How To Not Trust

[Th****]

In my experience a lot of the people I have had long term relationships with have had walls that were not of the up or down variety.

They build a lot of walls in a multitude of layers, it is a successful defense. 

You get to show a little of your self at a time and get to judge how your partner deals with that before revealing more.

I would always be in favour of any partner of mine being cautious, as when we are first together they do not really know me.

So be wary, let those walls down bit by bit, it may seem like a lack of trust and that is fine. It is also an increased sense of self preservation and if some one cares about you they will respect that.

Take care all 

[Ju****]

3 hours ago, Tazzaby said:

It's sad that you feel this way jen but just remember you have friends x

This isn't my post, and I am not taking away from that.

 

This is my advice i can offer due to my experiences. I can relate to OP.

[pa****]

Don’t have an advice for your situation. But as I found myself in the same type of repeating situations over and over, I realized that I need therapy. To fix the way I build relationships because the way Ive been doing it just doesn’t work.

[Lu****]

I’m in the same pattern but it gotten less over the years as I use a mindtrick on myself. “If they don’t ask, don’t tell.”

As much as you might want to open up, people are generally not interested in who you are. If they are, they’ll ask.