Evolving in play

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Have you ever shied away from certain kinks/fetishes thinking "nope thats not for me" and as you evolve, you come round to the thought of "it doesnt look as bad as I thought" and the next thing you have agreed to give it a go?

Well this was me after always saying no to needle play until I sat & watched some friends do a scene involving said play and I was fascinated at the connection and the beautiful design that came of their scene.
After some discussion with both people involved and others at the event I agreed to try a scene with a good friend who I have seen on several occasions engage in needle play.

So today I attended a Sharps event at a club I often attend and my good friend, who I trust greatly and I set about our scene, was I still apprehensive? You bet I was, all sorts of things were running through my mind, would it hurt, would I safe word, would I like/dislike it?
My scene partner made me feel at ease, talked me through what he intended to do & after checking I was ok to begin he cleaned my skin with medical wipes to ensure my skin was clean, he applied the chosen stencils & checked in with me before starting, I said I was ready so he began.
I dont know what I was expecting but it wasnt ***ful and he checked in with me during & after each needle was applied. I will be honest it was nothing like I was expecting, I found it quite relaxing and by the time he began the second template I found myself so relaxed and chilled out.
After a while and lots of photos later he made me a drink and we sat & chatted some more then came the time to remove the needles.
If Im truthful I hadnt thought about this part, but he removed them and I said it was a weirdly satisfying feeling and I felt completely at ease and safe throughout the whole scene. I had the area on my back wiped clean & given a choice of spray plaster or a dressing (I opted for the dressing for personal reasons).
He and I chatted whilst he provided my aftercare and I can honestly say it is something I will now incorporate into future play should it feel right.

I did it and Im so proud that I did.

How many of you have not tried something for whatever reason and then when you do try it you find out you actually liked and enjoyed it because it was nothing like you imagined it?

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I’ve e always wondered about this

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12 hours ago, Tasty_Confession11 said:

How many of you have not tried something for whatever reason and then when you do try it you find out you actually liked and enjoyed it because it was nothing like you imagined it?

Kinda.

There are some things which I wasn't all that interested in when I started (and some which I maybe was) but over time it became a case of doing it with the right person in controlled circumstances and then somewhat being... it's still not necessarily for me, but something I would do again in the right circumstances

Likewise, a lot of activities have become less for me.  Mostly cos it feels they were stuff I did cos I thought I had to (the old impact play and that....) which I now kinda do less of

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1 hour ago, vigorousfrog586 said:

I’ve e always wondered about this

About evolving or needle ***?

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Yes, there have been a few. Some of which were initially hard limits. And no, before anyone gets their knickers in a twist, nobody f0rced me to change my hard limits, nobody f0rced me to rethink them, nobody overstepped any boundaries etc, etc. Anything that has changed within me has been a process of growth and discovery I’ve gone through.

Additionally there have been things I’ve wanted to do/experience that I never thought I’d be comfortable to discuss or share with anyone else.

I am beyond lucky that I’ve met some people on my journey who have helped me to grow and explore (yes, I feel nauseous saying that) and experience things that I never thought or dreamed would be possible. They haven’t always gone to plan but they are memories and I don’t regret them.

Most recently I’ve been in a place with someone where I feel safe and ridiculously happy. This safety has meant that I’ve been open to explore more types of play that I wouldn’t have dreamed of before - things that seemed far too risqué for me, things that I didn’t think I was strong enough for and things that he coaches me through before, during and afterwards. I am ridiculously lucky that he sees me in my entirety and reads my body, notices things I do/I try to hide, remains steady and stays supportive while I navigate these new experiences. I am loving everything we’re exploring, even if I do sometimes have wobbles about it afterwards and worry about what it “makes” me.

I suppose, to try and be succinct, for me there are things I’ve shied away from, things I thought were an absolute no go but meeting the right partner and being in the right space has made it safe and enjoyable for me to push myself, explore and find more of what I like. Do I only like these things because of/with him? I think that is very likely but I don’t think that really matters (to me) because I’ve zero intention of replacing him. 

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General medical play.