Make or break?

[xR****]

2 hours ago, Scotterzz said:

I find it impossible to connect with someone if I can’t TOUCH them.

LYING/CHEATING; as a dom I will offer plenty of opportunities for play time with others both men and women. If there is someone you want to sleep with, let’s talk about it. Doing it behind my back is not going to be ok.

Breaking the same rule over and over and over….

Oh,I feel this. It's hard to cheat on me. My rule for my partners, whether a d/s relationship or just as a romantic interest, has always been 1. Just let me know first, and 2. Send me a pic. I have to approve it. After that, just go nuts. I mean, gotta make sure you ain't getting some trailer trash, right? And yet, the cheating still happens. 😐

[Sc****]

Exactly. People who cheat just don’t understand the kink world OR the cheating is their kink.

[ta****]

Honesty and trust are the most essential things break either and I’m out of there!!! If you have both of those then you can let yourself go and that’s when the real fun begins

[metronome]

10 hours ago, xRainx said:

Oh,I feel this. It's hard to cheat on me. My rule for my partners, whether a d/s relationship or just as a romantic interest, has always been 1. Just let me know first, and 2. Send me a pic. I have to approve it. After that, just go nuts. I mean, gotta make sure you ain't getting some trailer trash, right? And yet, the cheating still happens. 😐

Agree, have lived this rule all my adult life. I might know something that you don't and I'm out to protect both of us

[da****]

Open and honest communication is a must and I’m also touchy feely. Like it’s the best. Have a great day

[Di****]

Any form of dishonesty would break it

[Deleted Member]

Agree with u. Affection is a must, open mind, goals in life, creating a safe space for me to feel like I don't have to be strong all the time.

[mx****]

Outside of major - break of consent or dishonesty, mines Affection and touch, I can be forgiving and understanding of so much for So Long but a consistent pattern of disinterest or lack of affection and ik its done.

[mo****]

communication is a need for me, without it we could be hurting the other and not know it

[Pn****]

Communication is key. I am not a mind reader. Talk to me leave me a note. Something.

[Fetlike]

lying even a little

[dr****]

Touch is a strong form of communication. Learn your partner’s way to communicate. It can be small gestures, touch, compliments. It might not always be obvious, so learn quickly how they show affection, then show them you see it and appreciate it.

[ca****]

Touch, but the opposite. When touching your partner or being touched doesn’t excite you

[Da****]

If they support Trump, definitely a deal breaker…

[ea****]

The core=>respect, honesty, loyalty now loyalty might be one thing or another to some one but for me respect is a given until you ruined it and that doesn't matter the context, I will always hand respect first, but first respect is easily lost... Honesty, honesty is not being honest with me it's being honest with the world, with the reality, not your reality but the full scope of reality. If you lie to yourself you'll lie to me, if you can't handle what you've done in reality you lie to yourself and everyone around you, reality is truth your truth as people call it is not reality unless your lines up with reality.

Honesty, respect, curiousity, and loyalty all main key vectors in cognition and at the the center is self. The minute you disrespect you, you aren't loyal to you and lie to you there is no you. Therefore no self. And if there is no you but there is me then there can be no you and me... no self discovering self, no you discovering me and no me discovering you.

[ea****]

Key focus if my cybernetics reality comes first.

[BlueGrace]

Not having employment. A requirement of being in a dynamic with me is having employment and being able to pay their bills. I’m not an ATM and I will not financially support them.

Becoming transsexual or changing sexual orientation. I am into males and only heterosexual males. I cannot be with someone that decides they are different from that. I will still love them and support them, but the dynamic will be over.

Lack of honesty. Honesty is a paramount structure in dynamics and when there isn’t honesty there isn’t a healthy dynamic.

Smoking and use of illegal substances.

Crossing explicit boundaries, limits, etc. Crossing my boundaries is an automatic and instant killer of my dynamic. They exist for a reason and there’s no negotiating around them.

[ne****]

Zero make or breaks honestly.

[Re****]

Lying, breaking promises, cheating. Honesty is of the utmost importance to me and I believe if you break your work, you can't be trusted and shouldn't be. I tell people that I'm close to that if ot takes me 10 minutes or 10 years to keep a promise I make to you, I will and if I fail in that, I would be unworthy of their trust. I hold others to the same standard.

[cu****]

Poor communication is like a break right off the rip , it’s makes everything you guys go through 10 times more difficult than what it needs to be ! It’s even worse when it’s a bigger problem that could’ve probably been solved early on if it were talked about ://

[me****]

Make or break, I am pretty tolerant and tend to ignore petty problems but one thing that does push me away is being nasty and hateful for no good reason ( not that there should be a good reason anyway) setting you up to fail or just making you feel uncomfortable when they walk into the room. Someone else mentioned lack of communication can be destructive and can drive self doubt. Trust is very important so being open and honest should only strengthen a relationship, betrayal is like a cancer that never really heals.

[ch****]

Lies are a killer

[Ia****]

If I'm not respected, then the relationship is off. I don't like being talked down to, having people put their hands on me without my consent, hurting me through my emotions & so on. I don't stand for not being heard. I'm a switch but there's a lot of Doms who think they're owed your submission or subs who laugh or look down on me. So when those things happen, I just cut off the relationship because I'm not going to explain why I deserve respect. Everyone deserves respect.

[xR****]

1 hour ago, IamClover said:

If I'm not respected, then the relationship is off. I don't like being talked down to, having people put their hands on me without my consent, hurting me through my emotions & so on. I don't stand for not being heard. I'm a switch but there's a lot of Doms who think they're owed your submission or subs who laugh or look down on me. So when those things happen, I just cut off the relationship because I'm not going to explain why I deserve respect. Everyone deserves respect.

Ooh, this I feel. My only real domme I had did that; I don't mind being absolutely disrespected in a scene, in a bedroom. But fucking with my emotions all the time, dismissing me, talking down at me for simple things?

No. Just no. I am a good sub, a little bratty. My brain is wired to serve. I didnt deserve it. I didn't even end it, they did. Sorta felt gross afterwards, honestly.

[ne****]

7 hours ago, xRainx said:

Ooh, this I feel. My only real domme I had did that; I don't mind being absolutely disrespected in a scene, in a bedroom. But fucking with my emotions all the time, dismissing me, talking down at me for simple things?

No. Just no. I am a good sub, a little bratty. My brain is wired to serve. I didnt deserve it. I didn't even end it, they did. Sorta felt gross afterwards, honestly.

I can understand how emotional manipulation is a turnoff