What’s a non-sexual thing that instantly makes someone more attractive in kink spaces?

[Cw****]

The way they carry themselves when they think no one is watching

[Vi****]

Confidence is the key in every relationship.

[mt****]

Intelligence

[Ke****]

Fully respecting mutual consent and being under the influence negates the ability to give consent. Understanding that revoking consent immediately terminates the scene. Consent now does not imply consent later in a subsequent scene. So fully understanding consent and how it is given, retracted and given again. That is very attractive.

[Ba****]

1 hour ago, Ken-Loves-Music said:

Fully respecting mutual consent and being under the influence negates the ability to give consent. Understanding that revoking consent immediately terminates the scene. Consent now does not imply consent later in a subsequent scene. So fully understanding consent and how it is given, retracted and given again. That is very attractive.

Wait
First which one of these is actually „a non-sexual thing“??
Second none of them are as black and white or as universal, things are a bit more complicated to the point that there can be contradictions and presumably unreasonable double standards just in the plain text of your comment without even looking deeper into it
So you are basically saying here that you like your partner to „fully understand consent“ while you yourself only display a specific kind of limited understanding of consent, implying that any potential deviation is „no true scotsman“

[Gi****]

Intellect and genuine intelligence are insanely attractive to me. Playing up a bubbly, airheaded persona as role play is one thing, but actually being shallow or unintelligent is a real turnoff.

[MistressWhipplash]

Humour, good clean skin and being attentive to me.

[He****]

Can you objectify what is humour?

[Un****]

As some have mentioned here, that brain thing. Use it. Communicate. Get to know the person behind the picture(s). Look beyond their kinks. There is nothing sexier than someone who takes the time to check in, and share something about their day, some tidbit about themself, etc. Learning one another.

[Ba****]

3 hours ago, Herrforlife said:

Can you objectify what is humour?

Is it possible to „objectify“ general concepts??

[wo****]

Watching a woman smoke a cigarette...makes me rock hard.
...

[Th****]

Show me your brain and what it’s about so I can understand emotional intelligence, compatibility. I’m Autistic as f**k but hyper sexual because of adhd. Not all bad When someone is clearly love bombing which is so easy to notice now I will analyse if it was actually something with substance or something to watch adhd can do it as well as NPD

they do it for different reasons though. Another thing I don’t really care about nudes early on. It actually triggers me I feel sorry that it bothers them when not everyone likes you. Being a sapiosexual and then not making the dating experience Suited for your desires is showing te wrong people your weaknesses . A manipulative person will target you for what’s in your bio if your new and exploit your need for validation to use to an advantage of themselves .


. I am so direct in communicating that flirting for me is hard. I know what I’m about and need to like go back in time and be more non direct I actually play ignorant for most shit the world is scared of.

[Si****]

Someone who does what they say they will at the time they say they will. We all have moments where schedules change, but a pattern of behavior that shows flakiness becomes a problem.

[ch****]

Show me intelligence or intellectual capacity of conversation. But being yourself also tends not being yourself. Like Star Wars the *** or Star Trek friendship is about and above everything. The needs of the many outweighs the need of the one .

In essence being yourself is about being yourself. Remember working with some chef friends of mine now happily married. He can get any number of women. But he wanted someone who challenged his standards and values and brains.

His current wife said when they got together it was because he was a huge skateboarding guy . She saw that plus he was chef full time.

Another Chef same thing he could get any number of women. Still does but his humor gets him . The biggest narrative is always humor which I applaud to .

My thoughts are if you are happy the big plus is intelligence for me keep me on my toes. I’m a huge historian buff . Also I love Science and Science Fiction and fantasy novels.

Currently: Lord of the Rings love comic books and literature and science books and mathematics books.

[St****]

The pleasure you get from within its intense and exhilarating

[Bi****]

Their tone and accents.