Cheating, open relationships and ENM.

[Da****]

I think the terms of open relationships are determined by those participating....

[Bi****]

I wouldn't know. Open relationships and enm don't exist in my world. Either you all participate together in a poly or you are faithful to one person. That way there's never any room confusion or lies. (Unless your partner cheats)

[Do****]

My question would be whether or not he knows. Like, make it very clear that his knowledge of this relationship is important to you. If he doesn't know, then it's cheating. If he does know, then she is prioritizing her relationship with him, which is part of the agreement that she should have made clear from the start.

[TS****]

For us, we just see it this way: if we're both aware of what's going on and agree to it, it's fine. If someone's not aware of what's going on, that falls into the realm of cheating. Or at least a very dark gray area

[te****]

Open Relationship: I am monogamous. It means that my ex listened to me when I said that we need to meet new people. I'm not looking at her to be my life companion anymore. We've decided to have a rational breakup and remain civil with each other, rather than have an emotional fallout. I am on the market.

“We opened the relationship up instead of flipping it upside down.”

[Go****]

I don’t know what ENM stands for…

But from the description you give it sounds like it stands for ENEMY!

Sounds like despicable behaviour to deceive multiple people, bend the rules, hide the truth, etc. all to fulfill some sexual desire…

Sorry whoever or whatever ENM means,
Not hating on anyone, but the abbreviation carried too good a literary correlation for me not to call ENENMY on a person who’d deceive and betray their spouse or other people in such a manner 🤷🏽‍♂️

[Ba****]

3 hours ago, GodMadeMeKinky said:

I don’t know what ENM stands for…

But from the description you give it sounds like it stands for ENEMY!

Sounds like despicable behaviour to deceive multiple people, bend the rules, hide the truth, etc. all to fulfill some sexual desire…

Sorry whoever or whatever ENM means,
Not hating on anyone, but the abbreviation carried too good a literary correlation for me not to call ENENMY on a person who’d deceive and betray their spouse or other people in such a manner 🤷🏽‍♂️

Ethical non-monogamy

It’s when you don’t deceive multiple people, don’t bend the rules, don’t hide the truth etc.

So you are a bit off there
And it would have been a real quick google search

Fyi the main difference between ENM and poly is that ENM tends to be multiple two person relationships while poly can mean one relationship with more than two people

[Mr****]

5 hours ago, GodMadeMeKinky said:

I don’t know what ENM stands for…

But from the description you give it sounds like it stands for ENEMY!

Sounds like despicable behaviour to deceive multiple people, bend the rules, hide the truth, etc. all to fulfill some sexual desire…

Sorry whoever or whatever ENM means,
Not hating on anyone, but the abbreviation carried too good a literary correlation for me not to call ENENMY on a person who’d deceive and betray their spouse or other people in such a manner 🤷🏽‍♂️

Friend, you're right on the mark with that. Anyone can claim to be ENM, but an "NME" misplaces the "ethical" part.

[ey****]

8 hours ago, GodMadeMeKinky said:

I don’t know what ENM stands for…

Ethical Non Monogamy

though, ahem... there's assorted stuff around non monogamy which wouldn't be ethical - so cheating is still possible, intentionally misleading people, so on.... all the stuff which can still happen even when you call it 'ethical'