Gags calm me down?

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Idk why but having a gag in just like quiets my brain, like if Im really struggling to not touch, or if I’n really needy and can’t get release. I think it’s cause im not expected to speak or form words, does this happen for other subs?

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That is very attractive

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Basic human pacification. There are other threads regarding this; one just a week or so ago. It isn't a submissive designation and can apply to and for any human (and other ***s actually.)

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37 minutes ago, NexumSange said:

Basic human pacification. There are other threads regarding this; one just a week or so ago. It isn't a submissive designation and can apply to and for any human (and other ***s actually.)

Neato :)

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It’s probably because you crave to have something In your mouth and that it is fulfilling that need you want.

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26 minutes ago, adamndollysub said:

Neato :)

And I didn't mean for that to seem curt or belittling etc. I was rushing a bit, I think. There is another element which touches on the neurobiological, the intangibles to human relating, communication and experiencing and how we don't always need words/s***ch but also how depriving one or more senses can quiet the mind. I find it all fascinating, obviously, heh.

I mentioned in another thread that a horse's bit is the thing for me in regards to this and surrounding subjects.

Have you noticed anything like this happening for You with other senses are deprived, restricted, or in any other areas of life?

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People here you’re into restraint or sensory deprivation and they immediately get weird here instead of contributing to the conversation😭 I see you have ONE beneficial reply out of six, sigh. I have only ever been gagged once, in h*ghsch**l. I have since had alternate forms of pacification that weren’t the ball but it’d be a belt, my own underwear, or being smothered by hand. It does turn my brain off. If im still able to see, it helps me lock in to eye contact with my dom because i know thats what they want and im ***d to breathe out of my nose instead of worrying about what my face and mouth look like for sex appeal lol. I hope im not alone in that insecurity. I know everyone looks hot when they have their O face on or they’re in dom/sub space that’s like PEAK attraction. I love being able to be loud during sex when you’re the only one in the house but I also LOVE being silenced in order to not get caught. It is an act of obedience to let them silence you as well as adding layers to the ‘risk of getting caught’ kink that has a name I just can’t quite remember. I had a surgery today, I’m a little loopy on meds, thank you for reading my ramble and I hope it helps you feel more understood!

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Hear*😭

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10 minutes ago, adamndollysub said:

Does a singular man on this app read people’s bios? How difficult is it to scroll just the one time?

Your thread is rife with unwanted and irrelevant responses and propositions and hopefully Mods will deal with them soon.

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3 minutes ago, NexumSange said:

And I didn't mean for that to seem curt or belittling etc. I was rushing a bit, I think. There is another element which touches on the neurobiological, the intangibles to human relating, communication and experiencing and how we don't always need words/s***ch but also how depriving one or more senses can quiet the mind. I find it all fascinating, obviously, heh.

I mentioned in another thread that a horse's bit is the thing for me in regards to this and surrounding subjects.

Have you noticed anything like this happening for You with other senses are deprived, restricted, or in any other areas of life?

No don’t worry it’s cool lol this is comment under this post by a country mile. idk I haven’t really tried getting rid of other senses or abilities, I’ve cuffed myself but nothing more extreme than that.

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BDSM was built for men of discipline and psychological depth somewhere that standard quietly faded. Few of us remain.
What you're describing mirrors something I documented in my own thread *The Pacifier Effect*. The regression, the anchoring, the surrender through sensation. Very few have the depth to recognize it, let alone hold space for it.

Curious whether our experiences align.

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14 minutes ago, bethisnthome said:

People here you’re into restraint or sensory deprivation and they immediately get weird here instead of contributing to the conversation😭 I see you have ONE beneficial reply out of six, sigh. I have only ever been gagged once, in h*ghsch**l. I have since had alternate forms of pacification that weren’t the ball but it’d be a belt, my own underwear, or being smothered by hand. It does turn my brain off. If im still able to see, it helps me lock in to eye contact with my dom because i know thats what they want and im ***d to breathe out of my nose instead of worrying about what my face and mouth look like for sex appeal lol. I hope im not alone in that insecurity. I know everyone looks hot when they have their O face on or they’re in dom/sub space that’s like PEAK attraction. I love being able to be loud during sex when you’re the only one in the house but I also LOVE being silenced in order to not get caught. It is an act of obedience to let them silence you as well as adding layers to the ‘risk of getting caught’ kink that has a name I just can’t quite remember. I had a surgery today, I’m a little loopy on meds, thank you for reading my ramble and I hope it helps you feel more understood!

A lot of aspects you've included, and in particular the notion of sex appeal, attention to the face and mouth area, something I am ridiculously aware of and completely dislike for Myself- I do not like the way I look when experiencing pleasure - isn't that bizarre / terrible / unfortunate?? lol But my face grimacing with a bit, belt, scarf etc held by my teeth and I think it "looks O K" 😅 🤣
Those are great points and I hadn't thought of those aspects.

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Yes……. Except I like being tied up, mainly hands, becoz regardless of if I can speak or not I need to pull hair, scratch, squeeze, etc. I love leather cuffs attached to my bed. Makes me crazy. Made to be quiet and tied up is so hot to me.

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9 minutes ago, adamndollysub said:

They didn’t even check my profile before trying to flirt istg lol. The ramble helped restore some faith in humanity lol, also really interesting and informative about gags and stuff! (Btw I also have insecurities about what face I’m making I totally get it)

Literally one of the most thrilling experiences of my life is also probably a public indecency charge that I probably wouldn’t consent to doing again because I don’t need hotels anymore but he literally ripped my underwear off and put them in my mouth and made me walk down the hotel hallway to fill the ice bucket like that. There’s so many layers to it. Following an order is one thing but following it OUT OF SIGHT is something entirely elevated and crazyy. It’s reassuring to everyone involved it’s not an act it really is a bond 🥹

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15 minutes ago, NexumSange said:

Your thread is rife with unwanted and irrelevant responses and propositions and hopefully Mods will deal with them soon.

Idk where the mods are but agreed some of these comments gotta go

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1 minute ago, bethisnthome said:

Idk where the mods are but agreed some of these comments gotta go

I know several men that can in fact read so idk what’s up with them

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21 minutes ago, bethisnthome said:

People here you’re into restraint or sensory deprivation and they immediately get weird here instead of contributing to the conversation😭 I see you have ONE beneficial reply out of six, sigh. I have only ever been gagged once, in h*ghsch**l. I have since had alternate forms of pacification that weren’t the ball but it’d be a belt, my own underwear, or being smothered by hand. It does turn my brain off. If im still able to see, it helps me lock in to eye contact with my dom because i know thats what they want and im ***d to breathe out of my nose instead of worrying about what my face and mouth look like for sex appeal lol. I hope im not alone in that insecurity. I know everyone looks hot when they have their O face on or they’re in dom/sub space that’s like PEAK attraction. I love being able to be loud during sex when you’re the only one in the house but I also LOVE being silenced in order to not get caught. It is an act of obedience to let them silence you as well as adding layers to the ‘risk of getting caught’ kink that has a name I just can’t quite remember. I had a surgery today, I’m a little loopy on meds, thank you for reading my ramble and I hope it helps you feel more understood!

I appreciate your perspective and I'd be curious to hear your thoughts on a thread I documented on my wall called The Pacifier Effect.

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6 minutes ago, bethisnthome said:

Idk where the mods are but agreed some of these comments gotta go

We are here, I've just seen the reports now and as such cleaned up the thread and removed several inappropriate comments.  Thank you to those who stayed on topic. 

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15 minutes ago, mrvetnotthepet said:

BDSM was built for men of discipline and psychological depth somewhere that standard quietly faded. Few of us remain.
What you're describing mirrors something I documented in my own thread *The Pacifier Effect*. The regression, the anchoring, the surrender through sensation. Very few have the depth to recognize it, let alone hold space for it.

Curious whether our experiences align.

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Yours is the thread I was referencing but I got distracted by the inappropriate comments here to fetch it. Pardon me, all.

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10 minutes ago, FETMOD-TF said:

We are here, I've just seen the reports now and as such cleaned up the thread and removed several inappropriate comments.  Thank you to those who stayed on topic. 

Thank You very much.

[KnightOfCydonia]

I find any type of bondage, whether that’s gags, collar, leash, cuffs or whatever else has that effect. Can’t really put my finger on the exact reason why, at a guess I think it sorta puts me in that submissive headspace and for someone with sub wiring, that’s naturally a peaceful/comfortable place to be!

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Being gagged or tied does put me in a submissive headspace. I also have anxiety, so it takes the pressure of having to speak off. Being tied or being told to gag and just sit and meditate is also very calming and feels safe.

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15 hours ago, NexumSange said:

And I didn't mean for that to seem curt or belittling etc. I was rushing a bit, I think. There is another element which touches on the neurobiological, the intangibles to human relating, communication and experiencing and how we don't always need words/s***ch but also how depriving one or more senses can quiet the mind. I find it all fascinating, obviously, heh.

I mentioned in another thread that a horse's bit is the thing for me in regards to this and surrounding subjects.

Have you noticed anything like this happening for You with other senses are deprived, restricted, or in any other areas of life?

I know your question was for the OP, however, I personally respond this way when blindfolded and bound. So I think you are definitely onto something here.

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Maybe you feel obligated (pleaser? ocd? analytical personality?) to perform a certain role or action, and can't get that out of your system unless there's no way that you can fulfill that trigger.
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So, for the gag, you're not supposed to speak. So you can turn off your rational communication brain. For restraints, you can't move so you have to focus purely on receiving and the sensations. For blindfold or headphones, another sense is removed from the equation. When you know that certain sensations are off the table, there is no need to focus on them.

[AlphaWolf_01]

First off, I would like to preface with .... I read Bios most of the time before even commenting on a picture.... That being said, I'm interested in reading the responses... I like to know what happens in the sub's mind and see how it affects the scene... Following!