Maintaining standards

[Da****]

I think that one of the hardest things about maintaining standards that are important to you. That you refuse to lower just to have someone. Is that it’s really lonely. I am a person who craves connection. I’m intelligent, sensual and wickedly sexual. I’m also insanely picky.

Someone recently told me that I wasn’t being picky, I just knew from experience what would and wouldn’t work for me. They said it was discernment. If I think about it, yes in essence.. I suppose it is. I don’t let just anyone in my life let alone into my bed. The people who have access to me are few and far between.

I value my peace, my privacy and I want something that is mine alone. I get frustrated with the current dating culture of let’s hook up. Is it really so much to ask for an intellectual conversation without someone trying to dirty it up or send me unsolicited dick pics? I know men do it because it’s worked for them. I know some women are here to have fun and don’t really care about who someone is.

I guess that just makes finding what I’m looking for a little harder eventually I’m sure it will come along. Someone who is all mine and who doesn’t want anyone else. I see this couple on my for you page pop up often and it always makes me smile because I can tell without any words, just pictures, that she is his world. I think deep down every girl wants that.

So that’s why I don’t lower my standards, if I did I wouldn’t truly be happy. I have a lot to offer to the right person and on days like today where I wish I had my own Daddy to crawl in the lap of and rest my head on his chest, it just hits a little harder. I want that passion, the fire, the energy that makes me feel alive. I feel like I’ve been sleeping, that I haven’t felt anything in a very long time and my chest aches with the desire to be recognized, to be truly seen and to feel.

I don’t want casual because what I want is so much deeper and not at all temporary. It’s profound, life changing and once in a lifetime worthy. Anyone can have sex and a night of fun. I want someone who is going to challenge me, bring my lifeless body back from the dead and set my soul on fire. I know it’s out there… this is your reminder if you feel like this too, that you aren’t alone and it’s worth maintaining your standards. Don’t let just anyone have access to you. You’re worth more than that.

For those who have found exactly what you’re looking for, I’d love to hear your story. How has your life changed? Your sexual experiences? Your mood and energy?

[ne****]

Well said! I invest too much into my body and health to give it to just anyone.

[bs****]

well shit I would love to tell u all about them :) soon as u unblock my shit lmao

[Ar****]

I am sure that it is out there - just not sure it is on this site. Well written and I hope you find it.

[fr****]

Hold true to your values. Continue to define your boundaries. Relax your expectations. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Good luck!

[Li****]

This was both sad and sweet to read. Thank you for empowering others not to lower their standards and sorry you haven't found your person. This speaks to me on a whole 'nother level and it's because this kind of bond SHOULD be so much more intimate, deep, meaningful. I know it sucks (for me too) we haven't found this and what you mention in that couple's photo. But we will. It's not letting societal expectations and standards lower the expectations of company over quality. I hope you find your person and it immediately let's you realise why it's so hard for us to find but so worthwhile clinging to the possibility of, whilst maintaining a happy standard on our own 🥰.

[fr****]

10 minutes ago, LittleSoulTease said:

This was both sad and sweet to read. Thank you for empowering others not to lower their standards and sorry you haven't found your person. This speaks to me on a whole 'nother level and it's because this kind of bond SHOULD be so much more intimate, deep, meaningful. I know it sucks (for me too) we haven't found this and what you mention in that couple's photo. But we will. It's not letting societal expectations and standards lower the expectations of company over quality. I hope you find your person and it immediately let's you realise why it's so hard for us to find but so worthwhile clinging to the possibility of, whilst maintaining a happy standard on our own 🥰.

It took me 50 years to find that kind of connection, I hope it doesn't take you as long, but it's worth the wait when it's right!

[Mi****]

This… 💛

[ko****]

Inspiring.. not sure what prompted your dialogues on my feed, but they are always worth the read. Sorry I have not much to offer besides praise 🙏