Monogamy… Polyamory

[Va****]

My spouce and I are ENM(ethical non monogamy) not poly. I dont go out of my way to look for mono ***ps. But I dont mind monogamy people if they come my way. But would have to know that we would only be more of a sexual relationship. Cause I dont think they would understand fully that they are not be my one and only.

[ra****]

5 hours ago, VanAD8 said:

My spouce and I are ENM(ethical non monogamy) not poly. I dont go out of my way to look for mono ***ps. But I dont mind monogamy people if they come my way. But would have to know that we would only be more of a sexual relationship. Cause I dont think they would understand fully that they are not be my one and only.

I believe you would have to explain this a lot better

[Vy****]

I guess we ambiamorous ***ps can kind of dodge that bullet a little.
At least for me, I do not care either way.
I do not support cheating on partners unless it is part of a kink for the person being cheated on to be clear.
I'm currently in a friends with benefits situation and if I were to start another relationship, if that relationship says no other partners, or only xyz, or only under xyz circumstances, then I stick to that and only contact ppl for either friendship or ppl who fit the criteria of my current relationship.
I do not go out of my way to contact ppl whose profile does not match what I'm looking for in that person.
I do not mind if ppl contact me though regardless of my relationships. I simply explain my situation right away and that's it.
I tend to write long texts and long profiles.....I stopped expecting everyone to actually read it a long time ago. The same way I do not expect people driving on the road to actually be able to drive. It shouldn't be this way but it is. That is a general issue though and not really a matter of mono/poly.
At the end of the day my mindset is, that I'm responsible for my partner(s) wellbeing to some degree, especially so when I'm the one left with a lot of the decisionmaking.
To that end I do my best to keep needless trouble away and part of that is telling people who are not a good fit or bring drama to f*** off. Outside of that I do not really mind who contacts me tbh.

[Va****]

I don't get why this app is blocking the shortened word for people. That's so weird

[Va****]

Thursday at 09:16 PM, rainbowcataclysm said:

I believe you would have to explain this a lot better

I do not understand what you mean by "explain a lot better"

[Va****]

Thursday at 11:15 PM, Vyn_93 said:

I guess we ambiamorous ***ps can kind of dodge that bullet a little.
At least for me, I do not care either way.
I do not support cheating on partners unless it is part of a kink for the person being cheated on to be clear.
I'm currently in a friends with benefits situation and if I were to start another relationship, if that relationship says no other partners, or only xyz, or only under xyz circumstances, then I stick to that and only contact ppl for either friendship or ppl who fit the criteria of my current relationship.
I do not go out of my way to contact ppl whose profile does not match what I'm looking for in that person.
I do not mind if ppl contact me though regardless of my relationships. I simply explain my situation right away and that's it.
I tend to write long texts and long profiles.....I stopped expecting everyone to actually read it a long time ago. The same way I do not expect people driving on the road to actually be able to drive. It shouldn't be this way but it is. That is a general issue though and not really a matter of mono/poly.
At the end of the day my mindset is, that I'm responsible for my partner(s) wellbeing to some degree, especially so when I'm the one left with a lot of the decisionmaking.
To that end I do my best to keep needless trouble away and part of that is telling people who are not a good fit or bring drama to f*** off. Outside of that I do not really mind who contacts me tbh.

Polyamory and ENM have nothing to do with cheating. Though I could be incorrect that you were implying that. I just don't understand the reason for bringing up cheating with this topic

[FE****]

14 minutes ago, VanAD8 said:

I don't get why this app is blocking the shortened word for people. That's so weird

Watersports aren't allowed.

[Vy****]

43 minutes ago, VanAD8 said:

Polyamory and ENM have nothing to do with cheating. Though I could be incorrect that you were implying that. I just don't understand the reason for bringing up cheating with this topic

I was not implying that at all. I mentioned it because the topic has to do with people contacting others when it should not really makes sense. For example a monogamous person in a relationship contacting someone who is poly/ambi/enm etc on a dating site with the intent of hooking up.
I brought it up because I felt it can be factor for a the person who is not-monogamous when they are contacted by someone who is as it can feel insulting for ppl to approach you with the intent of cheating on their partner with you, bc they might be unenducated and think that not strictly monogamous people won't care.

[Ia****]

I think people can't help but to be curious especially when they're taught going against the establishment of traditional marriage is taboo. When they're not curious, they're hateful & believe in misconceptions about non-monogamy. Either way, I block them.

[Ba****]

6 hours ago, Vyn_93 said:

I was not implying that at all. I mentioned it because the topic has to do with people contacting others when it should not really makes sense. For example a monogamous person in a relationship contacting someone who is poly/ambi/enm etc on a dating site with the intent of hooking up.
I brought it up because I felt it can be factor for a the person who is not-monogamous when they are contacted by someone who is as it can feel insulting for ppl to approach you with the intent of cheating on their partner with you, bc they might be unenducated and think that not strictly monogamous people won't care.

Well there is a lot of overlap between monogamous people and people who want a monogamous partner but there are monogamous people who are into sharing their partner too, popular examples would be things like harem fantasy and cuckoldry
So a monogamous person approaching a non-monogamous person can make sense
But i agree the other way around is generally not a good look

And it is possible to cheat while being in a poly-relationship structure, so open and upfront communication is as important as usual in all types of relationship



 

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