What’s a non-sexual thing that instantly makes someone more attractive in kink spaces?

[Ic****]

Eye contact & body language tells you a lot

[al****]

Mine is a bit OCD. Proper grammar and spelling attract me. I also for some reason am incredibly attracted to clean shaven men or ones with a five o’clock shadow. Just like some men prefer women with large chests or other characteristics, I’m not attracted to men with facial hair.

[Au****]

If they can convey to me theyre able to distinguish between fantasy & reality. This is a game and not to be taken seriously back into their everyday life.

I realize there are a select few who go 27x7x365... but they are the exception.

[Be****]

If I simply hear a mistress give comments which seem to indicate, God forbid, that she actually LIKES ME AND RESPECTS ME, that's a WHOPPING turn-on. But 90% of the time, the Mistress is a Misandrist who is simply looking for her opportunity to take her hatred of men in general out on me, in a VERY abusive and dangerous manner. A straight woman can be physically attracted to men, but still hate them. Proof? I have several permanent knife scars on my chest and shoulders. PERMANENT. I don't call that "respectful or considerate." And believe me: COPS LAUGH AT THAT. *Fact*

[An****]

They tell me about their day to day life and want my feedback on it. Just menial things. Like, "I went to the grocery store, the price of eggs was ridiculous!" It opens a conversation where they care about my opinion. If you don't care about my opinion in menial things - you definitely won't respect my boundaries in kink spaces.

[Mr****]

Having a voice. Identifying as a dominant doesn't give us the right to authoritarianism. Personally, before even considering entering into a power exchange scene or dynamic, I need to feel confident that my submissive feels safe, heard and knows that their voice is vital for that exchange to be positive. Intention is powerful and clarity is vital in communication

[at****]

1 hour ago, Augustguy said:

If they can convey to me theyre able to distinguish between fantasy & reality. This is a game and not to be taken seriously back into their everyday life.

I realize there are a select few who go 27x7x365... but they are the exception.

Ah, I see what you're saying. For me, I'm more 24/7, so it's less a game and more a lifestyle, with me just being me with someone who truly is able to accept me for me. I like that you added they wouldn't see it your way 365. Is that the movie? That's definitely not every 24/7 dynamic. 😅 I find the dynamic should be tailored to the individuals involved, not a pre-planned thing where any partner fits into it. 🙂 just my thoughts

[at****]

1 hour ago, BeachJediSC said:

If I simply hear a mistress give comments which seem to indicate, God forbid, that she actually LIKES ME AND RESPECTS ME, that's a WHOPPING turn-on. But 90% of the time, the Mistress is a Misandrist who is simply looking for her opportunity to take her hatred of men in general out on me, in a VERY abusive and dangerous manner. A straight woman can be physically attracted to men, but still hate them. Proof? I have several permanent knife scars on my chest and shoulders. PERMANENT. I don't call that "respectful or considerate." And believe me: COPS LAUGH AT THAT. *Fact*

I see what ur saying id have to disagree with mistresses are masochistic not all are and not 90 percent 🙈😅 and not all of those women hate men for me I am not a mistress but I love them and respect them and adore them more than anything and not all women want to *** men its sad some do what u had was *** disguised as im kinky and when that happens they arnt kinky they are dangerous men or women who cross boundries and lines set im sorry what you've been through but try not to cast all with the same light we are all different and should be valued that way I wish you much better for the future

[We****]

@athenam92 you put towards what I've been practicing all my life I couldn't have said any better it was perfect thank you

[Lo****]

Since I regress, my ideal partner enjoys nurturing domination so it doesn't ever come up.
Oppressive attitudes would not be natural.

[wp****]

sure is. Its a non negotiable and the dasis for a solid agreement

[wp****]

*basis. Some like spontaneous play but i love 'designing' it with a partner. Not only is it safer and can build trust and confidence but it also is like foreplay

[at****]

Thank you so much for all the comments. I find it fun to learn other people's perspectives.💙

[la****]

Being confident without being arrogant

[La****]

Very simple. If they’re interested in my life outside the kink and they also a whole person outside the kink.
They need to adore me as a person than just the role and them having an interest and passionate abt life they’re having.

I need to like someone before taking everything seriously. So having a character and passion are extremely bare minimum.
Being able create bond in other ways signaling a potential longevity of a connection.

[dr****]

Mental and physical connection with open, honest communication without judgment.

[ph****]

Open honest communication, including their desires, their ***s, wishes, limits, talking about safety, being able to express themselves without limit and kindness to all living things.

[Fr****]

Trust.

[SA****]

Witty conversation and innocence!

[Lu****]

Open communication, with honesty but really being able to talk about all aspects of life and understanding the reality is we can be horny 24/7 but the opportunity to f**k 24/7 isn't always an option! When they get rude and ***y, it's a major turn off!

[lo****]

***. No jk it's wheelchairs and not the electric ones.

[ma****]

Facial piercings and tattoos get me. Beautiful eyes get me too.

[lu****]

Actually being in to it and not doing it cuz your partner wants you to if that makes sense

[at****]

7 hours ago, lucasxnelly said:

Actually being in to it and not doing it cuz your partner wants you to if that makes sense

Yes that makes complete sense

[ka****]

100% I’ve had some interesting experiences in Florida and if we can’t talk about safety besides you have my messages I can’t go forward