Face sitting from a Dom perspective.

[Vl****]

I'm a traditional pleasure Dom. I'm curious if anyone else feels this way. I love to have my partner sit on my face. It gives them a little control to guide my tongue where they want. But at the same time it feels like I'm giving up control and being a little subservient. I know I'm giving the command for her to do it. But still...

Could be me overthinking but wanted opinions.

[th****]

Oh I totally agree. I love giving women the opportunity to sit on my face and have full control over my mouth

[Ms****]

Over thinking, you are having her do what you want, its that simple

[Mi****]

You could still express some control by guiding them around, moving their body with your arms wrapped around their thighs? It doesnt have to be quite as big of a submissive act/position to be in

[Kr****]

Imo it could depend on the dynamic. Orgasm ***? If a man clamps on to you, won't let you move, squeezes and grasps. He is in control.
If you are free to move, then no control. Unless the verbal commands say other, but still.
You can't control a tongue either, so how someone licks is up to them.
For me it's the act of grinding that gets me off more so. Or I'm giving verbal.... to suck my clit, harder etc.
For us, it can also be about *** and fluids. Soaking her/him. Control. One after the after.
Imo it's more of a submissive position. But I have been controlled and restrained lots of times. ***d into the position and unable to move.

[Vl****]

10 minutes ago, Kryssie93 said:

Imo it could depend on the dynamic. Orgasm ***? If a man clamps on to you, won't let you move, squeezes and grasps. He is in control.
If you are free to move, then no control. Unless the verbal commands say other, but still.
You can't control a tongue either, so how someone licks is up to them.
For me it's the act of grinding that gets me off more so. Or I'm giving verbal.... to suck my clit, harder etc.
For us, it can also be about *** and fluids. Soaking her/him. Control. One after the after.
Imo it's more of a submissive position. But I have been controlled and restrained lots of times. ***d into the position and unable to move.

Thanks for the detailed reply. This is helpful.

[Sq****]

If she loves it and she's squirting on your face that should be the only thing that matters in my opinion

[Hezzair]

So I am a switch, but I am very much a giver and a service top so if a dom has given me the direction to sit on his face, I am doing it. Now I am a squirter, but I am fully capable of holding back that orgasm if I am told I am not allowed to cum (well, most of the time anyway.) So, if that's what I am told to do, I will do it. But I haven't been told that many times.

[Bl****]

If I’m told to sit on your face, I’ll sit on your face. You’re telling me what to do and I’ll do it!

[ey****]

people keep pigeonholing activities as "Dominant" and "submissive" when most aren't inherently either.    Giving someone oral sex isn't a subserviant act.

[AZGeekyDaddyDom]

As a fellow pleasure Dom, I agree.

[Bh****]

It's been said, but i'll re-mention that the activities aren't in themselves dominant or submissive, it's about control and responsibility. Having said that, it's still OK for the dominant to give up control for awhile, everybody needs a break sometimes, and it can seen as a gift for good behavior, or even a punishment depending on the people, dynamic, and activities.

[Br****]

I’m a pleasure dom and my sub and I do this: either when I command or when she suggests. And it’s part of an overall range of activities we engage in when I’m verbally in control. In fact she knows I’ll do almost anything for her pleasure and she has me wrapped around her little finger.

Which is why it works between us so well, I suspect!

[DOMman]

Young pleasure Dom - i think i understand, from my perspective if my Sub is doing something to make herself feel better in that moment only note that and I’ll focus that spot for them (pleasure is the focus). Also if they move too much (for my liking) I just hold them still. It gives me the feeling of directing and she the feeling of controlled . I don’t think you’re overthinking, maybe just how you’re thinking about?

[Sk****]

I agree with comments that facesitting isn't necessarily dpm/sub. That said, there are things you could do to make it more sub. for example, sub could be blindfolded, collared, leashed, bonded. The activity could be either a punishment or reward as deemed fit. Sub could be 'required to perform' for a set duration, or frequency, or as part of a routine. Sub could earn or spend points for doing/to do the activity. etc etc. Sky is the limit, bounded only by imagination.

[NEHypnotist]

It's all about personalities and the relationship. If you want to be dominant about it and keep control, give her instructions that limit what she does.

If she can see a digital clock set to Stop Watch, she must raise up after 30 seconds. Variations, she cannot re-sit until she is told to and she gets another 30 seconds of attention. She has to go down on you for one minute. No timer, but when you slap her bottom she has to immediately raise off. Of course, you can act as if she's about to be swatted, but hold off.

Many playful ways to enjoy and be dominant.