterMindCmd said:

Guys remember, praise only works when the girl is being good, and the more it is used the less effective it become. The most use the phrase should be getting is training process/ praiseable actions. Thats how it stays effective and provides that dopamine hit it is supposed to. Is used all the time it will be as effective as beautiful/gorgeous. Be smart, purposeful and deliberate.

Oh absolutely. I don’t mean that it’s all about praise. It’s like you said the right level and figuring it out how to rein*** good behavior. I just mean when both halves are working together like they should nothing feels better than seeing a sub react to the praise she does deserve but she’s reacting so deeply because it is both real and from you.

[At****]

Having a sub happily jump up and tend to my desire out of care and genuine pleasure to do so is our version of hearing “good sir”

[Ma****]

Correct, but that isn’t natural it is trained to the *** over time. Training is the most important part, because it will be used far more then you care to use it. But also remember you have to use it in ways it’s more then just a dopamine hit, it can be an anchor, regrounder, intensifier, trigger word, what ever your little heart desires.

[At****]

I find a lot of dom/sub value out of training because they’re submitting to the training. It’s a mutual thing you can both win at together. As opposed to punishing just because I can exert *** over them because I’m stronger or whatever.

You’re right though about over saturation. The petting is meaningless without the presence of the paddle.

[Ma****]

Exactly, not you don’t have to be a dick about it, most times one hard verbal correction will fix whatever the issue is. Most of the time an issue becomes an issue because they aren’t in alignment, so one hard verbal correction will normally fix that without being a dickhead. It is necessary from time to time. But most times not required. And see here’s the thing I’m going up correct you on, you are not stronger. They do what they do because they allow it, not because they have to. In my eyes the sub is the one with the power, they can drop consent at anytime for any reason. Remember that. We are there to ground them, not be a dick on a power trip. Because without them What power would we have?

[ti****]

I get super strong feelings when praised for anticipating my Dom’s needs and enjoy knowing what he expects and fulfilling it. I also have found the training to be emotionally intense but in a good way. I needed the structure and the safety his authority provides gives me peace I haven’t found in normal dynamics. I’ve also learned communication is everything. The relationship is mutual. For any dynamic to work you have to be very honest about your needs, expectations, and know how to come together to find common ground for the good of the dynamic.

[Ba****]

@MasterMindCmd and @AtaraxianDreams

Fellas I wasn’t sure if that was a place that appreciated a dom opinion in general but i am sure this isn’t the place to discuss training philosophy, don’t get me wrong it seems like interesting topic to disagree on but not here
(If it doesn’t already exist and neither of you does it i may open a thread on that topic around the weekend)

But on this thread everybody is a “good girl/boy” who earned at least the praise and appreciation they got

Ps@MasterMindCmd
While both have to share a understanding what “being good” means any reduction in effectiveness caused by overusing the same thing is more a issue with your creativity and not every bit of praise has to be a reward
The occasional semi random expression of appreciation or a recognition of effort during a punishment for failure can be good for motivation and are enough positive affirmation to count as praise

Ps@AtaraxianDream
To some the paddle IS petting ^^
So be careful, rewarding “bad” behavior by using the wrong punishment can sent mixed messages

[Ma****]

No you’re not wrong, I have also seen/heard people use it outside of occasional affection/praise. And when used to much it becomes as affective as any other word in the English dictionary. If they do something correct tell them, if you want to link the phrase to bad and good say something like “action A was bad girl behavior, action b is the minimum standard in this moment to be a good girl” I mean if the person uses it correctly linguistically it can be used for just about anything, if being used to praise purpose or training, don’t over due it but don’t get me wrong, it has a lot of potential, but so want the dopamine spike it provides her at the highest level.

As far as what he was talking about with the paddle I have to agree with both of you and for only one reason, it depends on what it is used for in relation to the dynamic. That Is the only thing that matters.

[At****]

I didn’t feel anyone was acting in bad faith. Just attempting to join the discussion with what it made me think of.