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6 minutes ago, FETMOD-BD said:

 - Stay on topic please

Thank you 😊

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See. There it is again: Words to be missunderstood.
It's a mess. Verbal communication.

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What does "dating" even mean? What is the difference to a relationship except time? And does time even matter, if you live in the moment? Really live?!

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On 8/29/2026 at 8:46 PM, Connobuckley1 said:

I can't relate to this because I'm new to the app but I mean as a neurospicy individual myself I feel like it's hard for me to find someone who would accept me for who I am

Sometimes I half wonder if the representation of ND folk within the kink community is because, on the whole, it is easier to find the associated acceptance/structure - but then that there is also a lot of challenges in online comms.

The challenges of course can be linked to the form of neurodiversity - someone with ADHD having different challenges to Autism to dyslexia and so on.     I have found it interesting that there are a lot of people in my kink community I know who are different shades of neurodiverse whose online posts can go in one of two ways - from the frequent and oversharing, especially in a friends group they feel is safe - to those extremely reclusive who might pop up now and then when they have the emotional energy

So, yeah - people in general maybe are a little more accepting of ND - but it's sometimes a little easier in community spaces, and, well, like a lot of stuff depends on what your own needs are and how you manage them 

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6 hours ago, Fehmarn68bi said:

See. There it is again: Words to be missunderstood.
It's a mess. Verbal communication.

Well it was just the same thing i always struggle with. Ppl thinking i mean more than what i said.

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For me it is the being misunderstood/misinterpreted. My last dynamic ended due to this and it’s so frustrating because they thought I meant something other than what I did by what I said and I can’t get them to understand that’s not what I meant.

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8 hours ago, Emmy-2300 said:

For me it is the being misunderstood/misinterpreted. My last dynamic ended due to this and it’s so frustrating because they thought I meant something other than what I did by what I said and I can’t get them to understand that’s not what I meant.

Oh, I completely understand this! I’ve had a couple friends with benefit dynamics and because they thought I was into them more than I was. It was frustrating because they just assigned these feelings to me that weren’t accurate. Wouldn’t listen to me when I told them, that’s not how deeply I feel. Then just cut it off. Lol which you know was annoying, but I didn’t care that deeply about them so I moved on pretty quick. However, it just felt stupid because you know they basically did it for no reason lol

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9 hours ago, Emmy-2300 said:

For me it is the being misunderstood/misinterpreted. My last dynamic ended due to this and it’s so frustrating because they thought I meant something other than what I did by what I said and I can’t get them to understand that’s not what I meant.

Yes it’s so frustrating! I’m on the outs with my FWB atm for the same reason

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September 5, Kit_Kinks said:

Yes it’s so frustrating! I’m on the outs with my FWB atm for the same reason

This is the exact reason I just went through divorce. She never took the time to understand what I was actually saying. Not what she heard. That was from a lack of effort to understand the issue. Always wanted instant change from me never understood it takes time to make meaningful change. We are wired different. Not wrong

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My biggest issue is that partners of neurospicy don’t realize what object permanence is. Just because I didn’t think about you doesn’t mean I don’t care. My brain just deletes what it needs to so it can work right now. Nothing personal.

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2 hours ago, harbard-b-nice said:

My biggest issue is that partners of neurospicy don’t realize what object permanence is. Just because I didn’t think about you doesn’t mean I don’t care. My brain just deletes what it needs to so it can work right now. Nothing personal.

Ahhh! This is definitely another big one I struggle with

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Hi I am neurodivergent as well. I'd say one struggle of mine is being percieved as an easy target. And I kind of make myself an easy target when I let stuff go over my head. But I'm definitely working on strengthening my boundaries and blocking/telling people off when need be.

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17 hours ago, miki_5866 said:

Hi I am neurodivergent as well. I'd say one struggle of mine is being percieved as an easy target. And I kind of make myself an easy target when I let stuff go over my head. But I'm definitely working on strengthening my boundaries and blocking/telling people off when need be.

Those are things I’m working on strengthening as well!

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AUDHD here hypersexual Super misunderstood completely Unknown and at a very complex crossroad in my life the last five years that keeps getting bigger