Unusual ways you got into BDSM

[Deleted Member]

I've been curious about what led people into bdsm, what's your story, does anyone have an exciting backstory? Was it a kinky ex, a video, or just an encounter.
I want to hear about how you realised this life was for you, can't wait!!!

[FE****]

Moderator Note:

Please do not talk about any thoughts or experiences before the age of 18.

[pi****]

I got into it by accident, met a womsn on regular dating scene, turned out she were into bdsm things, when we split i started to miss it

[Deleted Member]

Honestly a lot of rock and metal music vids and hot topic. I was interested in the aesthetic and sensuality and grew from there

[Ru****]

For me it was weight loss. I always had body image issues due to being overweight. Que bariatric surgery and I dropped 200 lbs. Suddenly I was a relatively normal size and could dress as I please. I took a leap and attended a latex fetish party. The way I was able to change my form shook me to my core and I was hooked ever since.

[dh****]

Definitely porn! Specially those from kink.com. Once I started seeing those, the thought of having control over someone when they are bound was invigorating.

[we****]

I had a terrible *** of men and relations because of some things that happen but
Almost two years ago I got really into shibari and i met some really lovely people because it.
And the first time I felt safe enough to be around a man alone was with a dom I was teaching different knots too. He never tried anything that we did not agree too in advance. And that was the first for me.

[Sa****]

Kink* but I haven't visited the site in a very long time

Edited February 26 by FETMOD-TF
*External link removed

[Su****]

I had an ex that was into pegging and tying, she asked if we could explore alittle bit and see how I felt about it. I said yes, but went slow. Turns out, when she exposed me to that.. it flicked a switch in me and apparently I fell in love with it lol been trying to find it ever since

[ma****]

I started in a non gay poly relationship and was brought in as a dominant male with a girl I dated when we were ***s and her husband . I wasn’t really sure how to be other than myself so I did research. We went to swinger clubs and such but no real bdsm. I am naturally dominant and after seven years the poly relationship went south,I met a domme who showed me how to become more dominant in the ways of bdsm. I guess I turned into a more low budget Christian Grey with a side of Hannibal lectur minus the cannibalism lol.

[Deleted Member]

College professor.

[Ff****]

My i sought my first experiences from a couple of establishments that advertised bondage and another that had a dungeon, but the experience wasn't fantastic.... almost like going to a guided tour in a museum... everything on display but not allowed to touch! I learnt later that it's not the toys that create the scene but the play partner you are with. I find that im much more into a unique experience, something catered to a personal touch. One on one makes the experience rememberable, but I don't like to restrict myself to this as multiple play partners creates a different dynamic and experience. Reading the "story of o" later in life was something that got me deeply hooked in BDSM.