Daddy roles

[Joseflove]

When you are looking for a DD/LG what are things that you dont want ?
And why?

[bo****]

i don’t like it when it’s an extremely sexual dynamic. i personally age regress and do ddlg because of past trauma and that can hurt more than help if it’s with the wrong person/a person who only sees the sex and not the individual, though i think that’s true for any kink. also anything involving actual *** or anything similar is a hard boundary that everyone in this space should have

[mo****]

Its a bit of a reddit reply I know but bare with me:

From the LG side. I have had this dynamic with someone who was over 10 years older than me. I think a lot of ddlg relationships lean into age gaps which is why I'm relating it. It was great, just what I was after! However I quickly realised that my intellect and opinions got reduced systemically by a perceived attitude of "I'm older and wiser in life so you don't know what your talking about and I do" from the DD, reminds me of that Danny Devito scene in Matilda now I'm writing it down :') Maybe thats your thing? I can understand it as a kink, but when it creeps into vanilla life it ruins the relationship.

Lesson learned for me :)

[Na****]

You can reply in a way that shows you actually heard her concern about being talked down to, while still expressing interest in the dynamic.

Something like:

Hey, I read what you shared and it makes a lot of sense. I get how that dynamic can shift from fun into something that feels like your voice gets smaller, especially when age difference gets used as authority instead of just context. That is not something I am interested in creating.

What I am drawn to is more mutual than that, even if there is structure or play involved. I like the idea of guidance and dynamic roles, but only where your thoughts, opinions, and personality stay fully respected and alive in it.

If you are open to it, I would like to talk more and understand what actually felt good for you and what did not, so we are not repeating old patterns.

[NY****]

I don't want the roleplay to morph into a counseling session about all the things family did to screw her up. Between wild sex and massive squirting, I felt like her life coach.

[TJ****]

I don't want all these damn lights on and the ac running

[Ba****]

I don’t want inconsistency.

[Di****]

From the little side for me is somome who sees the little side and uses that against me.

[Si****]

I want someone who understands I’m not just a Little during a sexual scene. But also I’m not Little 💯 of the time. I’ve found sometimes Dads have different expectations on that vs reality.

[Deleted Member]

Something that I'm looking for when I am considering entering into any Ds dynamic is a Submissive who is going to represent me well. The truth is many of them will not. Before collaring them and entering a BDSM contract (great tool for both parties by the way) I need to be shown that the Submissive has our mutual best interest at heart, and Daddy is here to guide them in that direction. If we can't develop that level of understanding, trust, and respect, then I should not be collaring them and that dynamic isn't going to be an good one for me.

[Se****]

My last DD/LG was good at first. We should have had a clearer understanding of what each of us expected! I did not want to be brought into her family dynamics! I also did not like to 420 vape pens! Not to nitpick but her training was unsatisfactory! But perhaps it was my lack of Dominance? Either way l will have a clearer understanding and get it in contract form next time!

[mi****]

Im a 24/7 little but when im out ans about im big as I have to be but my little pops in as she should lol

[BlueGrace]

I am a closed poly private little, sub, and service submissive for my 4 Doms. I don’t want to be with someone that is intolerant of little space or views it with distaste. I don’t want a man that is emotionally immature. I want to be able to be *** with my dominant in the most *** state I have which is my little side. I don’t want my little side to be sexualized or brought into my age play kink. I keep those two very separate.
I don’t want a DD that is not stable. I don’t want a Dom that is pushy with my boundaries. I have to have a DD that is firm with rules and expectations. My little space is not sunshine and rainbows all the time. Sometimes it is dark and overwhelming. I use little space to heal from traumatic events along with therapy and medication. I have to have a DD that helps me heal and doesn’t do further damage.