I am looking for a Femdom Dating Site - Any Advice?

[Deleted Member]

I am looking for a Femdom site which is only for Dating and Match making does such site exist? 

[so****]

Not that I'm aware of, unfortunately... You should create one. Start one yourself. I'm sure that would be a very good investment lol

[Deleted Member]

Internet search bring about 100 of them...

[Deleted Member]

Just now, FabSeverus said:

Internet search bring about 100 of them...

Yeah But I am not sure which are legit so if you have good one please DM me thanks

[Fen]

Unfortunately, this is sort of a systemic problem: more submissives attracted to women than dominant women. Women actually looking for a relationship with dominance in the bedroom have a wide choice of partners, and the majority of the pool left looking are either after something extreme (looking for a 24/7 no limits slave), or just in it for the ***. It'll be an issue no matter what site you choose.

[Deleted Member]

6 minutes ago, Fen said:

Unfortunately, this is sort of a systemic problem: more submissives attracted to women than dominant women. Women actually looking for a relationship with dominance in the bedroom have a wide choice of partners, and the majority of the pool left looking are either after something extreme (looking for a 24/7 no limits slave), or just in it for the ***. It'll be an issue no matter what site you choose.

Yeah I am getting what you are saying but then what solution would you propose?

[ey****]

There is only one that is in any way reliable - but you won't like it.

So, the vast majority that exist are all likely to be pointing to the same database.   And the same problem that there is little incentive for women to join, because the types of men to join is going to be largely Do-Me subs and those wanting easier results - the net result here is that of course knowing it's going to be largely guys wanting easy results, this makes it a lucrative breeding ground for scammers.

However.

 You then have sites like Womanian Empire - who are linked with the OWK, and Dominity - they have a listing of registered slaves - including regional - who agree to be in service to any woman who contacts them via the site 

However, everyone pays to be a part of this - so on one hand you know the subs are genuine and the Dominants are genuine - on the other it can get potentially very expensive especially especially, if, well, especially if no one wants to put you to use.

[Deleted Member]

4 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

There is only one that is in any way reliable - but you won't like it.

So, the vast majority that exist are all likely to be pointing to the same database.   And the same problem that there is little incentive for women to join, because the types of men to join is going to be largely Do-Me subs and those wanting easier results - the net result here is that of course knowing it's going to be largely guys wanting easy results, this makes it a lucrative breeding ground for scammers.

However.

 You then have sites like Womanian Empire - who are linked with the OWK, and Dominity - they have a listing of registered slaves - including regional - who agree to be in service to any woman who contacts them via the site 

However, everyone pays to be a part of this - so on one hand you know the subs are genuine and the Dominants are genuine - on the other it can get potentially very expensive especially especially, if, well, especially if no one wants to put you to use.

Thanks for the info it is Always good to know.

[ey****]

23 minutes ago, Fen said:

Unfortunately, this is sort of a systemic problem: more submissives attracted to women than dominant women. Women actually looking for a relationship with dominance in the bedroom have a wide choice of partners, and the majority of the pool left looking are either after something extreme (looking for a 24/7 no limits slave), or just in it for the ***. It'll be an issue no matter what site you choose.

Some of this is a little bit of a myth.

One of the best quotes I ever saw about Femdom was that, well, more women would be into it if it benefited them.  And by that, I don't necessarily mean paying.  

While women seemingly have more choice, the reality is when you look at a lot of the guys - what a lot of them want offers very little value.  Is very centric around fetishes rather than a person.  And they often fail to be conversational above either small talk or fetishes.  

Now. If I was going for a session with a Pro Domme, for example, I know I've got my time then out - so - the time is going to mostly be about play.  It doesn't matter if we like the same music, or same sports, or some TV film or books. It doesn't matter if we like walks in nature, or partying in clubs.   

If however I am meeting someone as part of any form of ongoing relationship - it's not going to all be play.  There's going to be times when we might both go to a restaurant together (presuming we both like restaurants and similar cuisine) and we're going to have to hold a conversation about something other than kink.  

Whilst obviously kink is important for some in their relationships - what many, particularly men, often fail to show is how they are more than kink.  

In short, a little "OK, so you like spanking (or whatever) and so do lots of men... so why should I spank you?" and that's a question that needs to be asked from within.  What would make someone want to spend time with us aside from fetish overlap?

[Deleted Member]

15 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

Some of this is a little bit of a myth.

One of the best quotes I ever saw about Femdom was that, well, more women would be into it if it benefited them.  And by that, I don't necessarily mean paying.  

While women seemingly have more choice, the reality is when you look at a lot of the guys - what a lot of them want offers very little value.  Is very centric around fetishes rather than a person.  And they often fail to be conversational above either small talk or fetishes.  

Now. If I was going for a session with a Pro Domme, for example, I know I've got my time then out - so - the time is going to mostly be about play.  It doesn't matter if we like the same music, or same sports, or some TV film or books. It doesn't matter if we like walks in nature, or partying in clubs.   

If however I am meeting someone as part of any form of ongoing relationship - it's not going to all be play.  There's going to be times when we might both go to a restaurant together (presuming we both like restaurants and similar cuisine) and we're going to have to hold a conversation about something other than kink.  

Whilst obviously kink is important for some in their relationships - what many, particularly men, often fail to show is how they are more than kink.  

In short, a little "OK, so you like spanking (or whatever) and so do lots of men... so why should I spank you?" and that's a question that needs to be asked from within.  What would make someone want to spend time with us aside from fetish overlap?

Exactly, Well said. I agree with you Blacksheep.

[LadyV]

While plenty of people (mostly men) have launched "FemDom dating sites/apps," the problem with those (and every other niche interest dating site/app) is getting women to use them. 

 

Cause I'll be honest, as a Dominant woman, I'd take one look at a "FemDom dating site/app" and hard nope the fuck away from it. 

 

You might be asking, "why would a FemDom not want to be on a FemDom dating site/app???"

 

Well...kinda the same reason behind why women in general don't like being on dating sites/apps, why women tend to go inactive or deactivate their accounts, why women join up far less than men do:

 

***. 

 

Men on dating sites/apps are extremely abusive to women on them in large volumes and very frequently. Enough that many women get sick of enduring it and stop coming to that site/app. 

 

I, as a Dominant woman, would take one look at a "FemDom dating site/app" and already know what to expect of it: men who are Dominant bottoms who misunderstand bdsm roles enough thanks to male-written FemDom porn to call themselves "subs" treating me like garbage. Approaching me like I'm not actually a human being. Treating me like an unpaid sex worker they can pile their fantasies and demands on without my consent and then scream ***s and threats at me when I resist. 

 

I'm not pulling that expectation out of thin air. That exact treatment is happening to me on here, for fucksake. Damn near daily. 

 

Men don't treat women well on vanilla dating sites/apps. That issue gets exponentially worse on sites/apps that are fetish or sex oriented. 

 

So yeah, no, I'd never use a FemDom dating site/app. I imagine most Dominant women with experience feel similarly to me on the subject. 

 

I'd expect such a site/app to be full of very abusive men and the scammers (who probably aren't even women)  willing to tolerate them to scalp cash off them. 

[Th****]

26 minutes ago, LadyV said:

While plenty of people (mostly men) have launched "FemDom dating sites/apps," the problem with those (and every other niche interest dating site/app) is getting women to use them. 

 

Cause I'll be honest, as a Dominant woman, I'd take one look at a "FemDom dating site/app" and hard nope the fuck away from it. 

 

You might be asking, "why would a FemDom not want to be on a FemDom dating site/app???"

 

Well...kinda the same reason behind why women in general don't like being on dating sites/apps, why women tend to go inactive or deactivate their accounts, why women join up far less than men do:

 

***. 

 

Men on dating sites/apps are extremely abusive to women on them in large volumes and very frequently. Enough that many women get sick of enduring it and stop coming to that site/app. 

 

I, as a Dominant woman, would take one look at a "FemDom dating site/app" and already know what to expect of it: men who are Dominant bottoms who misunderstand bdsm roles enough thanks to male-written FemDom porn to call themselves "subs" treating me like garbage. Approaching me like I'm not actually a human being. Treating me like an unpaid sex worker they can pile their fantasies and demands on without my consent and then scream ***s and threats at me when I resist. 

 

I'm not pulling that expectation out of thin air. That exact treatment is happening to me on here, for fucksake. Damn near daily. 

 

Men don't treat women well on vanilla dating sites/apps. That issue gets exponentially worse on sites/apps that are fetish or sex oriented. 

 

So yeah, no, I'd never use a FemDom dating site/app. I imagine most Dominant women with experience feel similarly to me on the subject. 

 

I'd expect such a site/app to be full of very abusive men and the scammers (who probably aren't even women)  willing to tolerate them to scalp cash off them. 

Yep, this exactly. Another Dominant woman here confirming this has also been my experience and any other D type woman I'm friends with or have spoken to, on this site especially. 

In order for a FemDom dating site to be appealing to women the men there would have to be heavily prescreened and/or very strict moderation and codes of conduct that are actually en***d. Arguably this could apply to BDSM/kink dating sites in general and attracting women who are genuinely into the lifestyle. 

The reason the ratios of men to women are so drastically different on *all* dating sites is due to the behavior of men, and women just not wanting to deal with it. 

Edited July 6, 2024 by ThaliaV

[LadyV]

28 minutes ago, ThaliaV said:

Yep, this exactly. Another Dominant woman here confirming this has also been my experience and any other D type woman I'm friends with or have spoken to, on this site especially. 

In order for a FemDom dating site to be appealing to women the men there would have to be heavily prescreened and/or very strict moderation and codes of conduct that are actually en***d. Arguably this could apply to BDSM/kink dating sites in general and attracting women who are genuinely into the lifestyle. 

The reason the ratios of men to women are so drastically different on *all* dating sites is due to the behavior of men, and women just not wanting to deal with it. 

I mean, fuck, what do you suppose the ratios of men to non-men are on this site? 🤔 

 

Personally, based on what I see in my DMs, my profile visitors, the forum activity, the browsing features, and the status feeds...I'm betting it's about 70-90% men on this site. 

 

I say 70-90% because it depends on if we want to include the inactive/dead female accounts and the fake-female scammer accounts or not. Cause if we don't include those, I'm betting it's 90% men on this site.

 

There's a fucking reason for that. A reason men really don't want to hear about. 

[d_guglieme]

Any advice for a submissive man earnestly seeking a dominant woman?

[ey****]

5 hours ago, domguglieme said:

Any advice for a submissive man earnestly seeking a dominant woman?

yes - reading one of the many many threads on the subject - rather than adding to a thread that's not really about it

[Go****]

If there were a FemDom dating app I would use it. It’s such a specific niche that it can be really difficult to find matches.
Despite getting bombarded with disgusting messages and unwanted genetalia pictures, I still endure these dating sites from time to time when I am in need, hoping to one day find the subby of my dreams. Still looking…

[d_guglieme]

5 hours ago, GoddessLilith666 said:

If there were a FemDom dating app I would use it. It’s such a specific niche that it can be really difficult to find matches.
Despite getting bombarded with disgusting messages and unwanted genetalia pictures, I still endure these dating sites from time to time when I am in need, hoping to one day find the subby of my dreams. Still looking…

I suspect that a femdom app would not help you

The same people sending abusive messages would be there.

And, with or without a dedicated app, you still have the supply:demand advantage. To put it bluntly (as a man in search of a domme), there are not many like you.

Your odds of finding that sub are much better than a sub's odds of finding you.

[Mz****]

I would use a FEMDOM dating app if it was designed and run by women. And the man that take part would have to be heavily vetted and then there would have to be some very strong security protocols put in place and maybe even rules in regards to how and what you post in regard to pictures basically it would have to be completely run by women driven by women. Because we all know that life is “controlled“ by men.

[cu****]

As a neurodivergent man, i am so with you on this. This world is so ***y confusing. It's no wonder I've always preferred female friends and bosses.

[Kr****]

Well, there was a regular femdom munch near to me, before I started visiting munches. It got canceled because there were too many creeps bothering the women... There seems to be something disgusting about most subs...

My advice would be to become the best version of yourself, find a vanilla GF and be cute when trying stuff out. The more of the stereotypical ideal dominant man I became in everyday live, the more there was interest in dominating me in the bedroom. 

[ma****]

Hey, I’m usually dominant once I’m comfortable but am pretty submissive in the beginning. I don’t do *** or ***, do these dynamics tend to be fluid or nah?

[ey****]

8 hours ago, Krateros said:

Well, there was a regular femdom munch near to me, before I started visiting munches. It got canceled because there were too many creeps bothering the women... There seems to be something disgusting about most subs...

 

I don't feel most subs are disgusting; though there can be a lot of misconceptions which can be work to manage 

Given that the OP is looking for Femdom dating - attending a Femdom munch (if there was one near him) would be good in the sense of connecting with others - but bad in the sense of trying to fulfil dating as that is not the primary function of munches

Having been to Femdom Munches I would add that they rarely serve a purpose in most cases - because they are the same as any other munch, just with a narrower audience - I think calling it a Femdom munch can very often lead people to the wrong ideas

and if the guys are being creeps - then they need to be removed or had words about their behaviour; and this communicated with other local organisers - rather than just folding 

[Mz****]

Having been to Femdom Munches I would add that they rarely serve a purpose in most cases - because they are the same as any other munch, just with a narrower audience -


FemDom munches absolutely serve a purpose. 1. They serves as a safe community for women who ID as FD 2. serves as a place where women have the control and can meet and connect and build community with submissive men without either party having to deal with folk who really Have problems with either women being dominant or me and being submissive 3. just the fact that there are fewer numbers of women who ID as dominant is reason and purpose enough to have a FEMDOM munch

There are munches for every affinity group you can think of there’s the Littles munch, TNG munches . There are some submissive men’s munch, there’s furies munch and on and on and on all munches have value and purpose

[ey****]

7 hours ago, MzHydra said:

FemDom munches absolutely serve a purpose. 1. They serves as a safe community for women who ID as FD 2. serves as a place where women have the control and can meet and connect and build community with submissive men without either party having to deal with folk who really Have problems with either women being dominant or me and being submissive 3. just the fact that there are fewer numbers of women who ID as dominant is reason and purpose enough to have a FEMDOM munch

hence me saying most, and not 'all' 

a lot also depends on the local community in general.  because if other munches are genuinely adhering to 'everyone is welcome' (and the paradox that can bring) then someone making someone feel unwelcome (due to being submissive male or Dominant Female) is against the munch ethos

I think with all niche munches the question is of course who is it for, what do they need, how does it meet the need?

In the posters example - the munch he had been going to clearly was not handling the audience well.

[Kr****]

On 11/14/2024 at 12:43 AM, eyemblacksheep said:

I don't feel most subs are disgusting; though there can be a lot of misconceptions which can be work to manage 

Given that the OP is looking for Femdom dating - attending a Femdom munch (if there was one near him) would be good in the sense of connecting with others - but bad in the sense of trying to fulfil dating as that is not the primary function of munches

I'd like to point out that I said most seem to have something disgusting about them. I am not judging entire personalities nor am I claiming that is a fact. I am quite new in the sceene. I just know what women complain about in real life as well as online in terms of unpleasant subs... and the few I met, who said openly that they are, were very peasant people to talk to... until they learned about a woman being dominant or even just switch and then went nuts.

 

One munch organisator said the inofficial goal for 90% of participients is finding a (play)partner. To be honest I think munches are perfect for dating... if you are not monogamius. I just need to get into a conversation without seeming like a creep, which is easy at a munch with discussion topics. I got a phone number at every single munch I went on. Sadly they all turned out to be poly, which is not my cup of tea.