Popular Post No**** Posted May 20 Popular Post I read a thread on NSA and kink and I was surprised by the number of thoughtful and genuine responses (thank you for your question Snow). I typically pass when a person is up for NSA only. I had only had a few experiences with these individuals. All were pretty much one night stand, never want to talk to you types who made me feel empty and used. Learning this new concept of what NSA is… is it possible for an NSA relationship to evolve into something more? 
Ta**** Posted May 20 Yes, but you need to communicate and be honest. I had an nsa turn into a relationship and fail because she wasn’t super upfront with things
wi**** Posted May 20 Yep, it's really about communicating. And also being okay with things not working out. Sometimes one person wants more and the other doesn't. As long as both people are on the same page.
jo**** Posted May 20 Like my answer on that thread, _my_ definition of NSA does not preclude real feelings. What it means to me is that, despite what might transpire, the dynamic of the relationship is not intended to build up momentum towards an exclusive romantic involvement.
Bl**** Posted May 20 If the sex is great and you enjoy each others company, then yes. I had a 7 year affair that started out as NSA but quickly developed into more because we genuinely liked the other.
Ju**** Posted May 20 I’ve had a few fwb today it turned into relationships. Some of my longer ones at that
la**** Posted May 20 I believe NSA is the lowest relationship bar one can set. I think this low bar nsa is good for complete strangers. It doesn't have to mean a throw away relationship or experience... for some it does. For me it's a progression.... NSA first, if that's good, FWB second, if that's good, then that'd GOOD! Just my 2 cents
fa**** Posted May 20 You didnt get "used" I dont even know how you got to that conclusion. You had consensual sex where both parties agreed to have a one off lol also why do you wanna have small talk? Besides that I do that, nsa and I make sure to be so good in bed that she wants seconds. Nsa can evolve into fwb or on my case a relationship and marriage. But on another note I felt used and empty too after ONS with random ladies. So I can feel you. But I never said THEY made me feel empty and used lol. I made myself feel empty and used. "Accountability"
jj**** Posted May 20 Maybe but I think it’s a whole lot better when relationships come out of clear communication. When I actually was looking for NSA, it happened too often that the other person wanted more and I just wasn’t emotionally ready for more. It made interactions tense and awkward because I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but was doing my best to communicate my boundaries. Now, if someone says they are looking for NSA, I take that to mean they either don’t want more or just aren’t ready for more and I want to respect that. At this point, I want an actual relationship, so I won’t try to ruin someone’s plan by linking up with someone who has already communicated they can’t or won’t be ready for more. I think we should be more mindful of what other people communicate to us - I’m not going to twist anyone’s arm to get them into a relationship they don’t want, but people should also evaluate their readiness for relationships themselves.
in**** Posted May 20 NSA absolutely can develop into something else. One of my colleagues met his future wife as a fling from that hookup site starting with T. The sex was good, one later reached out for a booty call, as they kept doing that they realized they liked each other, things built from there.
Mr**** Posted May 20 9/10 they always evolve because someone wants to hang out more, etc etc. You have to be strong and keep communication to a minimum and hook up once or twice, maybe 3x and move on.
Se**** Posted May 20 One of my pre cursors to beginning something with someone is always that the option be there for more - whatever that may be. I never want to begin anything with absolutes of this will never be… or this will only be… I, personally, can’t get my head around that way of thinking but it definitely works for some people. That said, if someone is HAPPY to begin a NSA “relationship”/encounter then they really need to go into that with their eyes open and really HEAR and comprehend what the other person is saying and accept it. False hope is a crue!ty to oneself and the other party and ultimately leads to hu.rt. Sure, things MIGHT develop but in probability it is unlikely (yes, there are obviously those who don’t fit that mould). If someone tells you who they are and what they can offer and it’s less than you think or know you want, believe them, first time.
si**** Posted May 20 Sometimes it falls apart, sometimes stays the same, but if there’s a connection something will eventually grow
Ma**** Posted May 20 Personally I know I want a deeper level than on the surface NSA (at least that's the way I view it). I want/need that intimate level to even get physical satisfaction. I haven't even considered an NSA because I want that connection. I know I would end up causing myself emotional *** if I considered NSA in the off chance it would grow to more
my**** Posted May 20 People fall in love as prison pen pals. Anything can happen. That said trust people to know what they want. I’ve done NSA and you still feel like shit when it ends, or you end it.
Su**** Posted May 20 If you go into a NSA situation hoping for more, you’re already on the wrong track. Can NSA relationships evolve into something more? Totally. Do they always? Absolutely not. The biggest thing is being open and honest with yourself and the other person/people involved. Remember, expectations lead to disappointment. I agree with another comment here that mentioned how it’s understandable to feel used but if that person specifically said they wanted NSA then they didn’t use you. It sounds more like you prefer deeper connection, and that’s okay. It’s great to explore and figure out what you like but it’s also okay if it’s not for you. Good luck to you!
Ki**** Posted May 20 I had a NSA relationship 30 years ago. We've been married for 11 years now. She is the most amazing person I've ever met. We ended it after the first two years. Didn't see each other for 5 years. One day I was driving and suddenly I realized that she was who I should be with. Long story short, it took me a couple years to clean up the mess I made of my life before we could get together.
Sh**** Posted May 20 Sometimes NSA connections wind up being the most honest and thus develop into something real. You gotta be able to be yourself in relationships and for some people, that's not the easiest thing. If you start out being completely open because of said arrangement, it can be freeing.
ey**** Posted May 20 it could but if you put stock into it happening it ends badly for everyone if it's NSA and you're happy that way then all is good if it just so happens that you both kinda want some form of relationship and it's agreeable - that can happen and sure but if one person goes along with NSA in the hope something will happen it'll end in disappointment
Fa**** Posted May 20 Personally I feel the NSA phrase is designed to be a one and done type situation (Not 100% but mostly). Now a FWB situation gives you a bit more connection but they can also evolve into even more. Personal opinion of course.
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