What’s a non-sexual thing that instantly makes someone more attractive in kink spaces?

[do****]

Consistency. The way someone shows up over time says way more than anything they claim upfront

[lu****]

Manners. Old school manners. I open doors for ladies, walk on the street side of the sidewalk, things like that. I guess it’s because I’m older but I’ve noticed that a lot of young men have no idea how to treat a lady.

[Deleted Member]

A backpack with a plethora of aftercare items.

[Th****]

My master is very aware of my heath and safety. Always asking how im doing especially when im in heavy subspace. He values my emotional, mental and physical heath.

[pr****]

When you can laugh and smile with each while figuring out each likes and limits

[Bi****]

Mathematics, doing math together, really gets hardest part the hardest part.

[Ma****]

They won't tell me no when im using them like a dirty whore

[da****]

Confidence in communicating their needs, wants, and desires. If you can confidently convey to me what you require, that is a major turn on. This is important, especially in the early stages of a relationship, when you’re learning about the person. IMO it helps build trust; another important characteristic in D/s dynamics.

[de****]

Un I feel the brain wonder thing ..so to it's sexual in some way brain registers stimulation as as it would sexual pleasure..so if you stimulate brain the reach same ..so the pleasure feeling through after and other is same reaching get through sexual touch..there a saying I don't here no more but trust thing you'll ever here ..to seduce the body first have to seduce the mind .saying that it's all sexually arousing

[Do****]

OMFG, yes. Tell me of your traumas, so I don't make the mistake of traumatizing you more. I love using a traffic light system for boundaries, but if you're not in a position to say Yellow or Red and I cross the line? That kills me. My last relationship ended because of that, but if they had told me about the trauma beforehand? They would have been treated like Siamese Triplet Baby Jesus made of atom thick glass.

[DD****]

CONFIDENCE

[ac****]

Intelligence is a turn on

[mi****]

To Athenam I like your answer because safety is so important but it also lets you find out just what kind of man your dealing with and I myself want a gentleman. For me a non sexual thing that I look for is how he spends his ***. If he he's willing to pay the bill on drinks on room and things of that nature I know Ill be taken care of.

[Bo****]

Non judgmental .

[os****]

That's your intuition babe
If it feels bad leave. If it feels good stay

[Ma****]

Being able to communicate effectively verbal non verbal cues. Speaking up on what could improve thier comfortability.

[Ma****]

Futures

[ch****]

Someone who is themselves doesn’t take anything seriously

[LE****]

Cleaning, just in general. Folding laundry. The cleaning things I don't like. Not that I don't clean. Like I make the bed and hang laundry, but folding is secy to me because it's a chore I don't like.

[Ch****]

Effectively communicating is a good value.

I focus my attention on ease of conversation and to have a good time where everyone of every mindset can feel as comfortable as the next and previous mindset.

[He****]

Humor? Is that allowed?

[ch****]

Humor yes but also the free space of just being funny and yourselves during courtship. Also the smell of each other, can fragrance be added to?

Also remember when Sheldon met his future wife. Seriously she was courting him ; he was taking longer steps or should I say small steps before her ?

[an****]

Absolute silence (not unhuh, or repeating or making affirming noises), just perfect silence when each of us is talking (about anything), that is so attractive to me. It feels like reciprocating precise interest and importance and respect for each others time and truly intentionally hearing and being present in the moment. That's the good stuff 🙂 it's like intoxicating.

[ch****]

What about doing games not sex games; like puzzles pieces or Video games or compliments as a requiem or not yelling but just following the minds mine of mine
Which is habit forming when you love each other’s thoughts

[Deleted Member]

Getting my back touched and kind people