Stop settling

[Da****]

I feel like there are people out there that need to see this. There is something to gain from the life experiences I have had, and the things those experiences taught me. I want to share with you one of my favorites.

Stop settling. You can apply this to any aspect in life. It drives me crazy when I see an amazing person accept less than they deserve. because they think they will never find better. ***, is never a reason to allow yourself to hold back from doing something you want to. It’s not a reason to lower your standards so you can find a less ****** piece of ****. It’s still **** just wrapped in toilet paper instead of out in the open.

Examples of what I’m talking about can be:

Convincing yourself that you can’t do something because you aren’t good enough or you don’t think you’ll be successful. So instead you stay stuck in that position instead of moving forward. (Not quitting that job that makes you miserable, staying in a relationship that makes you unhappy, etc.)
Letting an individual gaslight you into believing your standards and expectations are too high, not possible, and unrealistic. This is that persons attempt to shift the narrative so that they can keep their ego in tact. All the while also trying to put themselves on the playing field by getting you to lower your standards.
Accepting *** be it physical, mental or emotional because you’re afraid to be alone, think you won’t find better, or you’re in love with a version of that person that doesn’t exist. I see it all the time. Every person who’s done this that I’ve talked to says the same thing. “They use to be so wonderful. The guy or girl I met when we first started dating was perfect. I don’t know what happened, but I hope that one day it will return and that’s why I stay. Sorry but that person doesn’t actually exist. Some people are just really good at making people see what they want just to get their foot in the door. Then they stop being that person and revert back to who they really are because it’s impossible to sustain being something you’re not. The average person can go 3 month being something they aren’t. So stop dreaming about who you thought they were, and start paying attention to who they are showing you they are.
There are honestly so many examples I can give to you on what settling looks like, but the one thing I want you to take away from this is that you are worth it. Having standards, expectations and not settling, puts you on a higher playing field then most people, and often invites the right type of people into your life, while kicking the ***** to the curb.

Have standards, expectations. You deserve to be happy and if you are constantly settling you never will be fully happy, or satisfied. Why have a crumb when you can have the cake? The people, opportunities, and things you want are out there. It may be super hard to find, but if you are whole then you won’t care how long it takes to find the quality you desire. People tend to try and fill a void within themselves with another person and they accept subpar results because of it.

You are worth it, you deserve it and we only have this life. Be happy. You don’t have to stay stuck. It may look scary doing the things you need to but I promise you it’s worth it. Some people are just road blocks incapable of growing with you or being on your level. Jump over that bitch and get the things you want because no one else is going to make it happen but you. Stop letting YOU hold back you.

Love yourself, know your worth and don’t let anything or anyone hold you back, including yourself.

Tell me:

- What’s holding you back from doing something.
- Was there ever a time when you chose yourself and decided to be happy?
- Based on above question, what was it? Do you regret it or are you glad that you did it?
- Do you relate to what I wrote? How so?

[sa****]

I needed to hear this. Lately, I've been struggling with be alone. Most of the time I am okay but there are times, I wonder why I didn't stay in places, keep a certain career path, or with a certain circle of people. I look back and realize that person in those places and times wasn't the real me. It was a masked version of myself trying to fit in and trying to be liked. I'm working hard to learn to like myself everyday and it's not easy for so many reasons. Your words were inspiring. I'm going to keep believing that I do deserve good things and that while I can't see them yet, they are out there. I'm just trying to be patient and live in the present.

[fa****]

Just be who you are

[me****]

It's so true we as humans are absolutely stuck and get in our own way with self doubt I for one believe that we manifest our own reality and if you can get that doubt out of your head the sky is not the limit nothing is
Ps hey can you write me back I wrote you but I actually went off the page so I didn't get to send the rest of what I had written but it won't let me send you anything else until you respond to my text

[lo****]

I needed to see this right now. Thanks for posting it. Blessings to you and everyone that is settling (may they see the light) and those that have the courage to not settle.

[Ha****]

I've been in the lifestyle for 35 years and am in a polyamourous relationship but that takes a lot of communication and more communication but that's part of it. I've never settled for less because I demand greatness for my women to be their best selves.

[Ju****]

Hey babe. 37 Y.o Experienced dom here. Wanna play?