Women

[Mi****]

As a woman I do not think so. We are taught to be submissive, but I do not feel we are naturally that way.

[Deleted Member]

I would say that human beings are much too complex and diverse to generalize who can be submissive, and who can dominant “naturally”. There’s just too many variables at work for this particular question to have one answer.

[mi****]

No, I don't. Not to mention it's affected by what you grow around. In a deebly religious group They might teach that a woman should serve their man, in an empowering environment you might be taught that you can be anything. I was ***d, belittled, bullied and ***ed in my own home since a little Child, so I grew up as very submissive. In my day to day life I still am, but my dominating side comes out when I feel safe in my surroundings.

[ea****]

I think it’s insanely rare to find woman with no deep seeded desire to submit to the right man, and equally rare to find the opposite in men. But, our kinks and fetishes often over power those more primal urges.

[Bevo667788]

I think that both are submissive and Dom it keeps life intresting if both parties injoy both roles

[su****]

No I don't think so. I'm submissive in private only. Other than that I'm an alpha female

[Ja****]

Very true I would have to agree

[Ja****]

It’s almost as if it is in our genes

[Ca****]

Absolutely not no.

[Deleted Member]

In my personal experience more women are submissive than men are in terms of numbers. However, that is not to say women cannot be dominant, I have met and dated some very strong women. I dont mean just physical strength I mean mental and emotional fortitude, although, they were strong physically too. There is no reason a woman cannot be more dominant than a man.

[Ae****]

My input - it's my view that many people here are not fully informed about this topic in some ways.

I'd also point out that being submissive doesn't mean being being less, its not negative - hopefully at don't view being submissive in that way, right?

I kinda feel like some women feel a need to defend against the suggestions they may be submissive, as if it's an accusation.

Most women are more feminine than masculine. Not all. And most men are more masculine than feminine. Not all.

Evolution has a say in our subconscious desires - intellectual developments do not matter as evolutionary time lag means we all operate on 100,000 year old brain patterns.

[Ae****]

My input:

Think some people are not as informed as might be useful. Maybe I'm not either, but this is my understanding:

There's nothing negative about being submissive.

...As there is nothing negative about being feminine. Most women are more feminine than they are masculine. And most men are more masculine than they are feminine. But masculine women are great, and fenugreek men are great. I think we're all for accepting people here, we all agree on that.

Modern human intellects do not wipe away where we came from. We have a modern world in our minds that is still built upon 100,000 year old mental hardware. It's evolutionary time lag. Evolution has a big say in how we naturally are, or desire to be.

What were men and women like in the cave man days? What was a useful way to be? What was not a useful way to be? What traits made having kids more likely? What traits got in the way of that? For female and male alike?

Submissiveness is not a bad thing. And my opinion if your proud of "having a go" at people who share different views or opinions from you - please. Just don't.

Most women are inclined to feel more comfortable being submissive. And most men are inclined to feel more comfortable being dominant. Not all. Just most. And that's totally ok.

The reverse way is great too. It's not the norm, but it's also totally great for those people who enjoy that.

Want to change a mind? Converse politely. Then you'll actually get the person you're talking to to actually try to see and understand what you're saying.

[Ae****]

Accidental double post. First post didn't appear when I posted it. Sorry! 😖😖😖

[cu****]

I have so many issues with being submissive.. but Idk if that stems from my trauma issues or because I’m not naturally submissive.

[ha****]

lol, Absolutely not. I think certain deep psych aspects of women's nature are submissive compared to a man, but in general and day to day (where it matters) no way

[ha****]

I think most women want a man they can trust to take care of things and they'll reward him with submission, but I think women just have more subtle ways of dominating interpersonal relationships than men do, but women aren't any less interested than men in dominating interpersonal relationships to ensure they're getting their way. Women just try to get that dominance by being appealing to their male partner.

[Zephyr666]

To the OP - in short no, I don’t think any gender (or inter/fluid/NB) as a whole is naturally submissive.

I know people of both genders who are naturally dominant in life, and sexually (though not necessarily in both), and I can only offer my personal experiences to support my opinion (rather than reams of research or links to articles etc), but since your post seems to ask for opinions, I figured this is ok.

Personally, I’m dominant-leaning in my everyday life but I don’t like to integrate D/s dynamics into my sex life.

[ul****]

I’m dominant with woman or can be, and submissive with men fully.

[Br****]

Interesting views above : ) I think women are not more naturally submissive, however, gender roles often portray desirable women as agreeable or passive, and place the expectation on men to be assertive. So although things are slowly changing for the better, all of us have been exposed to a degree of social conditioning, which may influence our behaviour or perception of others, perhaps?

[de****]

I’m not sure there’s many statements that could be universally applied to all women in general 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Deleted Member]

Having attended an all girls school, I can tell you that women are absolutely not naturally submissive. Actually I know very few women who are naturally submissive.

[mi****]

No not me I have a natural dominant streak I have never been submissive by nature

[Deleted Member]

I think that it depends on the confidence you have within yourself. Some may be more dominant outside but struggle as such in the bedroom and vise versa. But with reading many articles being dominated isn’t always the case in the lifestyle because the dom has to still take in the consideration of the sub.

[MessyKitten]

For me being sub allows me to let go of being so strong and put together all the time. It allows a safe place for me to let go of the pressure I’m under at work and home and feel the emotions. I would say I am viewed as a dominant woman because of how I present myself to others but with my partner(s) I’m submissive.

[Deleted Member]

No. Not all women are submissive by nature. I think it depends on a lot of factors and ones own experiences. I can say that I am submissive by nature, but I’m also very nurturing and giving. I get more from being submissive than anything else. I crave being dominated.