Obedience vs True Submission: A question for subs

[To****]

What’s the difference between a man you obey…
and a man you actually want to submit to?

I’m not talking about looks or just attraction.

What is it that makes that switch happen in your mind?

Is it the way he carries himself? The way he treats you? The feeling of safety?

I’m curious what that moment looks like from your side….

[d0****]

There's got to be a sense of actionable integrity that is displayed a lot of conversation a lot of trust obviously there's going to be attraction that's a given but for me I need to see that words aren't just empty that actions happen before promises are made and constant communication because without communication the whole situation can become dangerous quickly and or very upsetting.

[to****]

Safety and confidence knowing he won't cross boundaries and mutual respect of course

[SI****]

Its the way he treats me, the way he remembers a small detail, its the was he carries himself and making sure I feel safe no matter where we are or what we are doing. Its the way he communicates with me no matter how I feel. He loves me out loud in public and loves me respectfully, disrespectfully. He makes my brain shut off, no overthinking, makes and shows me how beautiful I am no matter what! He's my most amazing Daddy, lover, caretaker, partner, protector and so many other amazing things. He's my dream come true, my night in shining armor. 😘❤️💗❤️‍🔥

[br****]

For me obedience is a completely different energy. I obey because of *** of some consequence could even be healthy *** but it feels ***d. submission is willingness desire to be completely present and trusting
Obey me ok why … no
Submission why XYZ….. yus please.

[po****]

1 hour ago, d0n7sm1l3Cry said:

There's got to be a sense of actionable integrity that is displayed a lot of conversation a lot of trust obviously there's going to be attraction that's a given but for me I need to see that words aren't just empty that actions happen before promises are made and constant communication because without communication the whole situation can become dangerous quickly and or very upsetting.

Yes big on the communication. That’s so important

[li****]

Obey vs Submit? I personally submit and obey only to someone that actively develops trust and honors me and my contribution to the dynamic; physical or mental. outside of that….. I’m feral and be warned.

[Li****]

Most definitely the connection, consistency of nurturing with the desire and security that makes me submit mind,body and soul 🎀

[kr****]

For me, I don't obey. Why should I listen to someone barking orders? Obedience is not for me. I associate it with being... Less than. This is just my perspective.
Submission is a gift. I choose to give it to a man who has my best interests in mind, who sees me and knows me. Someone who sees my submission as a gift and honors it and respects me. Who doesn't take for granted that he has mentally enticed me and now I have chosen to give him physical control. It's rare to meet a man deserving of that. It's rare to meet someone who cares enough.
This was a beautiful question and I liked thinking about my answer, so thank you for asking.