Which one?

[Deleted Member]

Thers alot of bdsm site ou there but thers only 2 i found to be worth it one is fetlife and the other one is this app itself which one do you guys think its better? Fetlife or this?

[RainbowCollar]

Fetish for sure

[ge****]

They're two entirely different things and so can't be compared - they are both good resources though

[do****]

This is just my opinion, but while FetLife is nice, "I had it for the last couple years" I ended up deleting it because I found myself not finding very many people to chat with or meet with. And if I had a meet planned 90% of them flaked on me. Not that I'm expecting this app to be much different. I suppose I just decided to try a new avenue with this app

[bi****]

different things TBH. There used to be InformedConsent and CollarMe.

[Deleted Member]

How are they completly different?

[Lord_Talion]

Fetlife ain't worth much, fetish is on the up, thecage is good, collarspace is OK, vanilla umbrella is basic, alt is crap, and there's a ton of kinky ppl on okcupid.

[AKA_Copper]

18 minutes ago, dunfermline572 said:

How are they completly different?

Fet is more of a community I think with the chat rooms and forums. It also allows you to filter more extensively whose able to message you and who you see in your area
Fetlife feels larger, less monitored for fakes etc if i report someone here, it gets dealt with and Fet lets you know the outcome. That's not necessarily true on FL.
FL however lets you know about munches/events and it seems more populated. I'm more likely to get harrased on FL than I am here so whilst I'm there, i tend to lurk rather than be active on it

[ey****]

there's pros and cons on both

I think there could be a massive tipping point if more event organisers listed on here

[Deleted Member]

7 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

there's pros and cons on both

I think there could be a massive tipping point if more event organisers listed on here

And more adminis cleared out the fakes, onlyfan advertisers and pretenders.

[ey****]

4 minutes ago, captain-kink said:

And more adminis cleared out the fakes, onlyfan advertisers and pretenders.

So, advertising OnlyFans is strictly forbidden on here.  But is completely permitted on Fetlife

which has it right is down to personal interpretation 

this site is generally a lot quicker at dealing with fakes and catfish also. 

'Pretenders' is subjective and gets rather gatekeepery 

[AKA_Copper]

8 minutes ago, captain-kink said:

And more adminis cleared out the fakes, onlyfan advertisers and pretenders.

I think the Mods/Admins here do a really good job. Often I go into my inbox to see a new msg from someone they've already identified as questionable and blocked whilst they're questioning their identity.

[Deleted Member]

Fetlife is not very good. I found it hard to navigate and the options limited

[Deleted Member]

Between this app And fetlife are good apps

Unfortunately never works for me no matter how detailed my bio is or messages to people are I never get a bite lol cheers and luck !

[Deleted Member]

36 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

I think the Mods/Admins here do a really good job. Often I go into my inbox to see a new msg from someone they've already identified as questionable and blocked whilst they're questioning their identity.

I agree, we just need more

[ge****]

1 hour ago, OhBuddha said:

Fetlife is not very good. I found it hard to navigate and the options limited

It depends what you're using FetLife for - if it's to meet people then it's not really geared up towards that - but for finding out about events, expqnding your knowledge, specific subjects and local stuff it's very good, though it can be a little "Wild West" too

[DeviantInside]

I'm on fetlife, which has been good for finding munches and events, I used to use alt for a long time (since it started in 1997) but not used it in a while. I'm mostly just on here really these days. I'll admit this site has been the most proactive at shutting down the spam accounts etc. And the forums here are pretty good, not so much of a fan of the chat rooms here as there is a choice of two... one overcrowded (in my opinion) so can be hard to keep up with chat or get involved if you're not already a known regular (which I admit I don't have the time or inclination for), and one that's pretty much empty. But that's just my opinion and with the free time I currently have, I'm sure that other people will have had positive experiences on it.

[Deleted Member]

Neither cause you got women posting on here that they are looking for a Dom blah blah blah what they want you to do to them and treat them. So you start talking to one and their personality doesn’t even match their profile. They got drama, don’t wanna meet up, they wanna be F’ing penpals, oh I just met you I wanna get to know you better before we talk on phone or video chat or go out….Bishes be playin games up on these apps. Don’t say you want something if you really don’t I ain’t got time for games. Unless you are ready to put you *** where your mouth is stay the F off these apps. Lets be 100% honest people on these apps and trying to wait weeks or months just to talk or video over the phone, hell what gonna play someone for a year before you finally me….GTFOH

[Deleted Member]

SRY but just being honest and only my opinion that for some it’s all talk and no action

[AKA_Copper]

1 hour ago, DaddyUSMC said:

Neither cause you got women posting on here that they are looking for a Dom blah blah blah what they want you to do to them and treat them. So you start talking to one and their personality doesn’t even match their profile. They got drama, don’t wanna meet up, they wanna be F’ing penpals, oh I just met you I wanna get to know you better before we talk on phone or video chat or go out….Bishes be playin games up on these apps. Don’t say you want something if you really don’t I ain’t got time for games. Unless you are ready to put you *** where your mouth is stay the F off these apps. Lets be 100% honest people on these apps and trying to wait weeks or months just to talk or video over the phone, hell what gonna play someone for a year before you finally me….GTFOH

People can only hide this type of attitude for so long. This is why many of us wait it out before video chatting/sharing numbers/meeting IRL.
Only my opinion

[ra****]

There are no real women on this site at all.....only fake, and women that want ***....

But a real women....nahhhh they don't exist on this site...

[Deleted Member]

This one ☝️

[TxFrank]

You're missing out. Alt is great for bdsm play dates as well. Honestly, I prefer Fetlife for its accessibility to the local events. That being said, I did meet my current Domme here. I met my late wife on Collarme. So it's really just how you use them and your luck, or skill, with your intended audience.

[Ch****]

Fetlife is like kinky facebook. It’s mostly for people who are already active in the community and know a lot of people in real life. My advice, go to actual munches and kinky events. That’s the best way to meet kinksters and find partners.

[po****]

This site sucks in my opinion