Just thinking out loud

[Bu****]

Just a question but if you are no longer wanting to be in the relationship you were previously in for a year, is it not your choice to call it quits?

[El****]

This is an oddly worded question but if I read it correctly, if you no longer want to be in a relationship, then don’t be in the relationship. You owe it to yourself and to your partner(s) to end the relationship, regardless of whether it is a relationship that lasted one year or one month.

[Ga****]

It is always the choice of who wants to leave. You always have the right to say no. This is the age of consent. The freedom of saying no is always ours.

[br****]

It IS your choice! No point in staying in a relationship if your heart isn’t in it! Everyone has the right/choice to say no!

[Saucy1963]

Always your choice. You and how you feel are paramount.

[Ms****]

This is such an odd, rhetorical question. You have autonomy. You make decisions everyday for yourself. If you dont want to be in a relationship after 20 years, you dont have to stay. One date, you don't have to stay. And you dont have to explain yourself, unless you want to give that courtesy to someone.

[PL****]

I feel this needs more context. However, we all have autonomy. Therefore, with no more context; yes, anyone can choose to end a relationship at anytime for any reason.

[Ch****]

You have the choice to do whatever you feel is best for yourself

[sh****]

Why stay in a relationship that you are unhappy in. It's just going to make you both miserable and unhappy..

[Ju****]

Staying with someone when you know you don’t want to be there isn’t fair to them or to yourself. Take some time to think it through, but don’t overcomplicate it. Sometimes I’ll write my thoughts down and come back to them later it’s a good way to see if my reasoning actually holds up.

[bi****]

Recently had a scenario like this where I was called selfish for wanting to end it, it was a very confusing time. But the reality is, if you're unhappy, ending it is in the best interest of everyone involved. Pretending to be in love with someone will hurt more

[ga****]

I have had ex’s end a relationship with me because they want to “explore their 20’s” enough said.

[aaron_qld_au]

In Western culture, sure. Just get a lawyer first, because some can get... crazy

[my****]

When it’s more bad times than good, it’s time to get out.

[fa****]

What kinda question is this? You are always free to leave a relationship. No reason needed. You can do whatever you want bro

[Deleted Member]

I agree, it doesn't matter the excuse or reason. If your partner feels like leaving, then just let them go. I myself prefer them being straight up and honest about it though instead of some shit that sounds like it's from one of those chick flicks on the hallmark channel like that one you got.

[Ba****]

Not much context in this one
But yes if you really just don’t want to be in this relationship then move on

Alternatively if you are only not feeling it right now and/or would regret leaving for reasons beyond „being single kind of sucks“ maybe just have a in-depth conversation with your partner and take a step back for a bit to figure out if you rather work on it instead, it’s also your choice to try

A lot of pretty decent bathwater gets thrown out with unwanted babies these days, so just be sure about what you want

[da****]

Sounds like you’re using Fet to start some drama with your significant other. Sounds like you want to break up and they don’t. So you can either keep stringing them and stay like they want or leave.

[Bad_girls_pussy]

I would say maybe tak to them, maybe judging by your presents on this site you want to explore and you just mite be surprised to find they do as well maybe they will be open to it?

[Mi****]

I can't even call it quits in a 25 year relationship I don't want to be in anymore. I wasn't happy, I decided to end it and it's been worse than if I had just stayed and been unhappy.

[Ma****]

4 hours ago, Bad_girls_pussy said:

I would say maybe tak to them, maybe judging by your presents on this site you want to explore and you just mite be surprised to find they do as well maybe they will be open to it?

This gives a bit of projection vibes

[Ma****]

Obviously they should leave. But people sometimes won't. So the only choice is to set new rules that will make you happy. Amd if they can't handle that then they can leave

[Ba****]

3 hours ago, Machiavelli said:

Obviously they should leave. But people sometimes won't. So the only choice is to set new rules that will make you happy. Amd if they can't handle that then they can leave

Really?? After calling a simple „talk to your partner““projection“ you go on to suggest what could end up being passive aggressively bullying their partner into leaving instead as „the only choice“??

[Ta****]

Too many people stay in a relationship for the other benefits of the relationship and it isn't fair on their partner, when they suddenly jump ship and have just been waiting for another person to come along.

Even worse if the person treats the other partner badly because they don't like them anymore or resent being in the relationship with them but still pretend to want to be in that relationship for other reasons.

[ca****]

The question seems flawed, so maybe a question in return.

You use the word YOU a number of times (relating to yourself in this potential situation).

On that basis, who else choice could it be!!! ?