Questions on Onlyfans and Dating

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Questions on Opinion of dating with an onlyfans or dating someone with an OF
1. Would you talk to someone with an OF?
2. if you wouldn’t talk to them is it because they are too public? Or because they seem unattractive because of the OF or even unattainable? Or another reason?
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1. How do you go about dating with an onlyfans?
2. Do you only look for something causal or something long term?
3. How hard is it to date with an OF?
4.Do you think there’s a bad stigma surrounding OF creators?
5. Did you tell your partner you had an OF at first or wait?

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[ge****]

Just because someone had an OF profile wouldn't bother me - how that person used their OF and how that impacted me might though.
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Ultimately though it's the person that would interest me not whether they have an OF profile or not.

[so****]

I mean personally I wouldn’t care because at the end of the day she’s getting paid for others to get off (she’s not the one getting them off) and at the end of the day I would be the one in her bed so yeah I wouldn’t mind

[Mr-Brown]

All this site has is the last ***y year or so is OF posts. "See my only fans for content" boring!

[ey****]

there's a couple of answers you might struggle to get on the grounds that - well, this site doesn't permit links to OF etc or for people to advertise theirs so there are very few creators on here.

I think in general some of my experiences and perspectives

I don't sell on OF (I have a dislike for the platform and their lack of 'customer service') but I have of course been filming for the past 6 years and set up my own stores 3 years ago.   

This has obviously allowed me to meet a lot of different people who have their own stories also.

A problem I have somewhat had, is that there are people I have spoken to about doing something (be it play, a date, whatever) who have felt that either (a) I would want them to film with me (I don't, unless they really wanted to) (b) they are not as 'pretty' as others I film with (comparison is the thief of joy) 

Another problem is that there have been a lot of people I have done stuff with, with a camera rolling - who have only really been interested in the sense of "making content" which isn't necessarily a terrible thing - but it's more like colleagues or co-workers.

I think there are some men who see ladies on OF as being 'easy' and often push them to "make content" (spoiler : you need IDs, release forms and should get certs if you're at all serious) or some form of challenge which is often a little gross and objectifying.

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I think some of the context is also what type of content and actions is the other person doing - like, are they filming with others (is this a problem for you) or are they doing stuff like flirting etc to keep people renewing (just wait til you hear what ladies in hospitality and retail do) 

[Do****]

I have dated two and helped a third get started.

[Ar****]

About a year and a half ago I spent three months shall we say "courting online" a fellow user from here who had an OF, which she was upfront about although I never visited it myself. We communicated a lot - messaged frequently throughout each day, had videochats while she was at work. Plans to meet up kept on falling through and ultimately it turned out (after some digging around) that she had been living with her fiancé for almost two years.

After that I used to talk with another user who had an OF, again chatting off this site although that was more of a friendship-thing.

In a similar vein, my last "proper" BF/GF relationship (around two years ago) was with somebody with a PH account for sharing her videos on; this didn't bother me either, as it had no bearing on our relationship.

None of my experiences have put me off, so my answer is yes I would happily talk to and/or date somebody with an OF. If they are able to separate what they do from their personal lives, there is no reason why I can't - and I didn't. 

[Sh****]

This is a great topic and I totally want to throw my 2p in

So, I helped a friend set up her OF account, and in doing so we figured it would be funny to set one up for me (I have 1 fan... don't laugh!)

OF is a revenue stream for some people. It's a job, like modelling or streaming.

That said, I'm also an exhibitionist and a bit of a perv. So if I was with someone who had an OF, knowing that she's got a load of people wanting her and lusting after her would just turn me on lol

[di****]

I'd talk to someone with an OF if it was already active when we started talking. I'd be unsure if I'd stay with someone if they decided they wanted to make one when we were already in a relationship unless it was a joint account

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9 minutes ago, Aranhis said:

About a year and a half ago I spent three months shall we say "courting online" a fellow user from here who had an OF, which she was upfront about although I never visited it myself. We communicated a lot - messaged frequently throughout each day, had videochats while she was at work. Plans to meet up kept on falling through and ultimately it turned out (after some digging around) that she had been living with her fiancé for almost two years.

After that I used to talk with another user who had an OF, again chatting off this site although that was more of a friendship-thing.

In a similar vein, my last "proper" BF/GF relationship (around two years ago) was with somebody with a PH account for sharing her videos on; this didn't bother me either, as it had no bearing on our relationship.

None of my experiences have put me off, so my answer is yes I would happily talk to and/or date somebody with an OF. If they are able to separate what they do from their personal lives, there is no reason why I can't - and I didn't. 

I agree- I was in a similar situation, basically turned out to be with somebody with a Ziggy Stardust complex, as I call it...trying to live up to an ego, I stead of remaining themselves-

[Mr-Brown]

I've talked to a few with OF and other content profiles. They always say I'm on OF but you don't have subscribe.

Few days later "hey wanna see more of me" subscribe to my OF" 🤦🏽

This is why I don't talk to anyone who is looking to market their content on here.

[Pl****]

In the past (prior to the existence of OF), I wouldn't have been interested in someone on OF. I'd say my sentiment at the time was slightly prudish, but probably more that the type of person I typically went for wouldn't have been the type to have an OF. While I'm still more interested in people that don't consider sex work, I'm now a bit more open-minded about who I'd consider dating. I actually like OF quite a bit more than most sex work, because it can more easily be something done in someone's spare time rather than a career. If a girl can make a few extra bucks by showing off to some poor simps, good for her. One of my coworkers actually suggested I get one, and once I thought about it, I realized I'd have done it too if I thought I could actually make some extra *** (but I doubt there's much of a market for dudes).

I think a lot of your questions are ultimately going to depend on more than just whether someone is on OF though, because there's a whole spectrum. Some people pretty much entirely normal people just making a few extra bucks on the side, and they'd be just like dating anyone else. Others are serious content creators who are all about making as much *** as possible, and while I appreciate the ambition, there are some potential pitfalls with people like that.

[Je****]

I personally find it distasteful and id not date someone who has one. Nor would i ever make one.
Its not for me in any shape or form

[do****]

I wouldn’t really care if someone had an only fans or not.

[XD****]

I have onlyfans...I've used it pre covid

.also just for fans...

[ey****]

A problem I've seen from some ladies is many will secure dates and be open about their jobs (whether online, in person, whatever) and the other person might get excited in a "ooh, Dominate me" kinda way or whatever

and that - it's not that ladies do not enjoy what they do/film just when it is their job for however many hours per week to then feel they have to do it with a partner is exhausting 

[Deleted Member]

That would depend on the person's ability to separate their job from personal life- then again I've delt with straight across the board-my-job-is-my-life; and if I could deal with it.

[XD****]

Well it's all about the intent... If a girl is an escort..and she's using onlyfans to screen her clients....or if she's a content creatorand uses onlyfans to monitize her material

[Mr-Brown]

34 minutes ago, Finally_Jen said:

I personally find it distasteful and id not date someone who has one. Nor would i ever make one.
Its not for me in any shape or form

It's not unique lol it's like if you're not on it it's more of a surprise these days It's so saturated!

And only maybe 1% are earning top dollars. 

It's nice to see someone against going on it :)

 

[Je****]

5 minutes ago, Mr-Brown said:

It's not unique lol it's like if you're not on it it's more of a surprise these days It's so saturated!

And only maybe 1% are earning top dollars. 

It's nice to see someone against going on it :)

 

Each to their own and all. But i personally dislike the *** aspect. 

If i wanted my looks or photographs to get *** and followers aye id join. 

But thats not what or who i am personally. 

*** doesnt phase me and i want a connection with people. I dont like the idea of people paying just to interact with or see me. 

 

But yeh. Each to their own. 

[ey****]

6 minutes ago, Mr-Brown said:

And only maybe 1% are earning top dollars. 

there's a lot of misguide on how much folk make, but, yep - of all the *** that goes into OF, the top 1% make 33% of it 

Certainly anyone who is outside the top 2-5% is probably going to need another income source

But then people are on there for different reasons and some (like, 1%) it's to be potentially an income and for others it can be away to diversify income (say, someone who works as a Pro Domme might make most of their income from real time sessions but make a supplementary income on OF) and for some it is a top up income (they possibly have a main job but it doesn't quite go far enough)

With the cost of living crisis we are probably going to see more people join there or similar - if someone was just-getting-by and finds their bills have gone up £50-£100 but their wages have not then it may well be something people consider and in their cases even a small amount would make a difference.

So, yeah, because of that there are an awful lot of people who are on it, have been on it, or are considering using it regardless of other motivations.

But like anything - does someone really have to be making the top dollars for something to be worthwhile? Whether it is the difference between them being able to cover bills or not - or - whether, actually, it's something they want to do for fun for some extra cash

Mind... I think if I did start playing or dating with someone who was on there or thinking about it... I might recommend other platforms instead

[Mr-Brown]

There's no more privacy anymore with these sites. If you want to see someone 🐱 it cost like $5. 

Also If I want to see naked people I use the other sites hub) which are free

Edited May 19, 2022 by Mr-Brown

[Ar****]

1) absolutely, it’s not like they’re not a real person with dreams, feelings and goals
2) I guess the feeling of them being a bit unattainable is a factor to be hesitant to start a conversation

[Yo****]

I don’t want anyone who shares their body like that with the rest of the world. Especially for ***. My partners body should be for my eyes only.