Should you play a role to please your partner

[Si****]

I was with someone thankfully was because it was awful truly and whenever we had sex she wanted me to suck her nipple like a child I did it the first two times( keep in mind I don’t have a submissive bone in my body ) but I had to express my self in my opinion it’s belittling but in her eyes it was just me pleasing her

[Al****]

Do you even like women if you don’t enjoy sucking titties?? It’s not “like a child” if she’s not fucking lactating. Dude yes you’re supposed to please her. It’s not submissive to suck on nipples dude, it’s hot. It’s fun. Nipples and boobs are the best

[my****]

4 minutes ago, Aliceurkitten said:

Do you even like women if you don’t enjoy sucking titties?? It’s not “like a child” if she’s not fucking lactating. Dude yes you’re supposed to please her. It’s not submissive to suck on nipples dude, it’s hot. It’s fun. Nipples and boobs are the best

like a child could easily mean laying in her lap and being held to mimic nursing.

I love sucking and even nibbling nipples, but the way I just described it wouldn’t be something I was into.

[th****]

I'd need more context to give you advice tbh. Did she just like, want you to give more love to her titties? Cuz complaining about a woman wanting you to kiss her tits and nipples is like complaining your steak is too juicy

[Si****]

14 minutes ago, Aliceurkitten said:

Do you even like women if you don’t enjoy sucking titties?? It’s not “like a child” if she’s not fucking lactating. Dude yes you’re supposed to please her. It’s not submissive to suck on nipples dude, it’s hot. It’s fun. Nipples and boobs are the best

Thats the thing I like sucking tittes but its a lot more to it she would want me to lay next to her as if I was getting breast fed while she played with herself and this is not no 2 minute quicky we would be there for hours if felt like I have no problem pleasing my partner but im not mommy good boy lol. And ofc I love women but thats like saying do you like dick in your mouth for 10 minutes straight Aliceurkitten it gets boring

[Deleted Member]

Fuck yeah nipples and breasts are amazing… and who the f cares if she is lactating… you express that girly and make her happy. If shes pleased she be leaking all over anyway.

[Si****]

5 minutes ago, theolen said:

I'd need more context to give you advice tbh. Did she just like, want you to give more love to her titties? Cuz complaining about a woman wanting you to kiss her tits and nipples is like complaining your steak is too juicy

Nah man it was more then that it’s like each time before we start having sex she always want ts done to her and I’m cool wit it bc I be the same way I love head before some pussy it’s a good build up but I’m not on the be degraded so you can be sexually pleased that’s low

[Si****]

5 minutes ago, TurboJ84 said:

Fuck yeah nipples and breasts are amazing… and who the f cares if she is lactating… you express that girly and make her happy. If shes pleased she be leaking all over anyway.

For the record for every one she was not lactating if she was I would have no problem but it’s just she enjoyed it bc it empowered her like she tried to call me mamas good boy or whatever I can’t go for dat

[Deleted Member]

3 minutes ago, SirTheBiggest said:

For the record for every one she was not lactating if she was I would have no problem but it’s just she enjoyed it bc it empowered her like she tried to call me mamas good boy or whatever I can’t go for dat

I get it. Communication is key and its good you expressed that to her. If she cant handle that, sorry. Keep trying to find a happy middle ground.

[Si****]

21 minutes ago, mythicalman said:

like a child could easily mean laying in her lap and being held to mimic nursing.

I love sucking and even nibbling nipples, but the way I just described it wouldn’t be something I was into.

Thankyou that’s what I’m saying I’ll suck sum tittes but not sit there with a pacifier and burp cloth that’s how I feel when I was in that position like a grown ass baby and as a dom and degrader myself I like being in control there’s nothing controlling about that

[iL****]

Send her my way king

[Si****]

3 minutes ago, TurboJ84 said:

I get it. Communication is key and its good you expressed that to her. If she cant handle that, sorry. Keep trying to find a happy middle ground.

We did completely stopped doing it like I’d suck em but not like a newborn

[th****]

7 minutes ago, SirTheBiggest said:

For the record for every one she was not lactating if she was I would have no problem but it’s just she enjoyed it bc it empowered her like she tried to call me mamas good boy or whatever I can’t go for dat

I see what you're saying now. Yeah, that's not everyone's cup of tea

[Si****]

3 minutes ago, theolen said:

I see what you're saying now. Yeah, that's not everyone's cup of tea

Yea I couldn’t do it

[Yi****]

Give her my number, I'll do it. I like it when my partner has ideas, not just oh, let's go with the flow and do whatever you want. And do whatever you want, really, it eliminates about half the things that I would want

[W1****]

This is ***. If you're uncomfortable your partner shouldn't *** it. Any act involving another person needs permission. And not "I will do it because you want me too", An emphatic yes "I want to do this".

[Si****]

4 minutes ago, W1ldFl0wer said:

This is ***. If you're uncomfortable your partner shouldn't *** it. Any act involving another person needs permission. And not "I will do it because you want me too", An emphatic yes "I want to do this".

That’s what I’m saying I don’t understand how there are people who differ with us

[jj****]

I don’t know, I don’t get why you think that’s belittling but just people like different things I guess 🤷

[ey****]

foreplay isn't "submissive" 

[malligator69]

There are no inherently submissive or dominant acts. It all depends on context and intent. I’m a Dom/vers top. So if I want to ride my subs cock, give them oral (m or f) or get pegged, it’s because it gives me pleasure and I desire it

[ba****]

Sounds like you listen to too much red pill bs and it's rotted your brain. Licking and sucking nipples is foreplay. You sound like those dudes with crappie personalities that claim women refuse to have sex with them, whole time it's this warped thinking that keeps your bed empty.

[Sl****]

Every woman who wants some form of foreplay should be listened to and it’s wonderful to give her whatever attention that she deserves as long as she’s also willing to do so for her partner. That mutual respect and admiration are what healthy couples seek. I’d be grateful for a woman to open up to me, the fact that she is willing to share any part of her physical being? Her physical form should be viewed as a Temple and NEVER a chore. Especially if she’s submissive.

[Kr****]

There should be flexibility in any dynamic, regardless of wether you're a dom or sub, you should want your partner to enjoy the experiences you share together, think of them as a person and not your plaything (atleast some of the time).

That said, if your partner asks you to do something you are uncomfortable with or unwilling to do, don't do it just to please them and talk with them about it if needed.

[az****]

I may be misinterpreting this one when you say suck her nipple lime a child do you be cooing and stuff? Or simply sucking a nipple? Because I couldn't do the cooing and stuff myself it's just not my cup of tea but just titty sucking you gotta do what you gotta do

[an****]

Every kink has an origin. She possibly could have found herself during nursing or wanted to nurse and couldn't. Kink = best key. Kinks change when there's a better key. This may not always be something she's into. If you still talk to her, instead of completely discarding the want you could integrate a breast pump/sucker/vibration/clamps and see if that 'scratches the itch' and rebalances the dynamic. A lot of times kink is therapy and when our partner denys that it's just one more place we feel dismissed. Fully understand that being dismissed as a dom feels just as bad as being dismissed as a sub. I agree to not being manipulated, but also be gentle in the language you use for your boundary if this kind of situation happens again. Something like this could be very important for them.