Too much information

[OT****]

Can you give out too much information on a profile? Personally I'd rather read at length what someone's into and their wants

[pu****]

I’d rather they put more than less, saves everyone a lot of time. (Ignore my very empty profile 😆)

[Deleted Member]

Hmm... No, I don't think you can?
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Information is a two-way street, the more you give, the more they learn, and the more they learn, the more they have to negotiate with.
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Plus, 'too much' information also adds to elimination, the more definitive you are with what you do want and what you require, the less wiggle room there is for what you don't, so, you're more or less vetting by proxy from the get-go...
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It's the subtle nuances that will make for all the difference I think; Is a Dominant type, a hard or soft actor within their role?
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Placing the details automatically removes anyone looking for the opposite, whereas, being nonspecific leaves that wiggle room open for misinterpretation...
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Just my thoughts... 👊

[OT****]

22 minutes ago, punsnbuns said:

I’d rather they put more than less, saves everyone a lot of time. (Ignore my very empty profile 😆)

I absolutely agree

[Deleted Member]

I think it's useful to give ideas of what you're after and who you are... And write enough for me to get a glimpse of who you are through you're writing.

I have lots of words but then, I like words.

[Deleted Member]

I think the more information you put, the better understanding the other person has of what you’re looking for. That way, if you find someone that is into the same things/kinks as you, you’re more inclined to talk to them.

[Deleted Member]

Sigh *your

[br****]

My profile has a bunch of gobly gooc in it. I like to write n I have a lot of stories. I still think it's better to have it than not? I definitely need to "clean it up" though.

[DeviantInside]

My tuppence (no idea if that's worth more or less than 2 cents these days but that's by the by).

I've been on and off various online kink dating sites since the late 90's (I both started young and am now apparently old... not sure how that happened). And what I have found almost universally is that the more I put into a profile the more I get out of it. My personality, my kinks, perhaps other interests, even some purile attempts at humour. It helps give the prospective reader some insight into who I am. I'm also not going to be everyone's cup of hot beverage of choice so it helps save us both time there too. My profile isn't set up to try to appeal to any and everyone, just to show something of who I am so people can decide if they want to engage with me or not.

Admittedly I do have a tendency to write walls of text so anyone who actually manages to read through the whole thing is also very likely a masochist, so that's a good sign too.

[Deleted Member]

Hmm... No, I don't think you can?
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Information is a two-way street, the more you give, the more they learn, and the more they learn, the more they have to negotiate with.
.
Plus, 'too much' information also adds to elimination, the more definitive you are with what you do want and what you require, the less wiggle room there is for what you don't, so, you're more or less vetting by proxy from the get-go...
.
It's the subtle nuances that will make for all the difference I think; Is a Dominant type, a hard or soft actor within their role?
.
Placing the details automatically removes anyone looking for the opposite, whereas, being nonspecific leaves that wiggle room open for misinterpretation...
.
Just my thoughts... 👊

[jw****]

Information? No, can’t have too much. Words or tangents? Yes. You can use too many words. Yes. You can go on too many tangents. Example, Deviantinside, couldn’t get past your SECOND set of parentheses before you got to the first actual point. I just skipped the whole thing. It’s like a story from grandpa Simpson.

[Deleted Member]

I definitely prefer more then less. I’ve actually suggested some hit up someone else because I knew they were better suited all because of what they had on their profile.

[Deleted Member]

From what I remember there was some informal study on a regular dating site which basically said, if you're average attractiveness you should have more info but if you're highly above average you should have less. The reasoning is that once sufficient physical attraction is there people will sort of imagine their own preferences in you and you're better off not breaking the fantasy(again assuming you only want maximum replies).

Not saying everyone has the same preferences physically but there are definite general types that apply to most people. 

 

[Deleted Member]

Make a short snappy start, cover everything in 1 paragraph.
Then have more detail below. That way potential partners / friends can read it once they know there is something in common.

[DarkArts1066]

Clearly I wouldn’t recommend putting your real name, address and phone number on your profile - for every nutter to see, but a profile provides a blueprint…. A starting point for the exchange of information, and interests, and so the more you give to begin with, the wider the net of interest is cast. From that point, it’s a process of filtering.

On any site, you will always encounter people who are not for you. That is a given.

Some people believe that by drip feeding information to those they search for and find themselves, they weed those ‘undesirables’ out.
I personally believe that the opposite is true, and that approach can vector in the crazies.

It’s a matter of personal preference, but a full profile also shows a commitment - of sorts, to wanting to be on the site in question, and actually finding someone.

If a profile has a few lines, and no pic, I am much more likely to pass it by.

On the subject of photos -
Think.
Think about what you post. A blurry, out of focus shot of your cat tells me that you probably have a cat. Nothing more.

Likewise, endless landscapes……. So you are an accomplished photographer, lovely.
But, being an intelligent sort, I’m now going to spend more time considering what that picture of the Suffolk Coastline means to you, than I am about who you actually are… so no. Don’t do it.

Finally - be yourself.
There are a lot of highly intelligent and intuitive people on here - all with fully functioning bullshit detectors…. And the ‘report’ button is just a few taps away.

Time for another cup of tea, and an English muffin…..

I wonder - should I post a picture of the muffin on my profile ?

[Lo****]

I  much prefer reading a long profile to get a good idea about the person. When I’m actively looking, mine is very long and detailed.

Edited June 18, 2022 by Lockfairy

[OT****]

56 minutes ago, Lockfairy said:

I  much prefer reading a long profile to get a good idea about the person. When I’m actively looking, mine is very long and detailed.

I agree, DIY and angle grinders. Don't suppose you're any good at putting up shelves?

[OT****]

11 hours ago, DarkArts1066 said:

Clearly I wouldn’t recommend putting your real name, address and phone number on your profile - for every nutter to see, but a profile provides a blueprint…. A starting point for the exchange of information, and interests, and so the more you give to begin with, the wider the net of interest is cast. From that point, it’s a process of filtering.

On any site, you will always encounter people who are not for you. That is a given.

Some people believe that by drip feeding information to those they search for and find themselves, they weed those ‘undesirables’ out.
I personally believe that the opposite is true, and that approach can vector in the crazies.

It’s a matter of personal preference, but a full profile also shows a commitment - of sorts, to wanting to be on the site in question, and actually finding someone.

If a profile has a few lines, and no pic, I am much more likely to pass it by.

On the subject of photos -
Think.
Think about what you post. A blurry, out of focus shot of your cat tells me that you probably have a cat. Nothing more.

Likewise, endless landscapes……. So you are an accomplished photographer, lovely.
But, being an intelligent sort, I’m now going to spend more time considering what that picture of the Suffolk Coastline means to you, than I am about who you actually are… so no. Don’t do it.

Finally - be yourself.
There are a lot of highly intelligent and intuitive people on here - all with fully functioning bullshit detectors…. And the ‘report’ button is just a few taps away.

Time for another cup of tea, and an English muffin…..

I wonder - should I post a picture of the muffin on my profile ?

I whole heartily agree with everything you say

[Deleted Member]

From my experience of speaking to women (who date men) there is a perception that if we’ve “written an essay” then it’s an indicator we’re bores or narcissists. Luckily
I’m both and don’t care who knows it 😛

[Lo****]

11 hours ago, OTK4ME said:

I agree, DIY and angle grinders. Don't suppose you're any good at putting up shelves?

My speciality is putting up shelves that are just a tiny bit out of true.

[Lo****]

1 hour ago, ariana_grandad said:

From my experience of speaking to women (who date men) there is a perception that if we’ve “written an essay” then it’s an indicator we’re bores or narcissists. Luckily
I’m both and don’t care who knows it 😛

If the essay is boring and narcissistic, then yes.

Some of the nicest men I’ve met on here have long, interesting, detailed “essays“ that give a flavour of their experience, attitudes and philosophy of life. They’re not boring at all.

[ey****]

there is a big difference between "information" and "writing an essay"

I've seen profiles which are unnecessarily long.  I've also seen them which are long but flow well.  Then also those that are short but have good/sufficient information. 

[OT****]

11 hours ago, Lockfairy said:

My speciality is putting up shelves that are just a tiny bit out of true.

Spirit level maybe 😉

[Lo****]

2 hours ago, OTK4ME said:

Spirit level maybe 😉

Quite useless on a boat 😂

[Deleted Member]

I personally would rather read more. It gives me a greater insight into someones character, as well as sexuality.