About me
Interested in:
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- Kinky Dates
- LTR (relationship)
- Events & Places
- Networking
- BDSM Lovers
Description
Hello there ~
I'm here for something different from Fetlife. Interested in friends, play partners, and people I can attend munches, classes, and events with.
Connections I'm interested in:
- Masochists, submissives, bottoms, pets, slaves, or sub-leaning switches for both short term and long term play partner dynamics.
- Queer community folks and other femmes!
- Other poly/ENM folks for discussing our dating & relationship experiences! For the record, I am ENM and happily married to my submissive partner.
- Local community only.
- Dungeon, kink event, munch, and class partners/friends.
- Nerdy/Artsy/Weird people for platonic friendships and/or play partners!
- Rope enthusiasts I can learn from and with.
- 🩸/Needle play enthusiasts (I require recent testing prior to play).
- Fire play and wax play lovers.
- Fantasy, sci-fi, and horror fans (this includes people who love books, D&D, anime, movies, and cons of course).
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Interesting people who can teach me new things.
Connections I am NOT interested in:
- No long distance. No online. No tourists.
- No racists, homophobes, sexists, transphobes or any other sort of bigoted asshole.
- No conservatives, centrists, or libertarians.
- No sissy fetishists.
- No illegal/abusive activities.
- No hookups for vanilla sex acts.
- No swingers/unicorn hunting couples.
- No pay-for-play dynamics (respect to those who are into it, but I'm not).
Limits
My hard limits include:
- All the usual illegal things.
- Vanilla sex acts.
- Foot fetishists.
- Sissy fetishists.
- 💩
- Sexual harassment.
- Bigotry.
- Switching.
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
- Animal Play (Active)
- Blindfolds (Active)
- Ball Gag (Active)
- BDSM
- BDSM Collar (Active)
- Bondage Stocks (Active)
- Biting Fetish (Active)
- Bondage Bed (Active)
- Bondage Shackles (Active)
- Bondage Belt (Active)
- Bondage Cuffs (Active)
- Bondage Mittens (Active)
- Bondage Harness (Active)
- Bondage Cage (Active)
- Bondage Mouthguard Gag (Active)
- Bondage Rope (Active)
- Bondage Tape (Active)
- Cattle Prod (Active)
- Chains (Active)
- Chastity Belt (Active)
- Collar & Leash (Active)
- Domination (Active)
- Edgeplay (Active)
- Edging (Active)
- Electro Sex Stimulation (Active)
- Violet Wand (Active)
- Elbow Harness (Active)
- Face Slapping (Active)
- Restraints (Active)
- Fire Play (Active)
- Floggers (Active)
- Gags (Active)
- Gas Masks (Active)
- Handcuffs (Active)
- Human Pony Harness (Active)
- Jennings Gag (Active)
- Knife Play (Active)
- Head Harness (Active)
- Masks (Active)
- Medical Restraints (Active)
- Armbinder (Active)
- Muzzle Gag (Active)
- Nose Hook (Active)
- Needles (Active)
- Spanking Paddles (Active)
- Penis Gag (Active)
- Plastic Wrap (Active)
- Posture Collar (Active)
- Predicament Bondage (Active)
- Ring Gag (Active)
- Sadism (Active)
- Scratching (Active)
- Outdoor Sex (Active)
- Sex in the Water (Active)
- Sex Machine (Active)
- Spanking (Active)
- Spreader Bar (Active)
- Stocking Fetish (Active)
- Suspension Cuffs (Active)
- Taser (Active)
- Trampling (Active)
- Vampire Gloves (Active)
- Wax Play (Active)
- Wand Massager (Active)
- Whips (Active)
- Straitjackets (Active)
My places
Fetish.com gives you…
Many possibilities! There are plenty of ways to meet new kinksters. Check out our free BDSM dating. Still not convinced to meet in person? Take a look at some kinky discussions taking place, right now...
Like, I don't need to see who liked me. I already know it's gonna be 99.9% guys I'm probably not attracted to and/or not compatible with and/or nowhere near local to me.
And for the 0.1% of everyone else Read more… who I probably would be more interested in:
Damn near guaranteed they aren't local anyways, lol.
The problem seems to be that men fundamentally misunderstand how attraction works for women. Yes, physical is part of it but that's just it...it's *part* of it.
I almost never see a man I find physically attractive. 80-90% of the men in my inbox are all physically unattractive to me. I ran a poll Read more… about this one time and compared the poll results to existing research and it's pretty consistent: most women find most men physically unattractive.
That said, women don't rank physical attraction at the top of their priority lists in dating. Men constantly insist that's a lie (despite so much goddamn research consistently showing that nope, women really don't rank physical attraction as important as men do).
I'm bisexual and I've been in long term romantic/sexual relationships with 6 men. Only one of them I was actually physically attracted to right at the start. For the rest, my attraction grew and developed through familiarity and social chemistry. A thing that only occurs over time and with consistent positive interaction, shared values, and a mutual desire for a relationship to exist. Most women aren't attracted to most men at the start. To be fair, it's not like we've been socialized to view men in the objectifying terms of physical beauty or that men have been socialized to actually put effort into their beauty, grooming, wardrobe, or even personal hygiene. And that's before we even get into, "so has he done the internal work to address his internalized misogyny or is he going to feel entitled to on-demand sex and 24/7 free maid services because he has a dick and she doesn't?" Cause most men sure as fuck haven't examined that repulsive part of themselves. They haven't even reached consistent dental cleanings.
Time and trust.
I lead a very busy life so time is a huge limiting factor.
Trust, because most people simply aren't trustworthy. Kink is incredibly dangerous and the bdsm subculture attracts a fuckton of ***rs and idiots, both of whom are unsafe to play with obviously. About 5 minutes into any Read more… conversation, I can tell I'm either talking to a predator looking for a naive victim or an idiot looking for an unrealistic porno reenactment. Neither are appealing prospects and they represent the majority of what's on offer.
So yeah, time and trust.
Because I've had stalkers before cause creeps see women as possessions instead of people.
I'm here for something different from Fetlife. Interested in friends, play partners, and people I can attend munches, classes, and events with.
Connections I'm interested in:
Masochists, submissives, bottoms, pets, slaves, or sub-leaning switches for both short term and long Read more… term play partner dynamics.
Queer community folks and other femmes!
Other poly/ENM folks for discussing our dating & relationship experiences! For the record, I am ENM and happily married to my submissive partner.
Local community only.
Dungeon, kink event, munch, and class partners/friends.
Nerdy/Artsy/Weird people for platonic friendships and/or play partners!
Rope enthusiasts I can learn from and with.
🩸/Needle play enthusiasts (I require recent testing prior to play).
Fire play and wax play lovers.
Fantasy, sci-fi, and horror fans (this includes people who love books, D&D, anime, movies, and cons of course).
Interesting people who can teach me new things.
Connections I am NOT interested in:
No long distance. No online. No tourists.
No racists, homophobes, sexists, transphobes or any other sort of bigoted asshole.
No conservatives, centrists, or libertarians.
No sissy fetishists.
No illegal/abusive activities.
No hookups for vanilla sex acts.
No swingers/unicorn hunting couples.
No pay-for-play dynamics (respect to those who are into it, but I'm not).
"Gawd, women and femmes are so gorgeous. 💘 Every woman I've ever seen is just art. Every time I get to learn about their inner worlds, their thoughts, their ideas, their dreams and what moves them it's like listening to poetry. I want to know her as much as see her. I adore Read more… women. Their happiness gives me happiness too."
Straight men:
"I don't like when women [anything]."
Ghosting is boring. Say No-Thanks or make your move 🔥 Your inbox is waiting for play. Like...if you want women to respond more, ya gotta tell men to not blow up at "no." You shoot the messenger, you stop getting messages. 😒 This post strikes me as a weird way of shaming women into responding with "no thank you" to men we aren't interested in instead of not responding at all (which we do because men tend to explode at us in response to rejection).
Like...if you want women to respond more, ya gotta tell men to not blow up at "no." You shoot the messenger, you stop getting messages. 😒
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