What happened to the good old days?

[Ba****]

10 hours ago, mrwindell said:

What if this site added tests for doms/ subs etc. that will cover the basics of each. but through enough to ensure people are At least educated about their roles and how to go about them safely. Something just like the bdsm test they already have. It’s not a perfect solution but would help.

Lol the results of that would be hilariously bad
For reference having a high *** tolerance plus being totally unwilling to submit got me to 50% submissiveness on this apps BDSM test with just two „wrong answers“

But seriously you comment kind of reminds me of the time a dog handler/owner permit was discussed by my local government, on paper not a bad idea but never gonna happen in practice

[Ba****]

Well i‘m not disagreeing with the sentiment behind the comments of @NaughtyLilGirl88 and @BlueGrace but at least from my perspective we are „the community“ on here and taking in person and online classes and workshops is literally being trained by experienced members

[Pr****]

I have to agree for the most part. It's 50 to 1 people who have dominant personalities and call themselves Doms, but really just want someone to do whatever they want for them, but have very little interest in the responsibility and proper care required to be a true Dom. So many immediately demand an honorific or obedience or nudes without even introduction conversations, let alone actually building a solid foundation.
I do believe you can train yourself, however. There are so many good sources of information these days.

[parkcruiser]

Social media and porn have distorted the reality of real life experiences,, sitting home watching way too much porn and not getting any real life experiences,, most get deep into the lust, and online? Is safe, be whatever you want to be , knowing that they have no intention of meeting real life, very few can live up to their online persona life in cyberland , is safe,, social skills are lost, AI robots are the new frontier

[Wi****]

On 4/13/2026 at 12:58 AM, PrincessPeach321 said:

I have to agree for the most part. It's 50 to 1 people who have dominant personalities and call themselves Doms, but really just want someone to do whatever they want for them, but have very little interest in the responsibility and proper care required to be a true Dom. So many immediately demand an honorific or obedience or nudes without even introduction conversations, let alone actually building a solid foundation.
I do believe you can train yourself, however. There are so many good sources of information these days.

That’s what I’ve found, as a watcher of the life from the side (and never being able to break in… I guess a femme straight side is not the most attractive thing in this lifestyle)

But I took an interest in BDSM because I’m interested in female sexuality and orgasms and how it differs from men…

But a lot of what I see is just sh***y men getting their rocks off abusing women. It seems The community isn’t immune to toxicity… in fact on some level I’ve found it encourages it…

[parkcruiser]

The porn has distorted and went to the dark side I personally love the female energy , and I'm into the passionate sensual erotic side not the raunchy sleazy, personally I can't even talk mean degrading words in roleplay, just not me or even in my mind with women, so don't give up your feminine power there's Men out there that love that , it's just not as entertaining to film,

[Go****]

Some of us are still old fashioned and gentlemanly about things…

I heard someone say it once “a gentleman is still a wolf, he’s just a latent wolf”

I believe modern culture, music, technology, is corroding the moral fibre of people.

I’ve seen it happen,
Slowly but surely lowering the bar,
And not just in terms of BDSM.

But that doesn’t mean we ought to settle for less, all the more reason to lead by example.